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#MyYoungerSelf

June 26, 2020 in LINKS

There’s no start date when it comes to mental illness. While depression is often considered to start in adulthood, the truth of the matter is that it can occur at any age. Half of people who experience mental health conditions do so before they’re 14, with 75% doing so before they’re 24.

When you’re a child however, you most likely have no idea that the things you’re experiencing are symptoms of mental illness. Because of things like stigma and a lack of understanding that children can have mental illnesses, these symptoms can be dismissed as a child having a bad attitude, poor parenting, or simply just the child being emotional. It’s not until you’re older that you may have looked back and realized that some of the things you experienced and did as a child were either symptoms or the first few signs of mental illness. These can feel like “aha!” moments in putting the puzzle pieces together in your mental health journey.

The Child Mind Institute is focused on spreading awareness on children’s mental health and providing the tools to help people realize that mental illness can happen to anyone, regardless of age. As a part of their outreach, they have a feature where notable figures and celebrities who have mental illnesses leave short videos to their younger selves (appropriately named #myyoungerself). These include Kristen Bell, who has anxiety and depression, Michael Phelps, who has ADHD, and Emma Stone, who has anxiety and a panic disorder

They all discuss the mental illness diagnoses they have and when they first noticed that they experienced their symptoms. The messages are often pieces of advice, reassuring their younger selves that it gets better and that what they’re going through is justified. While it’s a message to themselves, it’s also a great way for viewers to recognize that they aren’t alone in their struggles and that even the most successful people struggle too.


What would you tell your younger self about your mental health? Do you think that you had any moments as a child, where looking back, you realize that they may have been the first symptoms of you experiencing depression, anxiety, or something else?

Managing Guilt Online

June 25, 2020 in Social Media Guide

It’s really easy to unintentionally hurt people’s feelings online. We may not even know we’re doing it, and it’s impossible to predict how people who follow us may respond, but everything online is going to cause some sort of reaction, no matter how big or small.

Because of this, we may find ourselves worrying how people, whether specific people or people as a whole, are going to react to the kind of content we post. While thinking about how audiences will respond to social media posts is incredibly common, those with anxiety may experience this worry on another level. This is due to the tendency for those with anxiety to “mind read,” or basing their actions and emotions in response to how they think people are going to react to something they do that hasn’t even happened yet.

Mind-reading can thus lead to more intensive, particularly negative feelings as we go online and look at our profiles and see how we post, or what we plan to post. One of these feelings is guilt, where we may feel bad if we post something that might be taken as controversial, feel that it could be triggering to someone, or make them experience some level of FOMO if you post about hanging out with someone else, even if you don’t know them that well.

If you do find yourself feeling guilty about potentially or after posting something, take the time to ask yourself if there’s anyone specific that you’re worried about upsetting and what your relationship is like with them. Do you talk to them often? Is this someone you care about? What is the item that you’re considering posting that is causing these guilty feelings? If it’s something you care a lot about, but think that it might upset people, you can consider adding trigger or content warnings. Even if the item has already been posted, there’s also nothing wrong with editing it, adding a follow-up post, or even going back to delete it if the guilt feels particularly heavy. 

Social media is always hit-or-miss in regards to how people react, including yourself to your own content. It’s important that your profile represents you, but remember that others can see it too, and if that’s going to affect how you post and feel, it’s important to keep these questions in mind.


Have you ever posted something that made you feel guilty after you posted it? What was it about? Do you think certain kinds of posts can cause more negative reactions than others?

Podcasts about Black Mental Health

June 19, 2020 in LINKS

Podcasts are everywhere these days, and that’s a good thing! Especially now, when stay-at-home orders are still in place and social distancing is still encouraged, even in places that are opening up, podcasts can provide some sort of substitute for the busy background noise and conversations that you may be used to in your schools, a coffee shop, or large public places like malls. They can be educational and informative, explore topics you never even thought of before, and most of the time, have at least the smallest amount of much-needed humor

Since today is Juneteenth, we wanted to highlight a few podcasts that focus on Black mental health. Some are hosted by Black therapists with professional experience, while others are hosted by those spreading awareness and sharing their own or other’s experiences

Therapy for Black Girls

Fireflies Unite

Celeste the Therapist

Black Mental Health Podcast

The Friend Zone

For those who aren’t Black, we want to invite you to use today to listen to an episode from NPR’s 1A podcast that discusses the collective trauma Black Americans may experience due to past and current events. It doesn’t just give an explanation as to how mental health affects Black Americans differently, but also provides some suggestions about helping with coping.

