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Instagram’s newest safety tool

July 13, 2017 in Social Media Guide

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Photo Credit: vastateparksstaff Flickr via Compfight cc

Last year Instagram introduced a new feature that allows users to turn off comments on individual Instagram posts, as well as allow users to block posts with certain words.  Now the social media company has recently created two more tools to help keep Instagram “a safe place for self-expression.”  One of these is a tool that blocks offensive comments.  This comment filter will block certain offensive comments (such as harassing comments) on posts, as well as in live videos.  This comment filter will not block other non-offensive comments, and still allows you to report or delete comments.  Also, you can still turn off comments, if you wish.  The offensive comments are hidden from everyone except the person responsible who made the offensive comment.  You can reverse or modify these comment settings at any time.

Instagram Safety Feature

To use this comment filter:

  1. Go to your profile and tap  (iOS) or  (Android) in the top right
  2. Tap Comments (located under Settings)
  3. Tap next to Hide Inappropriate Comments to filter comments using a default list of keywords (or enter custom keywords separated by commas below Custom Keywords)
  4. Tap Done

The second tool is a spam filter, which was developed to wipe spam-like comments from posts and videos.

What do you think of Instagram’s newest added feature?  Have you ever used any of these features on your Instagram?  We’d love to hear!

Photos of an Anxiety Disorder

July 11, 2017 in Educate Yourself

We found this article called “12 Breathtaking Photos Show What It’s Really Like To Have General Anxiety Disorder” and we think it’s amazing that someone so beautifully created art around how an anxiety disorder feels.  From the article: “Trying to explain a mental illness to someone who’s never experienced it is like trying to explain color to a blind person,” said photographer Katie Crawford.  Crawford has battled an anxiety disorder since age 11, so she picked up her camera and developed a breathtaking series of self-portraits, titled “My Anxious Heart.”

KATIE CRAWFORD MY ANXIOUS HEART PHOTOS ANXIETY DISORDER ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED ON JULY 1, 2015, 8:00 AM

KATIE CRAWFORD MY ANXIOUS HEART PHOTOS ANXIETY DISORDER
ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED ON JULY 1, 2015, 8:00 AM

Did any of the images particularly stand out to you?  Did they help you understand anxiety disorders more? What does anxiety look like to you?  We’d love to hear from you!

Instant comfort! In a box!

July 10, 2017 in Be Positive

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Photo credit: Flikr via Gregorio Puga Balion

When you’re feeling blue, wouldn’t it be great to reach into your pocket and pull out a little comfort?  Well you’re in luck!  Try this little DIY “comfort box” craft.

What you’ll need:

A small empty cardboard box (like a match box or jewelry box)

Markers, paint, pens

Decorations (glitter, magazine clippings, little photos)

Scissors

A positive message

 

Directions

1.  Decorate the outside of your box with things that make you happy (glitter, magazine clippings, photos, drawings)

2.  Inside the box, write a positive message to yourself like “You’re worthy.” or “You can do this.” or “Everything will be okay in the end.  If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.”  If you prefer, you can use a favorite quote like “We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated” – Maya Angelou.  Also, try giving yourself some self-love with a message like “Today I want you to think about all that you are instead of all that you are not.”

3.  Put it in your pocket and take it out when you need a little boost

There are a bunch of these on Pinterest and Etsy for sale (and inspiration)!

Share your work with us!  What messages do you use to help get you through the day?

Therapist and Friend: Kati Morton

June 30, 2017 in LINKS

“A process, not perfection” -Kati Morton

Kati Morton is a licensed therapist that uses her YouTube channel to provide advice and support to subscribers.  Every week she posts new videos and answers questions about mental health.  Her videos are great resources to find correct information on mental illness.  Kati provides fun tips for improving mental health and working through every day challenges.

Did you check out her channel?  Did you have any favorite videos?  If so, which ones?  If you have any comments, please let us know!    

Also subscribe to our YouTube channel!    

The Accidental Bully: Has This Ever Happened To You?

June 29, 2017 in Social Media Guide

Have you ever heard of accidental bullying?  Accidental bullying is a term that was created by Sue Scheff.  It means when someone unintentionally (or not on purpose) hurts another person’s feelings.  To learn more about accidental bullying, read Sue’s article in HuffPost and watch the video below!

She thought it was silly and shared the joke with her friends.  But now it’s ruined a young man’s reputation.

