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Power of the Wonder Woman Stance

June 19, 2017 in Be Positive

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Picture this: a thirty-something woman in business-casual attire standing with her hands on her hips, feet spread slightly more than shoulder-width apart, chest puffed out, chin up, flashing a fantastic grin, her hair blowing just perfectly (okay maybe not the last one) in a bathroom stall.

What?

Research has shown than assuming one of these “power poses” for a few minutes can boost self-esteem.  A TED Talk by Amy Cuddy, social psychologist, argues that “power posing” — or standing in a confident position (regardless of how we feel) — can increase confidence, and might impact our success.

See the TED talk here: Your body language shapes who you are

Try it!  Did it make you feel more confident? Share with us in the comment section below!

Internet Stranger

June 15, 2017 in Social Media Guide

Although the internet can be a great place to learn, connect, and meet people from all over the world, it is important to watch for warning signs and take preventative measures.

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Photo Credit: Akshay Hallur Flickr via Compfight cc

  • Never give out personal or identifying information to people you don’t know, especially if they are persistent
  • Always be careful about things you say or pictures you post, because you never know who is on the other end
  • Never give out your passwords
  • Try “googling” yourself to see what comes up. Is there any identifiable information tied to your name.  For example, where you go to school, home address, or a phone number? If so, you may need to contact the owner or manager of the site to take it down.

We would love to hear your advice about interacting with strangers on the internet! Let us know in the comments.

Asking questions about your health

June 14, 2017 in Educate Yourself

Being a young person is full of changes, and some of these changes may lead you to having questions about your health.

You might wonder whether the things you’re feeling, thinking or experiencing physically are normal.  Oftentimes to get answers to the questions we have, we search the Internet.  It’s nice because it’s so convenient and fast.  Also you don’t have to share with anyone what you’re looking up – so no embarrassment! Right?

But do you really find the answers you’re looking for?  Here’s an example of when using the Internet to look for answers can go wrong. Let’s say you feel a lump on your neck.  Maybe there was a Dr. Oz episode about diagnosing tumors early.  You begin to wonder if it’s a tumor. You look it up online and see all kinds of possible scary cancers!  Keeping these thoughts and online research to yourself can make you really stressed!  The fortunate truth is most young people who find a lump on their neck will not have cancer.  So how do you get your health questions answered accurately without getting stressed out?

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Photo Credit: irfanherdyato Flickr via Compfight cc

You should know that a trusted adult can be more helpful – they most likely have had similar experiences and can help you think it through – and if they don’t know the answer, you can always talk to your doctor or a health professional. Here’s some advice about how to talk to adults about your health!

Also as teenagers get older, it can be important to begin having some independence in regards to your health.  Try talking to your parents about becoming more independent during your doctor visits.  Listed below are a few steps from the University of Michigan on how teenagers can become more independent during their checkups:

  • Before an appointment write down any health problems or questions you have.
  • Upon arriving at a doctor’s visit, check yourself in at the registration desk and complete the forms to the best of your ability.
  • During the visit, speak with your doctor directly and ask any questions.
  • Ask for time alone with the doctor without your parent in the room.

Do you have any other suggestions or stories about talking to a trusted adult or medical professional about your health or about becoming more health independent?  We would love to hear!

What is Anxiety?

June 13, 2017 in Educate Yourself

Is anxiety a real thing? Or just something people say when they are stressed?

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Photo Credit: Tom Simpson Flickr via Compfight cc

Everyone can get stressed out or nervous when it’s their first time trying something new, or they are getting ready for something important – like studying for a test or going on a big trip.

These kinds of feelings – excess worry – become a problem when they get in the way of living the life you want to live.

Ask yourself:

Does worrying make you…

  • Avoid people or places?
    • Like getting together with friends?
    • Going to a new place?
    • Or even going to school?
  • Avoid trying new things?
    • Like learning how to drive?
    • Or trying a new sport/job/activity?

Do signs of stress show up in your body? For example…

  • Breathing fast
  • Having belly pain or feeling nauseous
  • Getting headaches
  • Trouble falling or staying asleep
  • Or even having a panic attack with chest pain, trouble breathing, and feeling like the world is going to end?

These symptoms may be a sign that anxiety is getting in the way of you being who you want to be. The awesome news is we can retrain our brains to not feel this way. A lot of people who feel depressed also feel anxious – and a lot of the same treatments can help with both. Take a look for some more information about treatment and then talk to your doctor about what might work for you.

If you have anxiety and got better with treatment and you feel comfortable sharing – let us know a little about what worked for you below!

Social media: reflect back

June 8, 2017 in Social Media Guide

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Photo Credit: The Open University (OU) Flickr via Compfight cc

Have you noticed that sometimes after looking at social media, you feel worse?

Sometimes it is fun to look at social media, but other times, it can worsen your mood.

