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Back to School: New Semester

August 10, 2018 in Be Positive

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Sometimes it can be hard for students to go back to school after the holidays, especially for students with anxiety like myself. The rapid transition from the relaxation with friends and family to the hustle and bustle of MANY assignments can be overwhelming. However, there are a few things that can help with the anxiousness of starting a new semester.

For example:

  1. Get a planner. Getting a planner is the first step to becoming organized in college. Writing out when your assignments are due gives you a picture of when stuff needs to be done. This gives you a strong idea of what is happening around you academically versus feeling as though you don’t know what is going on, which could produce more anxiousness.
  2. Make to do lists. It is so frustrating forgetting to do something that you really needed to do. Making to do lists could assist you in not forgetting those important things. Also, being able to cross items off your to do list after you completed them makes you feel accomplished and productive!
  3. Give yourself breaks. School is extremely important; however, if you do not take time for yourself then you will burn out. Giving yourself a break can be doing whatever relieves your stress and brings you joy including hanging with friends, exercising, or simply taking a nap. After giving yourself a break, you often feel less anxious, more relaxed, and ready to get back to the books.

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These three tips are what I use when I begin a new semester and I continue to do these things as the semester progresses. These three items help me stay on top of my schooling and help ease my anxiousness.

What are things that help you get back to college/school/or work?

A Feminist View on Mental Illness

August 7, 2018 in Educate Yourself

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In a recent gender studies class, we read Fiona Rummery’s “Mad Women or Mad Society: Towards a Feminist Practice.” Part of this work explores the connection between a woman’s assumed role as the homemaker and her increased risk of mental health issues. I wanted to share a few points made by the author that I think are very interesting.

First, femininity has emphasis on serving others and ignoring a woman’s own needs. We all have heard the saying that a mom never gets a day off, but this undoes self-care and easily leads to burnout, anxiety, and depression. If a woman begins to experience such an issue, it is frowned upon for her to assume the sick role, a term that describes the acceptable behavior and expectations a person can receive when they are ill.

For example, if you are a student you are expected to show up for class and complete assignments.  However, if you end up in the hospital because you broke your arm while running, your professors most likely would not expect you to come to class and might allow you to submit assignments after the due date. Your injury excuses you from your normal responsibilities. You have taken on a new role: the sick role.

However, women who try to shift from their “normal role” into the sick role are often met with harsh criticism; they are expected to continue carrying out their usual roles (e.g., mother, wife). If a woman asks for days off from work, they are said to be overly dramatic, needy or milking their illnesses. Neglecting a woman’s health needs increases recovery time, if recovery even occurs at all.

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An interesting quote from Rummery is, “Concepts of femininity and madness are actually interchangeable.” In Western society, there are certain characteristics or traits that are thought to be “feminine,” such as constantly worrying about meeting children’s’ needs.  And are typically thought to be mentally unhealthy.

There used to be a group of mental disorders called Histrionic Personality Disorders (now under Personality Disorders), which were marked by female overreaction and increased feelings. However, psychologist Inge Broveman’s research in the 1970’s declared that a mentally healthy woman is more emotional and more excitable. This means that things which can be viewed as healthy female traits may also be seen as symptoms of mental illness. Women who successfully fulfill a “feminine role” can be easily diagnosed and labeled.

This also provides a lot of irony: women who are emotionally normal are labeled as psychotic, but those who have actual problems are thought to be seeking attention. In the first case, a woman is diagnosed with a condition she does not have, and in the second case, she cannot seek the help she truly needs. Because gender and psychology are so tangled, going against these emotional stereotypes can be viewed negatively (e.g., aggression).

Mental illness can be used as a form of social control over women. In addition to being unable to use the sick role, depressed women are much more unlikely to question gender roles or challenge broader social structures. This creates a cycle that silences women and ignores their health needs: First, a woman develops symptoms of a mental health condition. Second, she is judged for her illness. Third, she is not given proper medical and social support. Fourth, her symptoms may turn into an untreated mental illness.

Lastly, any individual, not just women, can feel limited in their ability to stand up against the labels and mistreatment surrounding mental illness symptoms and conditions. Stigma often makes it difficult to change the way society views a woman’s (and others) mental well-being and self-worth.

I find the psychology and sociology of gender and sexuality to be fascinating, and I hope I was able to give you a new perspective on a woman’s mental health challenges.

Unfortunately, following the “masculine norms” of Western society also are connected with negative mental health outcomes. Men are “supposed” to be in control of their emotions and feelings, self-reliant and powerful.

