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Having a #RealConvo

May 3, 2019 in LINKS

icon-3154240_1280This month is Mental Health Awareness Month. Even though the conversations about mental health, mental illness, and breaking down the stigma have continued to increase and become more mainstream, there is still a long way to go.

As a result, organizations are using May to spread awareness and the importance of mental health and checking in with yourself to see how you’re doing. The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention’s goal for the month is to inspire people to become more blunt and honest with each other about mental health and mental illness, specifically when it comes to suicide, that is to say, have a #RealConvo.

You can find a bunch of resources and activities if you go to their #RealConvo page. For example, they have videos with AFSP volunteers about various topics, such as personal stories, advice, and the importance of why having these conversations are important. The Read section features all kinds of stories and how-to guides, from ways to ask for help from others to advice on how to talk to someone who has suicidal thoughts, which was written by someone who has suicidal thoughts themselves. These are all done to show the reality of living with and knowing others with mental illnesses and those who have a personal story with suicide and how to start the conversation to make us all feel a little less alone.

The page also features ways you can volunteer or spread the word around in your own community and a list of additional resources.


Have you ever had a #RealConvo? How did it go? What advice do you have about starting a conversation about heavier topics like mental illness and suicide? Are there questions you have yourself about how to start a conversation?

What do Social Media Stats Mean to You?

May 2, 2019 in Social Media Guide

Chances are, you’ve probably been guilty of caring about how well your posts are doing if you’re on social media. There’s just something so satisfying about seeing the number of views, likes, and comments build up, especially in the first few minutes of a post going live.

There are several reasons why we feel like this when we get notifications. For one thing, it can validate us, feeling that whatever we posted is of good quality and any work we put in it paid off. game-figure-598036_1920That surge of validation may be even stronger if the likes we get are from people we admire, like, or rarely see engagement from. This can also make us feel like we’re being “accepted” and give us a sense of belonging with whoever and what types of people see and like the content we create and put up. Our brains may respond to these notifications the same way they do when we get rewarded or praised for something, which then in turn makes us feel happy.

Of course, there is a negative side to that though: we may rely on waiting for those certain likes or craving validation, which can then make us rely on posting more or using other people’s views and likes as a source for our positive feelings. For those with mental illnesses, or even just as a person with the human desire for belonging and being wanted by others, not getting that attention may make us feel like we’re disliked, unwanted, and neglected.background-3644014_1280

Along with increasing that need for validation and belonging, the rewarding feeling we get from seeing social media statistics also happens when we compare ourselves to other people’s posts. It may be a friend, family member, or even an influencer or celebrity with a large following, but it’s natural for us to want to compare our statistics with theirs, and possibly even feel competitive, using those who are popular as a reference or as a goal.

Instagram has been rumored this week to reduce that negative, competitive feeling by removing the ability to see the total number of likes on other people’s posts. While you can still see the specific number of people who have liked your own content, you can only see that people have liked other ones, but not specifically who or how many. A spokesperson for Instagram has denied these rumors, but they did say that they are trying to come up with ways to decrease the pressure of numbers and statistics on the social media site.

While it may not be true now, the way we use and treat social media may change if Instagram and other social media sites begin to hide other people’s social media stats. We may not feel like we need to meet the standards of other people because of how well their posts are doing, but may also put more pressure on ourselves to get as many notifications as possible since our own posts are the only ones we can see, and may end up competing with ourselves.


Do you find yourself caring a lot about your social media stats? What do you think of the rumored Instagram change? Do you compare yourself to others on social media sites?

Sports and Their Effects on Mental Health

May 1, 2019 in Educate Yourself

You’ve probably heard it before: exercise and moving around can do a lot for your mental health. It’s a great form of stress relief, helps get your mind off of things, and of course, has benefitsdavid-tran-484920-unsplash for your physical health too.

One way of getting physically active are through school and club sports. Organized teams like football, soccer, volleyball (the list can go on and on and on) are an easy way to do this. There’s a social aspect as well, because it gives you the opportunity to interact with peers who share an interest in that sport too.

There is a lot of evidence supporting just how great playing sports can be for adolescent mental health. This is particularly true in boys, specifically finding that depression rates are lower for those who play sports. Studies have also shown that those who play sports find their coaches and/or their parents to be key isaiah-rustad-1073714-unsplashsupportive individuals in their lives and that they have a strong desire to help those who may be struggling with their mental health. Bonds are strong with those who play sports together and general team participation in sports have been found to have antidepressant effects.

Even with all this information, however, the rates of of anxiety and depression among scholastic athletes have increased in the past decade. Organizations and colleges have started to take note, and are trying to spread awareness on the issue.