Have you ever been an accidental bully? or accidentally bullied someone else?  

Summer Reading List

June 23, 2017 in LINKS

Summer is finally here, and for many this may mean months of sleeping late, hanging out with friends, vacationing, and continuous streaming of movies and television shows.  However, it can also mean finding a good book (or two) to read!  Plus, summer reading can also be beneficial!  It allows us to maintain structure and keep a pattern during the busy summer months.  Setting aside time to read is extremely important since keeping up with summer reading is needed and hugely beneficial for students.  For example, we would all expect our favorite athlete or musician to suffer if they didn’t practice for months!  Therefore, we have put together a list of suggested books to try reading this summer.  We encourage you to find the time to sit down with a good book and turn off all electronic devices.  Lastly, try looking into learning programs in your area.  Most public libraries, clubs or communities offer summer reading programs (or other educational activities) to students of all ages.

  1. I’ll Give You the Sun by Jandy Nelson
  2. It’s Kind of a Funny Story by Ned Vizzini
  3. The 6 Most Important Decisions You’ll Ever Make: A Guide for Teens by Sean Covey

    Photo Credit: Florin Gorgan Flickr via Compfight cc

    Photo Credit: Florin Gorgan Flickr via Compfight cc

  4. The Healthy Coping Colouring Book and Journal: Creative Activities to Help Manage Stress, Anxiety and Other Big Feelings by Pooky Knightsmith
  5. The Girl Project by Kate Engelbrecht
  6. Be the One: Six True Stories of Teens Overcoming Hardship with Hope by Byron Pitt
  7. Wonder by RJ Palacio
  8. Start Where You Are: A Journal for Self-Exploration by Meera Lee Patel
  9. Depression: A Teen’s Guide to Survive and Thrive by Jacqueline Toner and Claire Freeland
  10. Fake Plastic Love by Kimberley Tait
  11. 52 Lists for Happiness: Weekly Journaling Inspiration for Positivity, Balance, and Joy by Moorea Seal
  12. Freaking Out: Real-life Stories About Anxiety by Polly Wells and Peter Mitchell
  13. My Life Undecided by Jessica Brody
  14. 101 Ways to Conquer Teen Anxiety: Simple Tips, Techniques and Strategies for Overcoming Anxiety, Worry and Panic Attacks by Thomas McDonagh and Patrick Hatcher
  15. Trouble in My Head: A Young Girl’s Fight with Depression by Mathilde Monaque
  16. Boy Meets Depression: Or Life Sucks and Then You Live by Kevin Breel
  17. YOU: The Owner’s Manual for Teens by Michael F. Roisen and Mehmet C. Oz
  18. All The Lives I Want: Essays About My Best Friends Who Happen To Be Famous Strangers by Alana Massey
  19. Startup by Doree Shafrir
  20. The Manifesto on How to be Interesting by Holly Bourne

For more book recommendations:

If you’re not keen on reading or plan on being in the car a lot this summer, try audiobooks (more recommendations here)!

Do you like to read during the summer?  Have you read any of the suggested books?  Do you have any book recommendations of your own?  We’d love to hear from you!

13 Reasons Why

June 21, 2017 in Educate Yourself

Trigger Warning: Discussion about Suicide

By now you’ve most likely heard about Netflix’s 13 Reasons Why (13RW). It is a very captivating show, but also raises questions about whether the creators did the right thing in the way they used a television show to talk about suicide and rape or sexual assault. The show is about a girl in high school (Hannah Baker) – who is bullied, sexually assaulted, and eventually commits suicide.  She leaves behind 13 tapes (or 13 reasons) as a sort of revenge to the people she thought wronged her and who were ultimately responsible for her decision to end her life. It is possible this show will shed light on some very difficult and important topics, but unfortunately, it also has the possibility to cause harm.

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Photo Credit: Portal Dylan Minnette Flickr via Compfight cc

Why might 13 Reasons Why be harmful?:

  • We know that if teens are familiar with a lot of details or witness a suicide, this can lead to “copycat” behavior – the scenes in 13RW are very graphic – and there is report in Peru that this has unfortunately happened to a young man.
  • Suicide is not a straight forward subject – TV shows can fantasize life – and in 13RW a teen might get the idea that they can get revenge on others through suicide – but this is not real life.
  • The graphic scenes in 13RW of sexual assault can be very upsetting to someone who has been assaulted themselves and they may be re-traumatized (when a person relives a trauma and experiences their reaction again).
  • In 13RW, Hannah makes a last-ditch effort to talk to a counselor, who is extremely unhelpful – however, we know that in real life, guidance counselors receive special training on what to do when someone talks about suicide. In all professions, some people are not very good at their job – but even in these cases, there is always someone to go to for help. See our crisis links for more information on who to contact.

