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Mental Health Resources for Black Youth

February 22, 2019 in LINKS

It can be difficult to find resources for mental health resources that feel like they’re targeted to you. This is particularly true for minorities and underprivileged groups. Racial and ethnic minorities have less access to mental health resources and services than white people, and when they do get access, it can be of poorer quality, feeling that the treatment they receive doesn’t fully suit them or that they feel like they’re experiencing discrimination.

angelo-moleele-725358-unsplashAfrican-American communities are no exception. As we mentioned on Wednesday, African-American adolescents require different approaches when developing treatment, because they express their depressive symptoms differently, for a number of reasons.

The options below are just a start to what may be available online for African-Americans and African-American youth. A couple are sites dedicated to one gender, one is an app, and another is a podcast, but all of them have been created and are run by African-Americans, with the hope that seeing something created for you by someone who looks like you can have a more significant impact.

The Safe Place This is an app dedicated just for African-Americans and how they can learn more and think about their mental health. The creator, Jasmine Pierre, is a certified peer support specialist, and has the app offer a forum, statistics specifically about black mental health, and inspirational quotes. There are also self-care tips for things such as coping with police brutality, how to talk to black family members about mental health, and mental health in the black church.

sound-2170379_1280Fireflies Unite T-Kea – the woman named in the podcast’s full title of Fireflies Unite Podcast with Kea – releases episodes every Monday where she allows individuals to share their stories about mental health and the stigmas they face, especially as people of color. She is a mental health advocate dedicated to showing that mental illness can affect anyone, and is a suicide survivor.

instagram-3814083_1280Therapy for Black Men The main focus of this website (run by mental health professional Vladimire Calixte) is to provide a directory for African-American men to access therapists who they can trust with offering services that will be beneficial to them. The search gives you the option to get more advanced beyond searching just by location, including therapists’ specialties, treatment options, and if they provide therapy remotely. The site also has a coach directory and a blog.

Therapy for Black Girls Dr. Joy Harden Bradford is a licensed psychologist who created this site specifically for African-American women and girls to have a resource to learn more about well-being and mental health. Like Therapy for Black Men, there’s a directory listing therapists nationwide who provide “high quality, culturally competent services” for African-American women and girls, letting you search by location and by insurance. The website also has its own weekly podcast hosted by Dr. Joy, where she talks and educates listeners about an array of mental health topics.


Do you have any recommendations? If you’re a minority, do you look for resources that are more specifically tailored for you?

Social Media as an Archive

February 21, 2019 in Social Media Guide

Social media has been around for a really long time. You may have forgotten just how many accounts you have and on what kinds of websites you used to go on. Even sites like Webkinz and random forums technically count as social media, because you interacted with others online. The Facebook account you used to use once upon a time is still there, even if it’s collecting dust, with all the old posts and photos you’ve forgotten that you posted.

tony-lam-hoang-156669-unsplashIf you’re lucky (or unlucky) enough to remember your passwords to these accounts, you can login and go down a trip to memory lane. It doesn’t have to be limited to your old accounts either; Timehop will share old posts for you on sites like Facebook, while Twitter allows you to download your entire archive. If you’re patient, you can also scroll down your Instagram and Twitter profiles, or through your memories on Snapchat, and see things that you’ve posted from as recently as yesterday to even years ago.

There may be some benefits to having access to these old accounts. Some argue that nostalgia – and its social media counterparts through #TBTs, Timehop, and the downloadable archives – can be beneficial to mental health. Connecting and seeing older memories can help maintain your sense of identity and remind you that important parts of your personality have stayed the same over time, and can also spark optimism and inspiration about the future.

On the other hand, some experts say that nostalgia can be a rabbit hole that’s not worth going down into. If you were going through a particularly bad time, you may have posted about it, and rereading that can spark those negative emotions again. You can also be proud of the progress you’ve made since that time, or you may feel bad for how you felt back then, feeling a sense of loss.

con-karampelas-1178814-unsplashOne person shared her experience with social media nostalgia. She shared her journey when she downloaded the archive for her 13-year-old Facebook account. It told her how many times she deactivated his profile, showed her old videos that she had deleted before uploading them, and the order that her friends were added. Despite the sadness she felt and how it all this information was only really useful for Facebook and advertisers, she also felt more human through the activity through the catching up she did.