It can be different for different people, but some of us feel worse when we:

  • See pictures of friends getting together without us
  • Are having a bad day, yet everyone else’s posts seem to look like they are having the best day ever!
  • See someone’s post about something we don’t like or agree with

When you are in an ‘okay’ mood – try this:

  1. Look at your social media sites and posts you’ve already looked at
  2. Write down what posts would annoy you or make you feel bad
  3. Think about what is the same between those posts

Next time when you look at it – notice if you are seeing the things that make you feel worse – and either skip over them, read our post about how to customize your social media, or just stop looking at your phone or computer and do something that makes you feel good!

What kind of things have you noticed makes your mood worse on social media?

Talking with your parents

June 7, 2017 in Educate Yourself

Often as we get older our relationships begin to change, especially with our parents.  This can be very challenging.  For example, you might have been able to talk with your parents when you were younger, but now it feels so difficult.  Or the more your parent asks about what is going on in your life, the more you may want to keep to yourself.

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Photo Credit: USDAgov Flickr via Compfight cc

However, it is often a good idea to confide in your parent (or any trusted adult).  Try reading these tips to help start opening back up to the adults in your life.

Remember that good communication takes time and practice, and can be very frustrating at times.  Take a break if you feel like you need one.  We promise this is a confusing time for your parents as well!

Is it hard for you to communicate with your parents?  Have you ever tried any of the tips from the article?  Any other suggestions?  We would love to hear from you!

Meet Alyssa: Founder of ‘Inside Our Minds’

June 2, 2017 in LINKS

A member of the SOVA team recently had the great opportunity to meet and interview Alyssa Cypher.  Alyssa is the founder of ‘Inside Our Minds,’ which was previously featured on SOVA.  During this interview Alyssa talked about everything from her own interviewing style to what motivated her to start this project.

Photo kindly provided by Alyssa

Photo kindly provided by Alyssa

What motivated you to start ‘Inside Our Minds?’

Alyssa shared that her own personal experience with mental illness was a major influence on her desire to start this project.  She first began by getting involved in advocacy work and dealing with her own personal mental health struggles.  One day Alyssa made the decision to write her own personal confessional on Facebook addressing her struggles with mental health.  After posting her confessional online, Alyssa felt not only a sense of release from sharing her story, but in return she received a huge amount of positive feedback.  This experience lead her to create ‘Inside Our Minds’ so she could help others share their own personal stories in their own words.  The first interview posted on ‘Inside Our Minds’ on March 30, 2016.

What is the message you are trying to share from ‘Inside Our Minds?’

One of the goals of this project is for those with mental illnesses to know that it is okay to talk about your experience.  Also that many other people share similar circumstances and can relate to what you are going through.  Alyssa said she wants to help remove the stigma surrounding mental health and get the point across that “We are a whole human being and should be treated as one.” By having these personal life experiences shared with those who are not afflicted with a mental illness, it helps provide others with a glimpse and some understanding of what it looks like to live with a mental disorder.

What is your process for interviewing and recruiting individuals?

Her main forms of recruiting are through word of mouth and public advertising.  The interviews take place in a public environment like a coffee shop or her office.  When carrying out the interview, Alyssa makes the questioning very open-ended so the interviewee has the control.  Throughout the interview Alyssa regularly checks in with the interviewee to make sure they are still comfortable with the subject and how the interview is unfolding.  Alyssa highlighted how important it is to make sure the person being interviewed knows that they have control surrounding the subjects being discussed, and that the interview can be stopped at any time.  Also, the individual is not required to have the interview made public.  During the editing process the interviewee is actively involved by using a shared document that is edited as appropriate.  This is done so there are no surprises when the document is posted to the site.  Lastly, Alyssa will remove the post at any time if requested by the individual.

What can you share about the ‘Inside Our Minds’ podcasts?

In addition to the interviews, ‘Inside Our Minds’ has begun producing podcasts.  This is a slightly less anonymous process, although a person can use a pseudonym (or code name) to help remain unknown.  There are typically 3 participants included on a podcast with each podcast featuring a group of individuals with similar diagnoses that have had different experiences with that disorder.  The purpose of this is to show a more rounded view of mental illness because the same disorder can often appear in different ways.  Also an individual can have a variety of different experiences with a disorder.

What do you feel most proud of about your work?

Alyssa feels most proud about the positive feedback she receives from her audience. Often she gets caught up in all the work that needs to be done and admits she can get lost in the shuffle.  However, the emails and positive feedback she receives is a heartwarming reminder that her work matters.

What is your personal experience with maintaining your mental health/wellness?

Alyssa explained that as a giver she has to stay healthy in order to give back to others.  In order to maintain her mental health she participates in a variety of self-care activities. Some of her self-care methods include massages, acupuncture, yoga, eating right, and skyping with her therapist.

What would you tell the younger version of yourself?

Alyssa says she would want to share that just because you had a bad experience with a therapist does not mean they are all the same.  Take the time to find a therapist that works for you and make sure you talk to someone about what you are experiencing.

Check out ‘Inside Our Minds‘ and their podcasts!  What are your thoughts?  We’d love to hear from you!

 

Making Social Media Work for You

June 1, 2017 in Social Media Guide

Do you sometimes get frustrated about seeing things you don’t want to see on your social media feeds?