The reasons for the spike supports the theories that younger generations have been experiencing more intensive and increased pressures to meet massimo-sartirana-562839-unsplashnearly impossible standards. That is, adolescents and young adults today are told that in order to succeed, they have to be “perfect” at something, and the best way to do that is to start it early and engage in activities related to it as much as possible. In the case of sports, adolescents may be training for tons of hours during the week, having a monitored and strict diet, and losing sleep to train as much as possible.

The treatment of student athletes as “professionals” can very easily lead to exhaustion, not physically, but mentally as well. Student athletes’ lives aren’t all about the sports – as the name suggests, they’re students as well. Spending tons of time training means that they have less time do to do homework and travelling for william-iven-22451-unsplashgames can take away valuable studying time.

This is especially difficult for the adolescent brain. We talked last week about how the adolescent brain has a lot of plasticity, and because it is still developing, can be affected by extreme situations and stress. Adolescents can be severely affected by the pressures that their coaches, parents, and even their own brain places on them, which can then in turn affect their mental health to a more extreme level.

Playing sports has an outstanding effect on physical health and well-being, but going too far can actually cause a lot of damage. The same thing can happen to your mental health too, so it’s important to be careful and check-in as much as possible to see how you’re feeling both mentally and physically.


Do or did you play sports? What was your experience like? Did you find support in your teammates or coaches? Was mental health discussed? Share your experiences below!

What Exactly is CBT?

April 30, 2019 in Educate Yourself

Depression is considered one of the most commonly diagnosed mental disorders in children. In 2016, 3.2% of children aged 3-17 years (approximately 1.9 million) had diagnosed depression. Depression is also the most common health problem for college students. In 2017, out of all adults with a major depressive episode, the age group with the highest prevalence of 13.1% was young adults aged 18-25.

A gold standard treatment for depression is cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT. CBT is based on the principle that psychological problems arise from negative thinking, which leads to negative feelings and behaviors, and eventually to distorted views of the world and themselves. For example, if someone was not invited to a birthday party, he might interpret it as, “They don’t like me.” This negative thought may trigger more negative thoughts, and he may start to think, “I’ll never be invited to parties because no one will ever like me.” These thoughts may bring about feelings of hopelessness and affect his behavior to be more isolated. CBT helps people to detect the distorted thinking that started this cycle and reframe it in a more healthy and realistic manner.

One of the ways that CBT does this is to have you track your mood before and after certain activities. This helps you to understand the effects that certain events have on your emotions. CBT board-3700116_1920helps you to detect thoughts that triggered these emotions and challenge them. This can help you change the way you feel in certain situations and enable to change your behavior in the future. Another skill that you may learn is relaxing your mind, by deep breathing or deep muscle relaxation, which helps to calm you when you feel stressed. The result of practicing all these techniques through CBT is that you start thinking more positively and get better at regulating your mood.

Reaping the benefits of CBT to have healthy thoughts and behaviors takes practice. This practice takes place in sessions, which can occur a few times a week for a few months. Practicing these skills in your daily life helps you to apply what you learn in CBT to the real world.

priscilla-du-preez-1528253-unsplashIn addition to CBT, it is important to schedule “fun time” to keep yourself busy and involved in activities that boost your mood, to enhance what you learn from therapy sessions. Playing sports, going for a bike ride, or walking the dog help to prevent negative behaviors that might result from feeling lonely or isolated. Doing activities with other people that you have enjoyed in the past reminds you of the support you have, and doing activities that help others makes you feel good about, and think positively toward, yourself.

A first step to recovery from depression is to recognize the distorted thoughts and triggers in your environment that bring about negative feelings and behaviors. CBT can equip you with the skills to detect these thoughts and build resilience to them in your daily life, making you a stronger, happier, and healthier person. However, CBT alone may not be for everyone, and some may need medication or other treatments either in addition to, or instead of, CBT. It is important to talk to your primary care doctor to see if CBT is right for you.


Have you had CBT before? What was your experience like? Do you know anyone else who has gone through CBT? If you have never had CBT before, is it something you think you would like to try? Share your thoughts and experiences below!

This SOVA blog post was based off an article from Lindsey Giller in U.S. News & World Report, “What to Expect From CBT for Childhood Depression.” To access the original post, check it out here.

How to Use Free Time to Fuel Positivity

April 29, 2019 in Be Positive

As the school year winds down (or you may have very recently finished), you may find yourself thinking about how much free time you have coming up. Of course, this can be a great thing: youlaura-pratt-536001-unsplash have some time where you’re not burdened by homework and assignments and for possibly the first time in a while, you aren’t restricted to a Monday-Friday schedule. It can also be stressful, and a lack of structure and schedule can actually increase symptoms of anxiety, especially for students on summer vacation.