Looking at social media archives isn’t just a personal experience however. Social media has also made it easy to openly share these memories charles-1161801-unsplashwith everyone on your network. As a result, it’s really easy to feel like you experienced FOMO just by looking at posts of events that you never even knew about until that moment. Posting old memories is also a conscious choice, because while memories maintain your identity, sharing that with others can also be a way to tell your network that you’ve always been a certain way and you’re sticking to your brand. For example, if you post a lot about fashion, uploading an old photo of you as a child playing with your mom’s makeup tells people that you’ve always been into beauty and it therefore makes you look more legitimate and that’s how you want to come across.

Overall, nostalgia can have its positives (that’s why Happiness Jars are a great way to foster positivity), but it be a tricky topic to tackle, especially when doing so on social media. You can always share a #TBT or an old, possibly embarrassing post, whenever you feel like it, but getting trapped in the past can make it harder to grow for the future.


How do you feel about nostalgic posts online? Have you ever looked at your old posts on your profiles? If so, how did they make you feel? How do you feel when you see others’ old posts?

Black Adolescents and Stereotype Threat

February 20, 2019 in Educate Yourself

Mental health and the risks for mental illness affect everyone differently, and this is just as true when it comes to demographics. Everyone has their own experiences and own stories when it comes to how mental health impacts them directly, but your identity can also play a role in how you’re affected.

banter-snaps-12845-unsplashWe’ve talked before about how mental health affects and is perceived in the African-American community. There has also been an increased focus on how mental illness affects African-Americans differently and more severely and how it needs to be treated appropriately as such: the suicide rate in African-American children is significantly higher than white children, for example, and African-American adolescents express their depressive symptoms differently, which requires different approaches when developing treatment.

One of the contributors to African-American mental health, especially in adolescents, is stereotype threat. Stereotype threat is a theory developed by psychologist Claude Steele, and says that minority groups (women and African Americans specifically) being told or made aware of the negative stereotypes associated with them can cause self-doubt and affect their abilities in the related field.

This includes school and academic performance. For example, if an African-American adolescent is told that an exam will measure their intellectual ability, they are likely to do more poorly than if they’re told that the test has no impact. By telling them that it will measure their intellectual ability, they may start thinking about stereotypes such as being less intelligent than white santi-vedri-707620-unsplashpeople, and they may think that they will inevitably make that stereotype to be true. Researchers have looked into how stereotype threat can be a factor in the achievement gap between African-American and white students too.

Once the stereotype threat is present, it can affect academic performance regardless of the individual’s personal ability or skill in that subject. Simply being made aware of the negative stereotypes associated with them makes people feel that they are going to end up like that no matter what, and that disrupts their thinking and how they view themselves, no matter how aware they are of it or not.

Stereotype threat not only negatively affects how people see themselves, but it can also increase symptoms of mental illness. Stereotyping is a way to discriminate others, and those who feel like they’re being discriminated against are more likely to exhibit depressive symptoms. Anxiety can also increase, because of the person feeling like they are inevitably going to meet these negative stereotypes and have to be a certain way. Anxiety can not only negatively impact academic performance as a result, but African-American students may also experience anxiety and depressive symptoms because of low scores and the effects that result from them.

There have been some efforts to help reduce stereotype threat. One of them is the opposite of stereotype threat: stereotype boost. By exposing people to the positive stereotypes associatedhannah-grace-385877-unsplash with them, their performance will improve. One way of doing that is through the media, especially those centered to kids and youths, so that they can be exposed to more positive representation. Ultimately, what’s important to remember is that stereotypes and how people see others who aren’t like them can make a big impact on those who are being discriminated or judged, which can have a further effect not just on the things that may be important on them, but on their mental health too.


How do you think teachers, students, and others in the school can help combat stereotype threat? Have you ever experienced stereotype threat?