Maybe you are not someone who likes pictures of food. But you have a friend who posts what they eat for every meal?! You might like hanging out with them, but you just can’t see one more picture of their Starbucks drink or what they ate for dinner last night. What do you do?

coffee

On a more serious note, what if there is someone who is bullying or not being nice to you or others? How do you avoid them and look at your other friends’ posts?

The good news is social media is catching up with our needs. You can and you should customize your newsfeed to show you what you want to see. Here is an article about how to declutter your Facebook by unfollowing, hiding posts, personalizing friend newsfeed lists, and unfriending.

Do you have tips about how to customize other social media sites you use?  Share them below!

Individualized Education Program

May 31, 2017 in Educate Yourself

Recently we did a feature on Section 504.  However, a Section 504 Plan and an IEP, or Individualized Education Program, are mentioned together.  But what is an IEP?  Is it different from Section 504?

First let’s discuss what an IEP is …

What is an Individualized Education Program (IEP)?

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The Individualized Education Program is a written document that is created to meet the learning needs of any public school student requiring special education.

Is an IEP enforced under a law?

Yes, an IEP falls under our nation’s federal law called Individuals with Disabilities Education Act or IDEA.  The IDEA is intended to focus on the student and provide rights and protections to children with disabilities and to their parents.

Who is eligible for an IEP?

A student must be found to have one of 13 disabilities that are covered under IDEA.  The list includes specific learning disabilities, autism, and emotional impairment to name a few.  The full list of disabilities included under IDEA are listed here.  Also, to be eligible, the disability must impact the child’s ability to benefit from the general education program.

If I have a learning disability, does that mean I automatically qualify for an IEP?

No, not every child with learning and attention issues is eligible for an IEP.  An individual evaluation must be carried out to determine whether someone is eligible for an IEP.  The disability must affect the student’s ability to make progress and benefit from school.

What does an evaluation mean?

An evaluation will look at all areas of a child’s life related to a suspected disability.  The evaluation will be used to decide whether the child is eligible for special education and related services.

How do I get an evaluation?

Anyone can request an evaluation for a child.  For example, a teacher may request a child be evaluated.  Parents may also contact the school to request that their child be evaluated.  The request may be verbal or in writing.  It is usually best practice to talk to a parent, trusted teacher, special education teacher, counselor, or pediatrician with any questions or concerns.  Also, parental consent is needed before any student may be evaluated!

What if I am found eligible following my evaluation?

If the evaluation reveals that a student is eligible then the next step will be to create an IEP.  An IEP is created through a team effort and must be reviewed at least once a year.  By law, certain individuals must be included in writing a child’s IEP, and the best IEPs are created through teamwork!

What’s included in an IEP?

An IEP is specific to each individual student.  This means not every IEP will appear the same.  However, by law, an IEP must contain certain information. In general, an IEP will contain information such as:

  • the child’s current level of performance in school
  • the yearly goals for the child
  • the special education and related services to be provided to the child.

It can be helpful to try to think of an IEP as a blue print!

Can I be involved in developing my own IEP?

Absolutely!  If appropriate, it is encouraged that the child be involved in writing their own IEPs.  The involvement of the child’s parent or guardian is also strongly supported.  An IEP provides an opportunity for a team of people to work together to improve the education for a student with a disability.

What if I am found ineligible after my evaluation?  

Do not give up hope!  It is important to discuss other options or any concerns with a school professional (e.g., principal, special education teacher or counselor) or person from the evaluation team. Also, you can still try to access services by pursuing a 504 Plan.

What’s the difference between IEPs and 504 Plans?

There are several differences between an IEP and a Section 504 Plan.  For example, a child must have one of 13 disabilities to be eligible for an IEP.  However, Section 504 Plans include any disability.  Also, the rules surrounding an IEP are much stricter than for a Section 504 Plan.  Want to know more about the difference between IEPs and 504 Plans? Visit Understood.org for their chart that compares both IEPs and 504 Plans to help you better understand.

Have more questions?

To learn more visit the following websites:

If you have any questions or comments about the subject of today’s blog post, please let us know!  We’d love to hear from you!

Writing a letter to your parent

May 30, 2017 in Educate Yourself

Sometimes it can be hard to tell parents how you feel.

When you are going through adolescence and young adulthood, it’s your job to want to try to do things on your own and have some privacy too. So it probably feels like the right thing to do to keep some of your private feelings away from your parents. It also might seem like they won’t understand what you are going through. On the other hand, it’s your parents’ job to worry about you and make sure you are safe. They want to give you space to grow on your own, but they also want to make sure you are okay.

One way to let them know what you want them to know and for them to feel like they are keeping you safe is to write them a letter. You could start out by filling in these blanks:

Dear Parent,

I want to tell you a little bit about how I’m doing.

I think I am really good at ______

Some things I wish I could change about myself are _____

Usually I feel ______

Some things that can make me upset are _____

Ways you could help me would be _____

I want to know more about _____

Thanks for everything you do.

Try it out and let us know how it went!  Do you think a letter would make it easier for you to talk to your parents?