Of course, this isn’t to say that you have to book summer classes or stay in an academic headspace year-round (that can be anxiety-inducing too!). charles-651959-unsplashStudies have found that leisurely activities increase mental health benefits, and the results are stronger when they provide some sort of daily structure during long breaks or stretches of time. These may even have greater effects if these leisure activities help put you in a positive mood and are meant to increase happiness.

Not everyone’s summer is the same, and with a lack of structure, things can change everyday. Here are a couple of suggestions to add some sort of schedule depending on how much time you have to yourself on a regular basis to help ease any anxiety that may occur from feeling like you have nothing yet everything to do. These shouldn’t be treated as set schedules, since summer is unpredictable, but even doing the same sort of activity around the same time a couple of times of week can help give you a sense of a routine.

book-2389229_1280If you have 5 minutes a day…
You can fill out a gratitude prompt or take the time to do some brief meditation and deep breathing. We’ve talked about both before if you need an app or any other references.

If you have an hour a day…travel-1962318_1280
You can take the time to do some sort of physical activity. It could be something like going to a class at the gym or your local rec center, or even putting up a cycle of Youtube videos about yoga, lifting dumbbells, or whatever you have on hand. If you can’t or don’t want to be super active, you can also use this time to go for a walk outside.

donut-2916292_1920If you have the whole day…
You can do everything listed above! If you’re able to, however, you can block out the same time every day to read a book, block out another chunk of time later that to explore a new, relaxing hobby (think knitting or baking), and you can even schedule time to dedicate to watching videos online. If you live in a city or an area with a lot of places to explore, you can dedicate a couple of hours a day by going somewhere new or trying a new coffee shop.


Do you have any plans for the summer? How do you feel about giving yourself some sort of schedule over the summer? Do you notice your mood or mental health changing during long breaks?

An App to Consider: Happify

April 26, 2019 in LINKS

We recently talked about apps that incorporate stretching of both the mental and physical variety. While both have shown benefits towards mental health and well-being, this isn’t their primary focus.chemistry-2389151_1280

This is where Happify comes in. There are a ton of apps available that do center around mental health and well-being (and we’ve definitely talked about a few of them before), Happify is a collaborative approach. The app was designed by scientists, researchers, healthcare clinicians, and digital and gaming experts to make something beneficial, evidence-based, and enjoyable.

joystick-2389216_1280Here’s how it works: you complete a few activities each week, and every couple of weeks, you answer a couple of questions to see how your “overall happiness,” “positive emotion,” and “life satisfaction” stand (they’re all scored out of 100). The researchers recommend that users complete eight activities a week, which include things like games to “conquer negative thoughtanalytics-3268935_1920s” and gratitude prompts. By doing these, your happiness scores should improve with time, and this is something that you can track on the app too.

If you want to learn more about the science and efficiency of the app, there have a few papers on their site that have been published based on research at the University of Pennsylvania, Vassar College, and Washington University in St. Louis.

Happify is free and available on both the App Store and Google Play, but if you want to unlock all the features, there is a subscription that you can get based on a monthly, 6-month, and yearly basis.


Do you use any well-being apps or anything to monitor your mental health? Do you think these would be useful?

How Does Social Media Affect the Adolescent Brain?

April 25, 2019 in Social Media Guide

The short answer? There are a lot of ways that using technology and specifically social media affects your brain. After all, the brain is always working and responding to everything, with social media being no exception.

emoji-2762568_1280The adolescent brain is specifically known for its plasticity, that is, it changes, responds, and adapts a lot quicker to its environment.  As researchers conduct more studies on the adolescent brain and how fast it reacts and adapts to the things happening to and occurring around the adolescent, they’ve theorized that this plasticity may be part of the significant increase of mental illnesses appearing during adolescence, including depression, anxiety, and eating disorders. The limbic system, or the part of the brain that processes rewards and emotion, goes through huge changes pretty early in puberty. The prefrontal cortex (the part of the brain that communicates with the limbic system and helps with decision making) develops much later however, and because of this, adolescents are much more likely to follow their emotions and immediately respond to them. Think of it as being more likely to “listen to your heart and not your head.”

maria-teneva-1163104-unsplashAnd of course, social media has recently become a part of that research too. There’s been a lot of focus on the limbic system and how adolescents respond to the notifications and responses they get on social media posts. Whenever they see a notification pop up on their phone about someone “liking” their post on any kind of site, this part of the brain lights up, and according to the study, gives the same response if they see a person that they love or when they win money. Because of this pleasure and positive feeling, adolescents are more likely to want to use social media more in order to get the same response.