What are your thoughts on these ideas? Have you noticed any other patterns surrounding gender (not just female) and mental health?

Having a Bad Mental Health Day

August 6, 2018 in Be Positive

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Living with depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues can sometimes be taxing. I know I have come across this a lot—I feel down, anti-social, or just plain exhausted! While it’s true that we are starting to talk more about mental health conditions, lots of people still find it difficult to talk about what they are experiencing. It’s especially hard when you feel like you were doing so great the past few days and today you just feel like … ugh.

I often don’t know what to say on my ugh days when someone asks me, “How are you doing today?” or, “Do you want to hang out later?” Most of the time I end up just saying something like, “I feel a little tired today—must not have slept well,” or, “I think I’m just staying in tonight, I have a lot of work to do!” Usually, what I really want to say is:

My depression/anxiety symptoms are acting up, and I’m just having a bad mental-health day.

I just feel like people can relate to tiredness and stress a bit more than a real confession of mental-health difficulties. And I don’t want to feel like I’m being a downer or burdening people with my current symptoms.

However, some friends of mine have recently started being completely open about their bad mental health days!

puppy01They are very open about their feelings, posting on Facebook, “Hey everyone, I’m having a bad mental health day today,” followed by words of encouragement for their friends (“You are all lovely people!”) and requests for positive posts (“Feel free to send cute puppy pictures or funny videos!”). Not only were they able to express how they were truly feeling, but they also created a wonderful thread of positivity and puppy pictures.

It didn’t even feel like they were burdening anybody! And bonus, they now have a bunch of cute animal pictures—and who doesn’t want to see a bunch of cute baby animals from time to time?

puppy02Not everyone feels comfortable to post publicly about their mental health state. But if you have a friend or close significant other, it might be helpful to let them know if today just happens to be a bad mental health day for you! I tried this recently with my boyfriend when he asked how my day went—he was super understanding of it, and it also gave me a partner in figuring out how to make my night better.

Have you ever told someone else that you were having a bad mental health day? Let us know in the comments below And feel free to post favorite pictures of baby animals!

TED Talk: The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage

August 3, 2018 in LINKS

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Research on emotional suppression shows that when emotions are pushed aside or ignored,they get stronger. Psychologists call this amplification.

In this talk, Susan David discusses the concept of emotional agility—allowing ourselves to really feel our negative emotions, like sadness and anger, instead of pushing aside those feelings. She argues that brooding, bottling and false positivity always are unsustainable—internal pain always comes out.

Here are some ideas for the next time you are unsure how to label your feelings.

  • Journal. Write about how you are feeling. You may find yourself pinpointing the cause of your emotions while expressing them.
  • Acceptance. Instead of saying, “I’m fine,” or “I’m just stressed,” take a moment to really think about what it is that you are feeling instead of dismissing it.

Click here to watch the original Ted Talk!

What strategies and practices do you use when you’re not sure what you’re feeling? How do you help yourself let your feelings out without brooding or bottling up?

Losing Sleep Over FOMO

August 2, 2018 in Social Media Guide

phonepillow01Have you ever been in the library and checked your phone compulsively while slaving away on a final paper or cramming for a final exam? Are you checking to see what other people are doing—in case they’re having a more interesting life than you are?

That’s called FOMO, or fear of missing out.

And it might continue after you walk home at 2 a.m. and climb into bed—so you take your phone.

We at SOVA haven’t yet written much about FOMO, but it’s a real thing that can be detrimental to your wellbeing. A recent study looked at how much first-year college students are affected by FOMO on social media. Student participants in this study talked about how they kept their cell phones in bed, even under their pillows, for fear of being left out of interesting social situations. One student said,

I’ve been known to answer my [phone] or to answer texts while I’m sleeping.

Some other student participants talked about how they stay on social media while trying to fall asleep. One young woman’s FOMO led her to stay on Skype with her boyfriend so late into the night that they regularly fell asleep with Skype still open on their computers. Her roommate, a participant in the study, said,

One time I was sleeping in the room and I literally woke up because I heard her boyfriend snoring on Skype.

The study found that the participants who went to bed with their phones or computers lost significant sleep because of their FOMO. And good sleep is super important to our physical and mental wellbeing.

What does FOMO feel like to you? How has your attitude and behavior with taking your phone or computer to bed changed over time? If you take your device into bed, have you noticed any effects on your sleep? Let us know in the comments!

Perfectionism: A Good or Bad Way of Thinking?

