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Gratitude Prompts

February 26, 2018 in Be Positive

gratefulAccording to Grateful, researchers at Harvard Medical School report, “Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.”

However, Brianna Steinhilber writes that while practicing gratitude seems simple enough, it can be difficult for some, “especially if you’re a person who has a hard time expressing emotions, or you’re going through a rough patch that makes channeling gratitude difficult.”

Therefore, to begin, use a gratitude prompt. Gratitude prompts can tap into your creativity and help you recognize the things you’re grateful to have in your life. You can also use gratitude prompts as a conversation starter with others. And try writing them down by keeping a gratitude notebook or using an app!

Try these gratitude prompts:

  1. List five small ways that you can share your gratitude today.
  2. Write about a person in your life that you’re especially grateful for and why.
  3. What skills or abilities are you thankful to have? (You communicate well, you’re a good cook, you have an uncanny ability to dominate in Fantasy Football. Hey, it’s your journal).
  4. What is there about a challenge you’re experiencing right now that you can be thankful for? (This is a tough one, but you have learned something or grown from the hardship—how?)
  5. How is where you are in life today different than a year ago–and what positive changes are you thankful for?
  6. What activities and hobbies would you miss if you were unable to do them?
  7. List five body parts that you’re grateful for and why. (Those long legs help you reach items on the top shelf … don’t forget the little things.)
  8. What about the city you live in are you grateful for?
  9. What are you taking for granted about your day to day that you can be thankful for? (Can’t think of any? Your alarm clock, your coffee machine, the paperboy who delivered your newspaper, your friendly neighbor who always says good morning … and that’s before you even leave the house.)
  10. List 5 people in your life who are hard to get along with—and write down at least one quality for each that you are grateful for.
  11. What materialistic items are you most grateful for?
  12. Write about the music you’re thankful to be able to listen to and why. (We couldn’t make it five minutes on the treadmill without our beats.)
  13. Who has done something this week to help you or make your life easier and how can you thank them?
  14. What foods or meals are you most thankful for? (Bacon, egg and cheese on Monday morning, we’re looking at you.)
  15. What elements of nature are you grateful for and why? (The beach, a starry sky or one speckled with fluffy clouds, the sunset…)
  16. What part of your morning routine are you most thankful for? (A big stretch before you get out of bed, that warm cup of coffee, a cuddle session with your pet…)
  17. Write a letter to someone who has positively impacted your life, however big or small.
  18. What is something you’re grateful to have learned this week?
  19. When was the last time you laughed uncontrollably—relive the memory.
  20. What aspects of your work environment are you thankful for? (Supportive co-workers, flexible hours, great snacks in the kitchen…)

Don’t have time to write?  Check out one of these apps instead:

  • Grateful: A Gratitude Journal
  • My Gratitude Journal
  • HappyFeed: Graditude Journal
  • Gratitude Journal 365
  • Gratitude Journal: The Life-changing App

Answer one of the prompts above, and if you feel comfortable, share your response in the Comments section below!  Have your own prompt? Let us know!

App Review: Self-Help for Anxiety Management

February 23, 2018 in LINKS

Are you interested in creating a day-to-day multidimensional picture of what your anxiety looks like and how to manage it?

Check out the free app called “Self-Help for Anxiety Management”—or, the SAM app. It’s a relatively new app that gives you all kinds of ways to measure your anxiety and work with modalities that help you reduce it.

samIts graphic interface looks cool, as well! Little slider buttons help you measure feelings, thoughts, physical sensations, and your desire to avoid things you fear.

These help you understand whether you’re someone who experiences anxiety more as feelings that interfere with your functioning, or as worrying thoughts, or as sensations in your body.

You can upload self-help tools to a “toolkit” to help you manage these different manifestations of anxiety.

SAM is backed by a research team at the University of West England in Bristol, England. It’s top-rated on iTunes and Android, and also on some health-related websites that track helpful apps.

What apps do you use to monitor and ease your anxiety or depression? Let us know—or become one of our blogging ambassadors and review some apps for our readers!