Social media sites are also aware of this addictive response too. Another way that social media affects the adolescent brain is the way that the brain abstract-1837429_1280responds to seeking content. Adolescents are likely to get excited about seeing posts that make them happy, are popular, or are specifically related to their interests. While they can seek that content themselves by searching it or follow certain tags or accounts that include said content, it may not always show up for them. That’s why social media sites like Instagram have endless feeds, and there’s no such thing as reaching the “end” of a slot-machine-2304135_1920page. It’s like a slot machine: you keep scrolling and scrolling because you never know if you’re going to see something you like, and when you do, you get excited. So what do you do? Keep scrolling until that happens again.

Obviously, adolescents aren’t the only ones with a limbic system in their brain and this affects anyone, even adults. But because adolescents get excited much quicker because of how early the limbic system develops, social media is a way for them to get that immediate reward, especially because it’s something that they can use at their fingertips. That feeling isn’t always going to be there though, and a negative reaction can occur, and these can be heightened for adolescents who experience symptoms of mental illness.

Social media is a tricky game, and can mess with our emotions. It can be difficult to avoid this or even remember this because it’s something that we’re constantly using, but it can help to be aware that it shouldn’t control how we feel.


Do you use social media as a coping mechanism? Do you find yourself endlessly scrolling? How do you feel when you get notifications, or when you check your phone and you don’t have any?

Creative Arts Therapy Feature: Poetry Therapy

April 24, 2019 in Educate Yourself

Do you enjoy the arts? Have you ever wanted to see how getting creative can help you mentally? This feature is just one in a series of entries exploring the different types of creative arts therapy. You can learn more about other outlets here!


raphael-schaller-88040-unsplashSometimes it can be hard to discuss how you are feeling out loud. There can be a sense of pressure to try to find the exact words to fully describe how you’re feeling and the worry your words won’t come out how you want them to, leading the other person to misunderstand how you are feeling. One way to express your emotions without having to talk about them is to write about them in a poem.

Poetry therapy is a form of expressive arts therapy that uses poems, narratives and other spoken or written media to promote well-being and healing. Therapists might use existing literature or encourage those in therapy to create their own literary works as part of treatment. The goal of a poetry therapist is to offer a safe, nonjudgement environment for people to explore written expression and their associated emotional responses.

thought-catalog-470876-unsplashThe idea that words can heal dates back to 4000 BCE when Egyptians used to write words on papyrus, dissolve them in liquid and give them to those who were ill as treatment. In the mid-1700s, The Pennsylvania Hospital began using reading and writing as supplementary treatments for those with emotional and mental distress. In the early 1800s, poetry was first established as a form of treatment due to Dr. Benjamin Rush. Eli Griefer, a poet and a pharmacist, started “poem therapy” groups in 1928 at two hospitals with the help of Dr. Jack L. Leedy and Dr. Sam Spector. Dr, Leedy would then go on to start the Association of Poetry Therapy (APT) in 1969. This led to all of the leading figures in the poetry therapy field gathering to write guidelines for certification and training leading to the creation of the National Association for Poetry Therapy (NAPT) in 1980.

Poetry therapy works by

  • Providing an outlet for expressing emotions that might be difficult to express
  • Helping therapists gain a greater insight about their client
  • Promoting self-exploration and reflection
  • Validating emotions and experiences when done in a group setting

tom-rogerson-516368-unsplashIn a therapy session, the poetry therapist might select material to read from. They are free to choose any poem as long as it has poetic value. Additionally, it must be concise, address universal emotions and experiences, offer a degree of hope and contain plain language. Some techniques used in a poetry therapy session are based on the 3 Components Model by Nicholas Mazza.

  1. Receptive/Perspective Component: In this component, a poem is read aloud by the therapist or a person in therapy. Participants are told to make non-verbal or verbal reactions to the poem while it is being read. The therapist will note the reactions and discuss certain reactions when the poem is done.
  2. Expressive/Creative Component: For this component, creative writing is used for assessment and treatment. Therapists might ask their clients to select a line from a poem that touched them and have them create a poem based on this line. Or they might give them a single word, topic or sentence and ask the person to write something in response. The process of writing is supposed to be cathartic, giving one a voice and the ability to free blocked emotions.
  3. Symbolic/Ceremonial Component: This component uses metaphors, storytelling and rituals as tools for effecting change. Metaphors are used to explain emotions and experiences in precise, confound ways. Rituals are used to help those that have experienced a loss address their feelings about the event.