While 13RW might help raise awareness about suicide and sexual assault, at SOVA we feel the risks of copycat suicide (and other risks) are too high. If you get the chance to watch the follow-up episode, 13 Reasons Why: Beyond the Reasons, it does a good job at addressing some of the concerns we mentioned above.

Also, help should not be hard for viewers to find.  Vulnerable adolescents and young adults may need additional support and resources after watching the show.  They are encouraged to reach out to any trusted adult such as a parent, counselor, teacher, or doctor.  There is also a list of adolescent health providers on the Society for Adolescent Health and Medicine’s website.  Lastly, crisis hotline numbers can be found by clicking here.

Have you watched the series? What are your thoughts? If you have any questions or comments about the subject of today’s blog post, please let us know!  We’d love to hear from you!

Power of the Wonder Woman Stance

June 19, 2017 in Be Positive

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Picture this: a thirty-something woman in business-casual attire standing with her hands on her hips, feet spread slightly more than shoulder-width apart, chest puffed out, chin up, flashing a fantastic grin, her hair blowing just perfectly (okay maybe not the last one) in a bathroom stall.

What?

Research has shown than assuming one of these “power poses” for a few minutes can boost self-esteem.  A TED Talk by Amy Cuddy, social psychologist, argues that “power posing” — or standing in a confident position (regardless of how we feel) — can increase confidence, and might impact our success.

See the TED talk here: Your body language shapes who you are

Try it!  Did it make you feel more confident? Share with us in the comment section below!

Internet Stranger

June 15, 2017 in Social Media Guide

Although the internet can be a great place to learn, connect, and meet people from all over the world, it is important to watch for warning signs and take preventative measures.

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Photo Credit: Akshay Hallur Flickr via Compfight cc

  • Never give out personal or identifying information to people you don’t know, especially if they are persistent
  • Always be careful about things you say or pictures you post, because you never know who is on the other end
  • Never give out your passwords
  • Try “googling” yourself to see what comes up. Is there any identifiable information tied to your name.  For example, where you go to school, home address, or a phone number? If so, you may need to contact the owner or manager of the site to take it down.

We would love to hear your advice about interacting with strangers on the internet! Let us know in the comments.

Asking questions about your health

June 14, 2017 in Educate Yourself

Being a young person is full of changes, and some of these changes may lead you to having questions about your health.

You might wonder whether the things you’re feeling, thinking or experiencing physically are normal.  Oftentimes to get answers to the questions we have, we search the Internet.  It’s nice because it’s so convenient and fast.  Also you don’t have to share with anyone what you’re looking up – so no embarrassment! Right?

But do you really find the answers you’re looking for?  Here’s an example of when using the Internet to look for answers can go wrong. Let’s say you feel a lump on your neck.  Maybe there was a Dr. Oz episode about diagnosing tumors early.  You begin to wonder if it’s a tumor. You look it up online and see all kinds of possible scary cancers!  Keeping these thoughts and online research to yourself can make you really stressed!  The fortunate truth is most young people who find a lump on their neck will not have cancer.  So how do you get your health questions answered accurately without getting stressed out?

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Photo Credit: irfanherdyato Flickr via Compfight cc

You should know that a trusted adult can be more helpful – they most likely have had similar experiences and can help you think it through – and if they don’t know the answer, you can always talk to your doctor or a health professional. Here’s some advice about how to talk to adults about your health!

Also as teenagers get older, it can be important to begin having some independence in regards to your health.  Try talking to your parents about becoming more independent during your doctor visits.  Listed below are a few steps from the University of Michigan on how teenagers can become more independent during their checkups:

  • Before an appointment write down any health problems or questions you have.
  • Upon arriving at a doctor’s visit, check yourself in at the registration desk and complete the forms to the best of your ability.
  • During the visit, speak with your doctor directly and ask any questions.
  • Ask for time alone with the doctor without your parent in the room.

Do you have any other suggestions or stories about talking to a trusted adult or medical professional about your health or about becoming more health independent?  We would love to hear!