Helping African American Guys Get Treatment through Social Media

February 22, 2018 in Social Media Guide

Rapper Kid Cudi, who has talked publicly about his depression and anxiety.

Rapper Kid Cudi, who has talked publicly about his depression and anxiety.

Social media can be an effective way to start movements around social issues that need attention. One example is the viral social media activity #icebucketchallenge, a hashtag that created awareness, donations, and a large open forum to discuss the illness of ALS. The same type of social media movement is being used to bring awareness to black men’s need for mental health treatment using the hashtag #YouGoodMan. The hashtag is being used to open up a public discussion and help black men feel more okay about getting help with their mental health.

#YouGoodMan began after rapper Kid Cudi revealed that he was seeking help for his anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts. He wrote on Facebook:

My anxiety and depression have ruled my life for as long as I can remember and I never leave the house because of it. I can’t make new friends because of it. I [don’t] trust anyone because of it and [I’m] tired of being held back in my life. I deserve to have peace. I deserve to be happy and smiling.

Cudi’s post is a model that can encourage other African American men to open up as well. Research shows that African Americans are 10 percent more likely to report having serious psychological distress than whites (except for Hispanic whites). Black Americans are also more likely than whites to grow up in poverty. The fact that many African Americans face violence and racism on a daily basis means they are more likely to need help maintaining their mental wellness.

American society’s hyper-masculinity leaves all men—including minority men—little room to discuss problems like mental health without facing social judgment and stigma. Black men often have a hard time opening up about their feelings and emotions because they don’t want to be seen as “weak.” Research shows that African Americans use psychotherapy much less than whites. Some of the African American cultures that black boys grow up in encourage them to adopt a particular version of masculinity that prevents them from talking about their feelings. And when they do look for help, it can be hard for them to find black therapists: some people feel more comfortable seeking treatment from someone who shares their cultural background.

There are other movements that are trying to use social media to understand minority attitudes about mental health and improve access to treatment. This article in Huffington Post, for example, talks about another research project that uses Facebook to understand black men’s approaches toward their mental health challenges.

#YouGoodMan is a small step to normalizing the discussion of mental illness. Men of color all over the world are sharing, connecting, and bringing much needed attention to this topic. According to BuzzFeed News #YouGoodMan was created by Twitter user @DaynaLNuckolls, who suggested that there ought to be a place on social media dedicated for black men who want to talk about their mental health issues.

Mental Health is a touchy subject for many people, but having open honest conversations about mental health can break down many walls and give people permission to share their own story. Participating in—or even just watching—an open, safe public dialogue can go a long way in someone’s decision to get treatment. And social media can be a place where that discussion happens.

Do you believe using social media to bring awareness to mental health needs is important?  If you were to create a hashtag to bring awareness to a mental health issue, what would it be?

Is Depression in My Genes?

February 21, 2018 in Educate Yourself

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Where does depression come from? Like we talked about before, there are many theories (ideas for why something happens that scientists put together from facts and based on how the world seems to work).

There is some evidence or proof that part of why someone has depression comes from their genes—or basically the code your parents gave you that is an instruction manual for your body and mind.

On average in our population, about 38 percent of the way depression is inherited may be from genetics—and more so for girls than boys. Remember that statistic is talking about a whole population—we don’t know what it means for an individual person. For one person, genetics could be 70 percent of the reason they have depression—for someone else it might only be 10 percent.

About 10 percent of all people will experience depression. If someone has a parent or sibling with depression that risk goes up to about 20 to 30%.

Scientists haven’t found a “depression gene” yet. Its more likely there are a bunch of genes that contribute risk.

All of this means you don’t just get depression from your mom or dad—genes are part of the story but definitely not all of it. So don’t ever take that to mean you are programmed to be one way and there is nothing you can do about it.

You know how you open up a new phone and it has default settings? Think about those as your genes. Many phones are customizable–and you can decide how to set it up. Just because you get certain genes doesn’t mean you can’t work with what you got! (Read our post on epigenetics to find out more about how to work with what you inherit.)