Managing Conflicts

February 19, 2019 in Educate Yourself

As children approach their teenage years, life becomes – for better or for worse – all about friends. While this can create unforgettable bonding experiences, it can also make for unforgettable wounds.

silhouette-3141264_1280Because teenage conflicts are inevitable, it is best to learn from the mistakes that are made and grow from them. If not, there can be undesired consequences of festering grudges and unresolved offenses. Eventually, social stresses can turn into maladaptive coping mechanisms such as internalizing distress and aggression.

While we cannot avoid conflict, we can control its outcome by controlling how we respond to them. There are three unhealthy roles we can take in response to conflict: we can be a “bulldozer,” a “doormat,” or a “doormat with spikes.” A bulldozer takes the aggressive route, court-prather-431841-unsplashjonny-caspari-383401-unsplashdominating and running others over, and the doormat allows others to run over them. A doormat with spikes allows themselves to be run over but gets back at the aggressor through passive-aggressive tactics, which may involve a third party or attempt to guilt the aggressor.

One healthy way to approach conflict is to take the role of a “pillar” – standing up for yourself while respecting others. This way takes practice.

For example, say a middle school girl gets left out of a friend’s party:

  • A bulldozer response would be to come to the party anyway and try to ruin it.
  • A doormat response would be to cry alone by herself about being left out, and then try to please the friend to be included into the party the next time.
  • A doormat-with-spikes response may be to stay silent at first but then post an embarrassing picture of her friend from the party later.
  • The healthy pillar response would be to directly approach this friend and ask her, politely and respectfully, why she was not invited, and if she may have done something to offend her.

This also applies to online conflicts – the instinctual response is to take up one of the unhealthy roles. After all, it’s difficult to convey the proper tone needed to be a pillar online. If possible, it is best to take conflicts offline and have a private discussion in person.

pillar-303876_1280In an ideal world, we would all strive to be pillars. But the world is far from perfect, so we just need to choose our battles. Conflict can take an enormous amount of energy, and even being a pillar might not resolve things; it might not generate the response we want by the other person. Sometimes, we don’t have the energy to be a pillar. Sometimes, we don’t have the motivation to resolve a conflict. Sometimes, it feels good to just let some anger out and fester in our angst. But before we do, we can take five seconds to think about the consequences of what would happen. We can think of alternatives – such as walking away, punch a punching bag, or just have a good cry. We can even imagine our delightful revenge, and fantasy in a bulldozer response, without acting on it. Afterward, we can pick ourselves up and try to be a pillar again the next time a conflict comes. Sometimes, it will work, and sometimes it won’t – but those are a part of the growing pains.


Can you remember a time that you were in a conflict with a friend? How did you respond, and how did things turn out? Do you have any tips of what has worked for you, or have any especially challenging experiences for which you’d like to seek advice? Share your thoughts and experiences below!

This SOVA blog post was based off Lisa Damour’s article from The New York Times, “How to Help Tweens and Teens Manage Social Conflict.” To access the original post, check it out here.

It’s Kind of Funny that…

February 18, 2019 in Be Positive

funny-2935405_1280You’ve probably heard the phrase before: laughter is the best medicine. While it may not be the cure for any disease, it helps relieve some of the pain that can come with them. This includes the pain that can come with mental illness as well. There have been studies that have shown that laughing and humor can decrease stress hormones, and by helping to produce a more comfortable environment, can ease anxieties and help those who struggle in social settings feel more at ease. It has also been shown to help with self-esteem and motivation as well.

If you’re a student, humor in the classroom can help you be more productive and be a better learner too. A teacher using humor can help build their relationship with their students and have them feel comforted by the fact that teachers can mistakes too, and it can also be used as a tool to enhance participation and class involvement, helping those who may be more introverted speak up more.

Laughing itself can have a positive effect on the brain and your physical health too. Laughter can produce endorphins and can have an influence on blood pressure, heart rate, and physical temperature.