Research suggests that poetry therapy creates and communicates meaning. Additionally, poetry therapy might help facilitate internal connection with the self and external connection with heart-care-1040250_1280others. This helps the participant develop a greater awareness of self and others, which aids in identity building. Furthermore, therapies involving writing tasks have been linked to improvements in well-being and health. Writing tasks help a participant with self-regulation, re-framing and dealing more effectively with negative emotions.


Have you ever written or read poetry for yourself? Do you have any recommendations? What are your favorite poems?

Embracing Failure

April 23, 2019 in Educate Yourself

ian-kim-623880-unsplash“If you’re not failing, it probably means you’re not taking enough risks.”

Those are the words of Peter Forkner, director of the counseling center at Bentley University in Waltham, Massachusetts, at a recent event in which Bentley, staff, faculty, and alumni recount their stories of failure and lessons learned from them. Bentley University is one of many US colleges making the move to ease students’ anxieties around failure and teaching them to cope with it.

This move comes from an underlying effort in schools to deal with the climbing rates of depression and stress that has struck younger generations. Campuses across the nation have noticed the recent struggle among students in finding resilience amidst adversity. Professors encounter students overwhelmed with anxiety after receiving bad grades, and counselors are experiencing a surge in demand.

In response, schools have been striving to normalize failure and to grow from them. Stanford University holds an annual event called “Stanford, I screwed up!” Colorado State University encourages students to take a pledge to “fail forward” – that is, embrace failure and persist through it. Cornell College in Iowa also tells their faculty to not change students’ grades out of sympathy. The school sends the message that one bad grade is not the end of the world, and in fact, failure is often needed in order to learn valuable lessons in life.

parker-gibbons-755162-unsplashIn 2018, a survey from the American College Health Association showed that 22% of college students were diagnosed with anxiety and treated by a professional within the past year, and 17% were diagnosed and treated for depression in the past year, up from 10% for both conditions a decade ago.

Why the rise?

Some say that today, there are more stressors in society that this generation must face. Some blame social media, some blame sheltered parenting christian-erfurt-1131100-unsplashthat prevent children from adapting to difficult situations, and some blame the growing pressure to succeed that makes even small failures seem catastrophic. Yet, there is still stigma surrounding this issue – others voice that today’s younger generation are fragile and too sensitive. To counter this view, mental health advocates state that the pressures faced by students today are very different from those in the past. The landscape is more challenging now, and campuses can only respond with resources and support to help students get through these tough times.

As campus climates are changing, it will only be a matter of time before discussing experiences of failure become the norm. Bentley University is on its way there, with a “Failure Friday” series in which someone talks about a failure they experienced every week on social media. In this way, as failures are portrayed as a part of everyday life, it may be easier to pick ourselves up and grow from them when they happen. After all, until we fail, we haven’t taken enough risks.


Have you failed before? What was that like for you, and what lessons did you learn from your experience? What advice would you give to someone who is struggling with a failure? Share your thoughts and experiences below!

This SOVA blog post was based off an article from the Associated Press in the New York Post, “Failure is an option: Colleges try to ease student fear and anxiety.” To access the original post, check it out here.

A Walk in the Park

April 22, 2019 in Be Positive

You may have noticed the abundance of people outside as the weather starts getting warmer and days get longer. There’s just something so refreshing about being able to walk outside for the first time without layers of clothing on and having the warm sun hitting your skin.

katerina-kerdi-632145-unsplashThe summertime weather and sunshine having a positive effect on your mood isn’t new information. Being outside has been proven to decrease stress and calm your heart rate. If you have access to any park or a place with a lot of green space, though, you may experience an even bigger increase in your mood. Being exposed to green space as a child has also been associated with a lower risk of psychiatric disorders from adolescence into adulthood. Parks in cities have specifically shown improvements in well-being even after a short visit, and just 20 minutes predicted high improvement in life satisfaction.

The best part about these studies is that it can mean doing anything in green spaces and parks, whether it be taking a walk, reading on a bench, orben-mater-1476256-unsplash talking with a friend on the swings. No matter what you do, no matter how much or as little intensive, simply being around nature and green space (especially in a city and more industrial environment) can make the biggest difference.

As final projects and assignments build and feel daunting as the school year begins to come to a close, even the smallest amount of time outside can make a big difference. If you’re able to take twenty minutes one day when you’re particularly stressed, you could put your earbuds in, play something light, and walk around a beaten path surrounded by trees. You may find yourself breathing a little easier and feeling more refreshed to tackle that assignment (or several).


Do you live near a park? Are there any green spaces around you that you have, or would want to, walk around in for stress relief? What are your favorite activities to do outside?