Maybe you drop your phone and the screen cracks a little—then you get a new shiny case for it and now it looks awesome and you can’t tell there’s a crack. That’s kind of how the environment works—what’s around you and the experiences you have also effect who you become.

You are a collection of where you came from (your genes), what you grew up with (your environment), who you choose to become (your motivation and goals), and who helps you get there (your support system—including clinical professionals such as your therapist and doctor who provide you with tools you need to get you where you want to go).

Has anything made you feel as if your depression or anxiety are inevitable? Where did you get those messages? Share with us in the comments.

Color to Your Heart’s Content Online, with Weavesilk

February 16, 2018 in LINKS

weavesilkColoring books for big people are a huge trend these days. If your hands find themselves wanting to do something and you don’t have markers and paper, but you do have a computer, here’s a way you can make art.

Weavesilk allows you to make symmetrical art easily with only a mouse or touchpad.

Here are some guidelines to help you get started.

  • Once you’re on the site, click “Draw something.”
  • In the upper left hand corner, there is a blue dot. Hover over it—it should say “controls.”
  • Click on that—it will show seven colors, and you can change the color you are working with by clicking on the color you want.
  • You can mix colors by holding onto color with your mouse and dragging it to another dot of color.
  • You can also play with the bar labeled “rotational symmetry,” and turn the “mirror across center” and “spiral towards center” on or off.
  • Draw by clicking in the center and moving your mouse.
  • To clear the page hit the space bar, and to undo click “z.”

Do you have any other sites you like to use when you need a distraction or to keep your hands busy? List them below!

Peer Support: Why Does it Matter?

February 13, 2018 in Educate Yourself

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When anyone goes through a tough time, their first instinct is often to seek advice and help from someone who has gone through the same thing. This kind of help is sometimes called peer support. In the mental health field, peer support specialists, also called peer navigators, or “PNs.” For teens, these are adolescents with a self-identified history of mental illness and who work with other teens with mental health concerns by them offering encouragement, resources, education, and reassurance.

A PN is someone who has made progress with their own recovery. They hold multiple responsibilities with clients.PNs use a variety of approaches to help their clients:

  • Engagement. A PN always strives to engage the client actively in the recovery process. A PN knows that finding out what they and the client have in common can make the client feel more connected and comfortable with sharing information and experiences. Therefore, a PN always thinks of engaging with the client as the initial step in building a relationship with the client.
  • Empathy. A PN is genuinely concerned with what the client is experiencing and feeling. They work to draw out the clients’ life-stories and feelings, and they acknowledge and validate these experiences. A PN reassures clients that they understand the client’s feelings and that they will try their best to support the client as they pursue recovery.
  • Strategy. A PN helps the client create concrete plans to identify resources and practices to negotiate day-to-day challenges. Examples of plans are stress-management routines, to practical life advice: anything that makes the client feel better.
  • Empowerment. A PN puts a lot of effort into empowering the client. A PN believes that empowerment helps strengthen clients’ faith in themselves, increases clients’ self-confidence, and gives them hope for a healthy future.
  • Natural Supports. A PN helps clients to identify their natural support systems and to take steps to actually use them. Natural supports consist of important people in clients’ lives and activities that allow clients to relax and gain strength. These activities could include video games, art, dance, books, and even particular places. By helping the client design and use this system, the PN aims to create a safe space in their lives where clients can work to understand their feelings and reduce their inward stress.
  • Hope: The ability to sustain hope can help people put their plans into action and set them up for success. It is a driving factor that motivates people in their recovery. In sharing their own recovery stories, PNs are in a position to demonstrate to clients that they can indeed hope—that feeling better is a real, achievable option. Clients come to understand that they are capable of accomplishing the same kinds of success.

Research has found that peer support works! It shows that working with PNs helps people gain hope, independence and self-confidence.

When you’re a teen struggling with a mental health difficulty, seeing recovery personified in one of your peers is inspiring in and of itself—but imagine having that peer alongside you during a difficult time, teaching you self-soothing exercises, helping you identify and access your most reliable supports, and just giving you hope that you can come through the situation not just surviving, but thriving.