You can check out this episode here.


Do you listen to podcasts? Have you ever listened to an episode or even a whole podcast dedicated to mental health? What benefits do you see in podcasts?

What is Doomscrolling?

June 18, 2020 in COVID-19, Social Media Guide

Let’s admit it. It’s so easy to get sucked into our devices and the social media apps inside of them. Even if you feel like you’re not directly interacting with anyone and just refreshing, there’s something about these apps that can make three hours feel like three minutes, despite doing nothing.

This addicting feeling of constantly refreshing and going to the same pages again and again can already affect us negatively, but if there’s a dominant news story or event that’s on everyone’s timelines, feeds, and pages, it’s not just easier to cycle through these apps, but the effects of it on us mentally can be even more severe. If we’re constantly seeing (and seeking) updates to negative news stories and people’s reactions and inputs on them in particular, we can get physically exhausted and our already heightened emotions of anxiety can get even higher.

Yet we can’t stop scrolling. Why is that the case?

Recently, given COVID-19 and its effects on, well, everything, dictionaries have officially coined the term doomscrolling (or doomsurfing, whichever you prefer). It describes our need to continue to scroll and look up information about bad events, even if they make us feel bad in turn. We do so not only because we want to keep up to date on any new information coming out, but because our brains are more inclined to focus on and are more likely to get sucked into bad news instead of good news. Additionally, in a different take on FOMO, we stay on our devices and doomscroll because we’re afraid of missing what could be some sort of pivotal update.

As the name suggests, however, doomscrolling isn’t great for our mental health. Because we already know about the bad event, we may already be feeling nervous, anxious, and even depressed. Continuing to engage with this bad news can send us downspiraling, especially for those who are prone to showing symptoms of mental illnesses such as depression and anxiety. We may be more inclined to believe conspiracy theories, or engage with incorrect and potentially dangerous information because we’re getting exposed to it and want something potentially positive to cling onto.

But social media is already hard to escape, especially during social distancing, so how can you stop doomscrolling? Besides setting specific times to visit your preferred social media platforms, ask yourself about the people and the news organizations you follow and how much you trust them. 

Doomscrolling is incredibly easy to fall into, but with some work, it isn’t hard to escape out of it either.


Have you ever doomscrolled? Why do you think it’s so easy to get stuck doomscrolling? How do you tell yourself to get off of social media when there’s bad or depressing news happening?

Make It Ok

June 12, 2020 in LINKS

Make It Ok

This week, we wanted to highlight Make It Ok, a website designed to battling the stigma around discussions about mental health and mental illness

The website offers “dos and don’ts” about how to respond to those opening up about their mental health, videos about harmful language that people should avoid, and a page dedicated to stories where people open up about their experiences with stigma. Make It Ok also has two podcasts – “The Hilarious World of Depression,” where people with depression use humor to talk about their experiences, and the “Tremendous Upside,” where athletes open up about their mental health.

This is just a bit of what the website has to offer, so if you want to explore more, you can do so here.


What has your experience been like with stigma and mental health? How have conversations you had gone with others when you talk about mental health?

More Online Resources for Black Mental Health

June 5, 2020 in LINKS

If you have been online over the past week, you have likely seen Carrd links going around containing masterlists, resources, petitions, donation sites, and information about the Black Lives Matter movement. If you’ve clicked on any of them, you’ll notice how all the information is contained and presented in a way that’s easily accessible and not overwhelming.

The primary one that has been going around, even being referenced by celebrities, is the Black Lives Matters Carrd. We wanted to highlight one the resources that it references, hosted on a separate Carrd: Black Mental Health Matters. Although we included links to other mental health resources last week, this Carrd not only has even more, but contains them in a convenient, easy-to-read place.