Comedy takes form in many different ways: stand-up, gags, puns, sitcoms, and so on. People can use humor as a way of coping, such as twisting a potentially embarrassing situation to work in their favor, or by finding comedians who have gone through similar experiences as them and tell the stories in a way that they can relate to.

thought-catalog-635846-unsplashEven if you don’t like to make jokes or produce comedy yourself, you can still engage in funny situations to help ease stressors and feel better. Watching TV shows or Netflix comedy specials that are similar to your sense of humor can help you feel better, or even looking up memes and Vine compilations online can provide some comfort. If you’re sarcastic, you may enjoy more British humor, while those who like puns have a lot of options to find “dad jokes” online.

What’s important to remember, however, is that not all types of humor are created equal. Some kinds of humor can actually make you feel worse about yourself. This includes self-deprecating humor, the type where you make fun of yourself. Pointing out these flaws about yourself may seem like a way of coping at first, but it can still stay with you and remind you of the negative things you view about yourself. Other types of humor may come at the expense of others, which have been shown to decrease social support and can further distance groups that are already marginalized.

Not only do humor and laughing have an effect on your mental health and how comfortable you feel in a situation, but when done right, it’s fun. What’s better than witnessing the antics of others or hearing a really funny story, or being around people that make you laugh so hard that your cheeks start to hurt?


Do you like comedy? What are your favorite types? Do you have any shows, movies, or stand-up comics that you recommend?

Keeping Track of the Good Things (to you!)

February 15, 2019 in LINKS

Yesterday was Valentine’s Day, and on Monday, we talked about ways that you can use the holiday for you and that love doesn’t always have to be shown to others, but to yourself as well. We all have different things that bring us joy – animals, good food, the weather, your favorite clothes – the list can go on forever.

These things can happen on different levels. You may own a pet, for example, or you may simply get excited by walking outside and seeing all the cute dogs being taken out on walks. Today you might have tried a new restaurant and really enjoyed it, or you made that frozen meal you bought on a whim ended up tasting way better than you had expected. Other things can include making it to the gym that day, doing well on a test, or getting a funny meme from a friend.

people-2569410_1920Gratitude journals are a great way of keeping track of this, and because this is 2019, there are ways to log the little things on your phone too. Check out the two apps below that are dedicated to easily put down the good things that have happened to you that day.

365 Gratitude As the name states, 365 Gratitude is meant for everyday use, giving daily challenges and opportunities to talk about the little but good things that have happened that day. They feature a scale of smiley faces for you to measure how you feel that day, and it’s also a social network that connects you to others using the app and you can scroll through a feed to see what things that others are grateful for that day. They also have a “gratitude jar” that fills up as you add more things, and can act as a game, unlocking rewards as you use the app.

Grateful This app is part of a bundle that’s subscription based, which includes a number of similar apps to help improve your well-being and kyle-glenn-336132-unsplashpromoting self-worth. However, you can still download Grateful individually. It’s customizable, and like 365 Gratitude, if a blank page seems intimidating, Grateful provides prompts like “What made you smile today?” to help get you started. Unlike 365 Gratitude, Grateful is private, personal, and doesn’t require a login. You can also add photos to each good thing that happened, so when you look back, you get a visual as well.  

These apps were designed to be more than just a space to write down your good things, but to promote overall well-being through things like seeing what others are grateful for, adding photos to help you reminisce, and helping you track your progress.  


Do you keep track of positive things that happen to you? If so, how? Do you think it’s a good idea to do so on your phone?

 

When Did You Get Your First Phone?

February 14, 2019 in Social Media Guide

It’s difficult to truly disconnect from technology today. Even if you take a break from your phone, lock up your tablet to let it collect dust, or haven’t watched a show on an actual TV in months, screens are still everywhere. There’s electronic billboards, signs with pleasant robotic voices that dictate when the next bus or train is about to arrive, and TVs in stores displaying fashion shows, music videos, and anything else related to the content that they’re selling.

smartphone-160245_1280Young people today have never really known a time without technology, much less the Internet. Some phones were able to have access to the Internet in the 90s and early 2000s on Blackberrys and similar phones, as well as PDAs, which were around since the 80s until very recently. Studies today say that Generation Z didn’t have any time in their life without the Internet, so as a result, they’ve always been connected.