We recently learned from peer support specialists at the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center (UPMC) that their mental health clinicians are starting to see more and more benefits for clients who are working with PNs. Evidence like this is motivating more Pittsburgh-area hospitals and mental health agencies to start offering more peer support services.

Do you want to receive peer support services as a client? Start by asking your doctor, therapist, or social worker for more information about PNs in their network. If you’re in Pittsburgh, you can talk to a PN immediately by calling UPMC’s WarmLine—it’s free and confidential.

 

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Want to become a PN yourself and support those with similar mental health experiences? Click here to check out the mandatory requirements and trainings to become certified in Pennsylvania.

Keep in mind: while helping others is great, your own health and well-being needs to be your first priority!

Have you ever had an experience with a PN? What do you think of the idea of one experienced, trained adolescent helping another in need? Please share your experiences in the comment section below. 

Stop Anxiety with Hypnosis

February 9, 2018 in LINKS

Apps are available for everything these days, including your mental health and well-being. One app available is Anxiety Relief Hypnosis.

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The idea behind the app is it helps reduce anxiety and fear by improving relaxation skills. The developers of the app state that hypnosis can decrease anxious thoughts and enhance your response to relaxation, which, in turn, resets your behavior and enables an improved response to stress. The app provides an audio session read by a certified hypnotherapist together with calming music and sounds from nature to aid relaxation. The “awaken at end” feature can be disabled to allow you to fall into restful sleep at bedtime.

Those who practice and carry out hypnosis say hypnosis is a series of reminders to reduce anxiety and fear by encouraging an individual’s mind to go in more positive directions when they feel overwhelmed by negativity.

The app developers and hypnotists believe hypnosis is becoming a more commonly used practice. However, it is not an easy fix. According to those who do hypnosis, it requires patience, commitment and consistency.

Anxiety Relief Hypnosis is available to download for free for both Android and iPhone users. Read more about other Mental Health Apps.

A lot of doubt and stereotypes are attached to hypnosis. Are you skeptical of hypnosis? Would you try this app or hypnosis with a certified hypnotist? Have you tried the app before, and if so, what was your experience? We’d love to hear from you in the Comments below!

Supporting Latina Adolescents

February 7, 2018 in Educate Yourself

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As some of the newest and most stigmatized immigrants to the United States, the Latino population is often exposed to many suicide risk factors. Not only do some of them have to deal with living in neighborhoods where there is higher crime rates, low quality housing, and poor schools, but Latino youth also are faced with the challenge of familism (when family is prioritized before and over the individual).

Familism can cause tension between Latino parents and adolescents. Parents often hold on to traditional Latin American expectations of their children while Latino youth are pressured by American culture to be independent. Trying to balance the differences between two cultures can leave teens feeling trapped and alone.

A program called Life is Precious (LIP) has begun providing after school services for these at-risk adolescents such as working to improve school performance and training in artistic expression to discover new talents (such as dance and music). Licensed counseling is also provided to improve emotional health by developing coping skills for daily challenges.

Life is Precious, run by Comunilife, is based in New York state where suicide is the second leading cause of death for teens. These numbers are especially high for Latina teens. A recent study by the Center for Disease Control and Prevention has shown that 15% of Latina teens attempt suicide. However, this community based approach, which focuses on culturally appropriate therapy for Latina adolescents, has shown great results in reducing conflict within families. One way LIP helps increase family connection is by strengthening family communication between Latina youth and their parents. Also, for those in the program, positive results were reported with a decrease in suicidal behavior, depressive symptoms and anger.

Click here to read more about the amazing work LIP is doing to help Latina adolescents. Also, read our previously written blog post about Asian Americans and mental health treatment.

Comunilife works with individuals outside the Latino community from other diverse backgrounds. All of Comunilife’s services approach clients of diverse background with sensitivity and awareness.

What do you think or feel about the Life is Precious program? How do you think we can improve mental health treatment for different cultures? If you have any questions or comments about the subject of today’s blog post, please let us know!  We’d love to hear from you!