How are you doing this week? What other resources have you seen not just about black mental health, but about the Black Lives Matter movement that have helped you?

Mental Health Resources for Black Youth

May 29, 2020 in LINKS

We recently posted this post and its resources back in February, but given current events, wanted to share these resources again.


It can be difficult to find resources for mental health resources that feel like they’re targeted to you. This is particularly true for minorities and underprivileged groups. Racial and ethnic minorities have less access to mental health resources and services than white people, and when they do get access, it can be of poorer quality, feeling that the treatment they receive doesn’t fully suit them or that they feel like they’re experiencing discrimination.

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African-American communities are no exception. African-American adolescents require different approaches when developing treatment, because they express their depressive symptoms differently, for a number of reasons.

The options below are just a start to what may be available online for African-Americans and African-American youth. A couple are sites dedicated to one gender, one is an app, and another is a podcast, but all of them have been created and are run by African-Americans, with the hope that seeing something created for you by someone who looks like you can have a more significant impact.

The Safe Place This is an app dedicated just for African-Americans and how they can learn more and think about their mental health. The creator, Jasmine Pierre, is a certified peer support specialist, and has the app offer a forum, statistics specifically about black mental health, and inspirational quotes. There are also self-care tips for things such as coping with police brutality, how to talk to black family members about mental health, and mental health in the black church.

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Fireflies Unite T-Kea – the woman named in the podcast’s full title of Fireflies Unite Podcast with Kea – releases episodes every Monday where she allows individuals to share their stories about mental health and the stigmas they face, especially as people of color. She is a mental health advocate dedicated to showing that mental illness can affect anyone, and is a suicide survivor.

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Therapy for Black Men The main focus of this website (run by mental health professional Vladimire Calixte) is to provide a directory for African-American men to access therapists who they can trust with offering services that will be beneficial to them. The search gives you the option to get more advanced beyond searching just by location, including therapists’ specialties, treatment options, and if they provide therapy remotely. The site also has a coach directory and a blog.

Therapy for Black Girls Dr. Joy Harden Bradford is a licensed psychologist who created this site specifically for African-American women and girls to have a resource to learn more about well-being and mental health. Like Therapy for Black Men, there’s a directory listing therapists nationwide who provide “high quality, culturally competent services” for African-American women and girls, letting you search by location and by insurance. The website also has its own weekly podcast hosted by Dr. Joy, where she talks and educates listeners about an array of mental health topics.


Do you have any recommendations? If you’re a minority, do you look for resources that are more specifically tailored for you?

The Problem with Autoplay and Posting Triggering Images Online

May 28, 2020 in Social Media Guide

The blog post includes mentions of police brutality and violence on black people. Please read with caution if any of these items triggers or upsets you.


The world can feel bleak and hopeless at times, and our access to news literally anywhere in the world at any time makes this much more obvious. And while this bleakness and hopelessness can be depressing and very easily overwhelming, it can also make us aware of injustices and give us a place to make a change.

However, the methods in calling attention to these issues and taking action can vary, and the choices that we make online to talk about these issues can have very different effects. Activism is important, and social media can be a great place to address and practice it, but those who are the victims of injustice are also using these same platforms and are directly affected by engaging with and encountering this content.

The recent killing of George Floyd, an unarmed black man by Minneapolis police is not an isolated event. Neither is how it caught the public eye, through a recording of his death. While some non-black people may argue that the graphic imagery is necessary to show the severity of the situation and to get people to care, the truth of the matter is that it’s more likely to do harm than good. 

The same can be said for other sorts of situations, such as videos from detainment camps. By sharing and posting videos of graphic, upsetting events, those who see themselves represented in them – like minority adolescents – can have higher levels of PTSD and depressive symptoms. Social media making these images easily accessible through methods like autoplay can make them unavoidable too.

The more frequently that they are exposed to these videos and images (like when they go viral and are everywhere), the frequency of the symptoms can increase and intensify. Although they may not have experienced the same or similar event, minorities seeing people who look like them in graphic and deadly situations can make them feel like it could be them next and reminds them of the collective race trauma that people like them have gone through and constantly experience.