August 1, 2018 in Educate Yourself

perfectionismI strive for perfection all the time, especially when it comes to academics. If I feel as if I scored less than an A on any assignment or exam then I have terrible anxiety accompanied with crying spells. During these times of distress, it’s nearly impossible to calm myself down. I shake and mentally exhaust myself so much that I cannot do anything else for the rest of the day. These intense distressful experiences last for hours.

The definition of perfectionism is a person’s constant effort to achieve unobtainable goals, and measuring their self-worth according to their accomplishments rather than their own values and essential worth as a person. Being a perfectionist can have positive aspects, such as being very detail-oriented and highly motivated. However, when perfectionists fail to meet their unrealistically high standards, they can become depressed.

The problem is, no one is perfect. Therefore, holding yourself to standards of perfection will always create unhappiness, because those standards are not attainable.

It may seem difficult to let go of perfectionistic ways. I know for me it is hard to stop obsessively worrying about exams that I have taken in which I’m worried that I did not get an A. Here are some ways to take your mind off your perfectionist ways:

  • Watch a movie
  • Color or draw
  • Talk a walk
  • Hang out with supportive friends
  • Meditate
  • Exercise

Engage in any pleasurable activity that does not relate to the activity you are trying to perfect. This will assist in easing the obsessive thoughts that come along with perfectionism.

A recent study showed that activities that foster self-compassion help perfectionistic people avoid falling into depression. So meditation, positive self-talk, and any other activity that supports compassion toward yourself can be especially helpful if you’re obsessing about the latest exam and your possibly imperfect grade.

How do you get past your worry that a poor grade on your biology or chemistry exam will ruin your chances of success? How do you work with the voices in your mind that tell you you’re a failure if you don’t get an A? 

Does Your PCP Screen You For Depression?

July 31, 2018 in Educate Yourself

teenpediatricianAs many as one in every five teens experiences depression during adolescence, but their symptoms often go undiagnosed and untreated because they lack access to mental health specialists.

But everyone’s main point of contact with the health care system is usually their primary care physician—and for adolescents, that can mean a pediatrician. So to support adolescent mental health, in February the American Academy of Pediatrics for the first time in 10 years released updated guidelines on adolescent depression.

These guidelines call for detecting depression early by screening every young American age 12 to 21 every year.

While it might be weird to think of an older teen, such as a college student, going to a pediatrician, it can be helpful for what’s called “continuity of care,” which means keeping the same doctor that you trust because—well, because you can! Some pediatric practices see patients until age 21. A pediatric practice that is adolescent-friendly will have at least one exam room that’s isn’t filled with balloons and teddy bears—it will resemble an adult exam room. And there are pediatricians—like SOVA’s own Dr. Rad, who was just featured in the Washington Post—who specialize in adolescent and young-adult medicine.

A lot of parents take their children to their pediatricians for scraped knees and sore throats “but don’t think of them when it comes to seeking help for emotional and behavioral issues,” said Rachel Zuckerbrot, MD, FAAP, a lead author of the guidelines. She added,

The American Academy of Pediatrics is supporting pediatricians so that they are prepared to identify and treat these types of issues. The earlier we identify teenagers who show signs of depression, the better the outcome.

The guidelines recommend:

  • Providing a treatment team that includes the patient, family, and mental health experts
  • Offering education and screening tools to identify, assess and diagnose patients
  • Counseling on depression and options for management of the disorder
  • Developing a treatment plan with specific goals in functioning in the home, with peers and at school
  • Developing a safety plan, as needed, which includes restricting lethal means, such as firearms in the home, and providing emergency communication methods

“We would like to see teens fill out a depression screening tool as a routine part of their regular wellness visit,” said Amy Cheung, MD, also a lead author.

Parents should be comfortable offering any of their own observations, questions or concerns, which will help the physician get a well-rounded picture of the patient’s health.

It’s important to have health-care providers that you trust. Has your doctor screened you for depression? If not, have you still been able to talk with your doctor about your mental health challenges? Share with us in the comments!

Color to Your Heart’s Content Online, with Weavesilk

July 27, 2018 in LINKS

weavesilkColoring books for big people are a huge trend these days. If your hands find themselves wanting to do something and you don’t have markers and paper, but you do have a computer, here’s a way you can make art.

Weavesilk allows you to make symmetrical art easily with only a mouse or touchpad.

Here are some guidelines to help you get started.

  • Once you’re on the site, click “Draw something.”
  • In the upper left hand corner, there is a blue dot. Hover over it—it should say “controls.”
  • Click on that—it will show seven colors, and you can change the color you are working with by clicking on the color you want.
  • You can mix colors by holding onto color with your mouse and dragging it to another dot of color.
  • You can also play with the bar labeled “rotational symmetry,” and turn the “mirror across center” and “spiral towards center” on or off.
  • Draw by clicking in the center and moving your mouse.
  • To clear the page hit the space bar, and to undo click “z.”