Because they’re constantly surrounded by technology, younger generations understand how to use and navigate much easier than adults. The average age that a child receives their first smartphone was 10 back in 2016, and is likely to be around the same, if not lower, today. About half (45%) of kids who had a cell phone between the ages of 10-12 had a service plan, meaning that they weren’t just limited to WiFi and could access the Internet anywhere. Some kids are even getting their first smartphones as young as 7.

schoolboy-2853396_1920Like the argument about whether students should be allowed to have their phones in school, there may be some positives for parents to give their child a smartphone earlier: some of the reasons listed include being able to get a hold of their kid, giving their kid the ability to access them whenever, and to help the child get more familiar with technology. Parents also mention that having a smartphone means that they can track their child’s location too.

However, there have been studies and reports on the effects of screen time on children. This includes an effect on their mental health: although the effects are greater in teenagers, toddlers and children were seen to also be negatively impacted by spending multiple hours a day on screens. These effects of less curiosity, lower emotional stability, and lower self-control were seen in kids as young as two, which can lead to mental illnesses such as depression and anxiety. And although this didn’t seem to have strong of an effect on younger kids because of the type of screens being used (watching shows on TV and tablets versus smartphones), giving younger kids smartphones at an earlier age may put them at the same risk of mental illness that teenagers are vulnerable to because of constantly being connected to their phones.

Everyone has their own reasons for deciding when and why they received or gave their kids cell phones at a certain age, but it’s important to weigh both the pros and cons, especially when it can play a major role in the kid’s well-being.


How old were you when you first got your phone? Was it a smartphone? Do you think getting one earlier or later would have made a huge difference?

Self-Love

February 11, 2019 in Be Positive

Although Valentine’s Day isn’t until Thursday, stores have been setting up displays and products have been airing commercials related to the holiday since pretty much the day after Christmas.

There’s always some cynicism associated with Valentine’s Day: it commercializes love, it emphasizes romance, it makes single people feel bad, it makes people feel bad if they don’t go over the top for their partner on specifically this day, and so on. The day doesn’t necessarily have to be about the love you show towards someone you feel romantically for though, and you can use the holiday to show how much you appreciate family members and friends, for example.

bart-larue-314562-unsplashLove isn’t limited to expressing it to others, and loving yourself is just as important. Self-esteem and how you view yourself can have a big impact on your physical and mental health, as well as your interactions with others. You may or may not have plans for this Thursday, but you can also use the day to treat yourself and do something for yourself, by yourself, that makes you happy.

The easiest way to do this is through self-care. This is a pretty broad term, but it can be any sort of activity that helps with your mental, emotional, and physical health. It can be as simple as listening to your favorite songs in one playlist or even taking yourself out on a date and going out to dinner. At the end of the day, you only need to make yourself happy with these activities and don’t have to meet anyone else’s expectations.

Everyone’s interests differ, but you can do a few themed things to make Valentine’s Day a day for yourself.  You can buy yourself candy (and if you’refrankie-cordoba-526925-unsplash willing to wait an extra day, it’ll be even cheaper starting on Friday), treat yourself to some flowers, and if you’re willing to, take yourself out on a date and see that movie you’ve been wanting to see or going out to a restaurant you’ve been meaning to try. If you don’t want to do those, if you’re able to, you can always order yourself some good food for one as well. Another option is buying or using a candle in a scent you really like, and lighting it as you’re doing homework or watching your favorite episodes of a TV show.

It may seem difficult at times, but sometimes a little self-indulgence is all we need to get an instant mood boost. And on a day that’s centered around love, putting yourself first should be the highest priority.


What are you doing for Valentine’s Day? When you want some time for yourself, what do you do?

Improving Sleep

February 8, 2019 in LINKS

the-draft-3058831_1920We posted our interview with Dr. Levenson last week about her work in researching sleeping patterns in adolescents and how continuously getting a good night’s rest is important during this time. However, sleeping patterns and the amount of sleep adolescents get can get jumbled because of mental illness: we’ve also previously talked about “depression naps and the effects that they can have. Overall, it’s difficult for adolescents to get the recommended amount of sleep they should be getting, and with higher rates of mental illness within this age group today, it can be even more difficult because of the ways that it can affect your sleep, such as depression napping and insomnia.