For others, posting triggering content can also make us more desensitized to injustices, especially when these are injustices affecting the same group of people. Instead of the “shock” reaction that people expect others to have to these videos and images, constantly being exposed to them, and especially when it’s to a group that they don’t belong in, can make people accept this as almost normal and just something to be expected at this point.

Unfortunately, there’s no perfect way of avoiding all of this unless everyone on social media doesn’t post this kind of content at all. If you are a member of these communities or do not wish to view these images and videos for any other reason, most social media websites give you the ability to turn off autoplay and/or image previews. Others may censor and put a warning about the kind of content before it’s viewed. This way, anything that may potentially be triggering has to be clicked on, but these methods aren’t always perfect either.

It’s ultimately best to refrain from sharing this kind of content, and instead, try posting articles or content by people from these affected groups instead and how they feel about these situations and how it affects them.


How do you feel about how people post about activism online? Do you encounter triggering or graphic content online, and if so, does it come up unprompted and without you seeking it out? How does that make you feel?

Weekend Reads: How is Gen Z Coping with COVID?

May 22, 2020 in COVID-19, LINKS

Experiencing a historical event is no doubt affecting everyone, but the effect it has on youths and adolescents are significantly stronger. During these pivotal developmental periods when it comes to building relationships, receiving an education, and exploring who they want to be, the pandemic and its effects such as quarantine, anxieties about the future, and so on almost makes it feel like all this progress is at a sudden halt. 

This long weekend, we wanted to highlight a few articles that have polled and interviewed adolescents about how they’re coping, feeling, and thinking about the future because of COVID. These include articles about humor and memes, an honest admission about uncertainty and panic, and even about how the way we dress can change. Check them out below:

COVID-19 Might Change The Way We Dress Forever

It’s OK to Find Humor in Some of This

We Asked Millennials and Gen Z How They’re Coping With the Pandemic. Here’s What They Said

The Pulse of Gen Z in the Time of COVID-19


How are you coping with COVID? What are things that you think that are going to change for you as we slowly but eventually transition back into somewhat of a familiar routine before the pandemic hit?

Cringe Humor and Embracing the Awkward Online

May 21, 2020 in Social Media Guide

Of course, everyone finds different things amusing (memes and self-deprecating humor are two topics we’ve covered before), but cringe humor has started to become more and more popular among adolescents on social media.

Cringe humor is kind of a combination of both memes and self-deprecating humor. It thrives off of awkwardness and getting strong reactions from whoever is watching or engaging with the humor. 

The best example of cringe humor? TikTok. As a video uploading site, the kind of content that goes up there can vary, but what people usually associate it with are those odd lip-synching videos and strange activities out in public where they disrupt otherwise normal routines. It’s reminiscent of Vine from a few years ago – short videos that are ready to be meme’d at any moment – but has the addition of filters and more than 6 seconds to do something ridiculous.

Cringe humor has been around for a while though. In a way, it’s the 21st century version of slapstick humor, where someone slipping on a banana peel or getting pied on the face is funny to us. The Office is incredibly well-known for its cringe humor (especially with Michael Scott), so it’s no wonder that the younger generation that actively uses TikTok is discovering the sitcom and is obsessed with it, despite it first airing 15 years ago.

At the end of it all, cringe humor is someone openly putting themselves out there knowing fully well that they’re doing something silly and embarrassing, and this vulnerability can lighten situations, especially in current times when teens and adolescents have been feeling anxious and hopeless. Cringe humor through outlets like TikTok and The Office compilations are short and accessible, and at the end of the day are just silly and can provide a quick distraction for some when everything else can feel overwhelming

The vulnerability that others put out by engaging in cringe humor can inspire us to embrace the awkwardness too. Although it’s probably not to the same degree, seeing others put themselves out there in a silly way can have us look into the things that we’re self-conscious or anxious about when it comes to our own personality and come to terms with it.

We can’t be perfect (no one is) and it can get really anxiety-inducing trying to have that composed appearance all the time. Cringe humor shows us that if others are willing to drop that facade and goof off and put what others thinks are our flaws out in the open, then we can too


Do you watch TikTok? Do you like cringe humor? What ways do you think you can embrace your imperfections?