Do you have any other sites you like to use when you need a distraction or to keep your hands busy? List them below!

Do You Have A “Finsta”?

July 26, 2018 in Social Media Guide

finstaA lot of teens have a fake Instagram account, or “Finsta,” because they think it allows them more privacy than a real Instagram account.

Finstas are usually more private and closed than accounts with the owners’ reals name on them.

To teens who have a Finsta, it may feel like a place where they can be more authentic. To post on a real Instagram account, a lot of teens feel pressured to post every day, use multiple filters, and produce perfect photos of themselves living a perfect life. And they also feel pressured to get tons of likes, views, and comments.

On Finsta, they feel like they can be more honest about their feelings and looks and have more honest and meaningful conversations.

This is all very positive and can actually enable adolescents to find community and connection.

But because the audience is so closed, Finsta is also a place where teens might feel free to post pictures of drinking, drug-use, or physically revealing pictures. The posters feel like the inappropriate content won’t get shared. But have you ever heard of the word “screenshot”? This is where Finstas can become unsafe.

Adolescents sometimes create Finstas because their parents have cracked down on their social media use, maybe confiscating their passwords or even shutting down their accounts. They do this because they’re afraid for their kids.

It’s important for everyone, including adolescents, to remember that “privacy” doesn’t really exist online, even with fake accounts. And there can be consequences if you share inappropriate content.

Many parents and adolescents are not used to talking about social media. Instead, adolescents get into the habit of hiding their social media use, and parents in turn try to manage and control their use by confiscating devices, passwords, and so on.

But what if the Finsta is being used for beneficial purposes, rather than inappropriate ones? It’s important for parents not to make assumptions about kids’ behavior, and it can be hugely helpful for kids to trust the adults in their lives enough to actually talk about their social media use when their parents bring it up. They may learn something important about how to use the internet.

And they might get closer to their parents, too!

Police Killings Hurt Mental Health In Black Communities

July 25, 2018 in Educate Yourself

(TW: trauma.)

Antwon Rose Jr., 17, was unarmed when he was shot to death by a white police officer on July 19 in East Pittburgh.

Antwon Rose Jr., 17, was unarmed when he was shot to death by a white police officer on July 19 in East Pittburgh.

Each year, American police officers shoot to death more than 300 black Americans. (By the way, that is a lot more than the number of deaths per year in school shootings.) At least a quarter of the victims are unarmed, and some of them are adolescents or young adults.

Recently, an international medical journal called The Lancet published a study that indicates that when police in the United States kill unarmed black people, it harms the mental health of black people living in those states.

Black readers might be like, “Duh, we could have told you that.” But it’s important that scientists study people’s responses to traumatic events, so that they can assess actual harms that social systems do to populations and use that data to call for larger responses.

In this case, the study suggests that police violence is harming black Americans’ mental health, and it calls for further study of these effects as well as policy changes. One of the study’s authors explained the mental health effects this way to the New York Times:

Having seen something so horrific and traumatic that happened to someone else, I’m reminded in a very painful and salient way that the deck might be stacked against me. It’s really about all the kinds of insidious ways that structural racism can make people sick.

The study also showed that:

  • white people don’t experience adverse mental health effects from these shootings
  • neither white nor black people experience adverse mental health effects when police kill unarmed white Americans, or black Americans who are armed.

The study mentioned in particular the shootings of six victims, four of whom were adolescents or young adults (Oscar Grant III, 22; Michael Brown, Jr., 18; Freddie Gray, 25; and Stephon Clark, 22). And at about the same time as this study was published in The Lancet, unarmed 17-year-old Antwon Rose, Jr. was killed by police in the Pittsburgh area.

The mental health effects of these killings specifically on black American adolescents and young adults has not yet been studied—and since so many victims are adolescents, it ought to be. Since black teens and young adults are part of the black population, they certainly must be experiencing adverse effects—it would be important to look at what kinds and how severe they are.

The study’s authors suggest that programs and policy be designed to decrease the frequency of police killings and to help reduce the adverse mental health effects within communities when these killings happen. Activists are calling for trauma-informed practices in schools, workplaces, and families.

How have you been affected by police shootings of unarmed black people? Have you been personally affected—emotionally, psychologically? What do and your friends do to take care of yourselves and each other? Share with us in the comments.