Hang Out Online in the “Facing Us Clubhouse”

February 2, 2018 in LINKS

This is the Facing Us Clubhouse. Each room has something special to help young people with symptoms of depression or bipolar disorder.

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There are six “rooms” in the clubhouse, each with fun and useful tips and tools inside:

  • a journaling room
  • a media room
  • a wellness tracker room
  • a room where you can read wellness tips
  • a room where you can write your own wellness plan
  • and a “back porch” with lots of links to sites that educate about depression, anxiety, bipolar, good sleep, and more.

The wellness-tracker app was named the top bipolar app of 2017 by Healthline, a site that monitors the most helpful mental-health resources on the internet.

The information in the Facing Us Clubhouse is cutting-edge, and its design is fun and interactive—check out what the cursor does with the “rooms”!

The Clubhouse is a program sponsored by the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance, a mental health support organization that has 250 chapters and about 650 support groups across the country. What makes DBSA unique is that they’re created for and led by people living with a mood disorder.

What are some self-help, peer-led sites that have helped you most? Share with us in the comment section!

An App Designed to Stop Lunchroom Bullying

February 1, 2018 in Social Media Guide

Have you ever had to sit by yourself in the lunchroom? Seventeen-year-old Californian Natalie Hampton has—for two whole years—and she’s invented an app to make sure no one else ever has to go through that.

When Hampton—an outgoing girl who had always had lots of friends—moved a new school in seventh grade, she had high hopes of making new pals, but that’s not what happened. Instead, she was completely ostracized by the other students.

The worst part was lunch: she would walk into the crowded cafeteria and see that no one was willing to eat with her.

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This lasted for two years.

To make matters worse, none of the adults at the school supported her. The school counselor even interrogated her on a weekly basis, trying to get her to admit what she had done to make the students behave this way.

The school’s refusal to support her made the bullying even worse. Finally, when she was ready for high school, she decided to change schools and start all over again. At her new high school, when she walked into the lunchroom and didn’t know anyone, one single student saw that she looked lost and invited her to eat lunch together.

“It saved my life,” she says in her TEDx talk.

Natalie Hampton with her app.

Natalie Hampton with her app.

Hampton decided to share the story of her difficulties because she wanted to help other kids the way that one person helped her. She notes that even small acts that show kindness, empathy and support to those being bullied can mean so much.

She began to pay it forward, inviting other people who seemed lonely to sit with her at lunch. After witnessing how successful and useful this approach could be to support her peers, she decided to develop an app that would help even more people.

Her app is called “Sit With Us”. Here’s how it works:

  • Students to sign up to be lunchroom “ambassadors.”
  • They post on the app when they have an open seat at their table.
  • Then, students who are looking for a group to eat lunch with can use the app to find a place to sit.
Screenshot of "Sit With Us" app

Screenshot of “Sit With Us” app

The app saves students from embarrassment: if they have to physically move from table to table asking to join a group, they could be rejected over and over again. But with the app, they can find out discreetly where seats are available, and they’ll always be accepted.

“The first step to a warmer, more inclusive community can begin with lunch,” Hampton’s website says.

We found Hampton’s idea to be a practical step that all teens can use, to show kindness and support to their peers. In addition to inviting people to sit with you over lunch, there are also some other approaches you can take to stop bullying. For example, you could:

  • Deescalate tensions by developing statements against bullying. The statements could be as simple as, “Hey, it’s not cool to reject people.” By using calm, simple statements, you draw boundaries against bullying behavior, without triggering further conflicts.
  • Stand very close to the individual being bullied. Sometimes a small action like this tells the bullies that you don’t approve of their behaviors and you stand with your peers.
  • Follow up later with the person who was targeted to show your continuing support. The support can be in the form of a note, a text, etc. The purpose here is to let your peer know that they do not walk alone and that you appreciate them for who they are.

What does lunchroom bullying feel like to you—either as the targeted person, or as one who has witnessed it? What do you think of this app’s approach to ending bullying? What can be done to help stop bullying at your school? Comment below to share your thoughts and strategies with us.