There are tons of resources available online and through app stores that offer ways to contribute to measuring and stabilizing your sleeping patterns, but we’ve pulled a few that you can check out below!

Flux You can install Flux on your computer so that your screen automatically adjusts with the sun. Screens emit brighter, blue lighting that can hurt the eyes, especially at night. Flux dims your computer to a softer, orange color at sunset, and you can adjust how strong the color and softness are.

podcast-2665179_1280Sleep with Me This podcast is dedicated to help you fall asleep by telling bedtime stories. The host, Drew Ackerman, takes a comedic approach in his story choice and storytelling, but still does so in a way that helps the listener not feel like they have to pay attention and eventually drifting off to sleep. There are over 700 episodes too, so you don’t have to worry about running out of content.

There are also other podcasts available meant to help the listener sleep. You can check out some other lists for more info and ideas.

Pzizz Science-based and celebrity-backed (J.K. Rowling has tweeted about using it before), Pzizz uses soft music, voices, and sound effects to help you fall and stay asleep. It’s not just limited for sleeping at night, and includes options if you want to take a nap and to help you stay focused.


Do you use anything on your phone or computer to help you fall and stay asleep at appropriate times? If you nap (whether voluntarily or involuntarily), what have you tried to make sure you don’t interrupt your sleep at night?

 

Do You Use Your Phone in School?

February 7, 2019 in Social Media Guide

It’s well known by now that the majority of adolescents either own, or at least have access to a smartphone. Similarly, it’s also well known that adolescents spend a lot of their time using their phones and know it, using it more than other technology such as tablets and laptops.

cell-42409_1280Schools had an easier time enforcing bans on phones in the past, especially when the most kids could do on them is text and make calls. Cell phone use in schools used to be a black and white situation, since it was clear that phones had no way to contribute to learning.

Now, it’s become a little trickier now that smartphones have the ability to connect users to anything. There’s been this new shift in the conversation about whether phones should be allowed in the classroom. One simple reason is that adolescents are more likely to rebel when given harsh and strict rules. If schools completely ban phones and make students leave them either in their lockers or at home, they’re likely going to want to be on them more.

Most associate smartphones with social mediaand most adolescents use it for that – but they also also include resources that can help in schools. Students may use the pre-installed or other calendar apps to log their assignments, and dictionary and encyclopedia apps can clarify things for them if the teacher mentions something they don’t fully understand. Those who are from low-income areas and/or have disabilities may need their phones since schools may be the only place that students have access to fast internet and other students may need technology to help them with their disabilities.

pokemon-1553990_1920Having access to the Internet isn’t the only reason some argue that phones should be allowed in schools. Although many assume that adolescents are using their phones just to communicate with their friends, having their phones on them also gives their parents and caregivers a peace of mind. Adults in adolescents’ lives can reach out to them to remind them about things such as asking their teachers questions or appointments, or to make sure that they’re safe in dangerous situations.

However, smartphones are still distractions. Studies have found that students who use their cellphones in class for multitasking still had to take extra time out of class to catch up on material and did worse on exams compared to those in the group who couldn’t text at all or were only allowed to use their phones just to take notes.

Constant access can also encourage the addiction that people – and especially adolescents – can get with their phones. Allowing them to be on their phones for longer periods can lead to a lower state of well-being and agitation or other withdrawal effects when they don’t have their phones. This can be a problemben-mullins-785450-unsplash especially in instances when they aren’t allowed to use their phone at all, such as when taking a test, and experiencing those withdrawal effects then could impact students’ grades.

So should you use your phone in classes? It’s complicated. The no-tolerance policy on phones in schools aren’t as common anymore, but it’s still there. Finding a middle ground can even be hard, because it can be an invasion of privacy to constantly monitor students’ phones to see that they’re actually using it for academic purposes, and the trust system can get fuzzy.


How does or did your school handle cell phone use? If you’re in college, what policies do your professors enforce with cell phone use in the classroom? Do you think that they care about cell phone use? Do you use your phones for academic purposes?