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Holiday Season Done Differently

December 23, 2020 in COVID-19, Educate Yourself

This holiday season has already been one like no other. With family not allowed to leave their state and having older grandparents/family members who are more vulnerable, I sometimes get a rush of sadness that I will not be able to spend the holidays with all my family. My family would always travel for Christmas to see all my cousins, aunts, uncles, and grandparents, but this year we are not able to.  I do realize that the risk of exposure to my grandparents is something I would not risk. However, it is an adjustment to stray from traditions. Instead of doing gifts in-person, they are by mail. Instead of a huge family dinner, there are smaller gatherings of less than 10 people. Instead of holiday traffic, I’d imagine there is going to be a lot less. No matter what the change is, this holiday season will not be like past years, and that makes me anxious.

Some of my peers have mentioned that they are not able to see family over the holidays this year. Some have family who is not able to come be with them. Although this has been going on since March, it becomes especially difficult over the holiday season. This is a time to be spending with family and the ones we love. I’ve been getting anxious when I think about Christmas and this upcoming season because I know things will be different. I’m not opposed to change, but the change that our society has been enduring is something we haven’t had to go through before.

Utilizing our capability to call, video chat or text will be very important this holiday season so that we are still able to talk to the one’s we love. I know that although I cannot see my grandparents this Christmas, I will be able to FaceTime them and hopefully be able to see them eventually. I want to take the time to cherish the time that I am able to spend with those around me because these holidays could be difficult for some who are not able to travel home.


For those who celebrate the holidays, what do you usually do if you spend the time with your family? What will you be doing differently this year? How have you been feeling this past week given that Christmas and the New Year are both approaching?

Finally Getting Offline

November 11, 2020 in Educate Yourself

I have found myself staring at a screen for endless hours of day. Now, with online school, we, students, are constantly on our laptops. Whether it is to read, type papers, watch videos, attend Zoom classes, or even watching Netflix, I have recently been feeling consumed by a screen. After so long, I get a piercing headache and I know it’s from the excessive use of the technology that we have today.

It is difficult to be able to limit my screen time as I feel like I need to constantly be on my laptop for school. I do not want to fall behind or miss something because I have a silly little headache. However, I have found the importance of breaks. Whether it’s asking my roommates if they want to go for a walk, grab some coffee, or just hang out on our porch for a little bit, I have been realizing that taking breaks during the day for yourself is just as crucial for success.

I have always known that it’s physically, emotionally, and mentally draining to do schoolwork all day every day. Yet, I used to make myself feel guilty or bad when I wasn’t putting my full energy into school. At these times, my anxiety would be uncontrollable to the point where I just would shut down. This is when I realized that I would not be able to do well in school if that was all I was doing. I found the importance of socializing and getting fresh air and exercising.

I would love to hear if there are other ways to de-stress that work well for others, or if there are other ways to help lessen the stress of school… especially during these times. COVID has become a stressor in just about everyone’s life. It messed up our vacations, our social experiences, and our school year. Now, more than ever, we should be checking in on one another to make sure we are finding healthy outlets for all the anxiety and uncertainty going on.


What is your screen time like now? How much control do you feel like you have over it? How are you feeling stress-wise? What do you do to get offline?

Accepting Happiness

August 17, 2020 in Be Positive

This is something that I have recently come across. It is actually quite challenging. For life to be so good. There were days where I never thought life would get better. To look back on the past few days and realize that, finally, you were happy.

There are positive things going on in your life. Whether it is the simple pleasures like maybe a home-cooked meal, or even something larger, like a vacation, a majority of people have had something occur in their lives that brings them happiness. I struggle with being able to accept that happiness can be achieved and stick around.

I think it is hard for me to accept the fact that I have been happy because there’s always this sense of self-doubt. That nothing good could continuously happen to me because that’s not my luck. Those thoughts would linger and make me lose sight of myself and the things I would like to do for fun. Always find time for yourself, time to sit down and listen to music, time to binge a TV show. It is okay to make time to treat yourself. It’s okay to be happy with being happy.

It is important to be able channel your energy into something creative and positive. It could be journaling, some sort of exercise, or even writing. To be able to have to look forward to every day, and something that will make you happy doing. You can hang out with a friend or take time for yourself. I have learned that it is more about the simple pleasures that make me happy, more times than not. Self-care is not emphasized enough in today’s society, and that should be expressed more.


What are little things that make you happy? Do you acknowledge good things as they happen to you? Have you ever looked back and acknowledged good things that have happened to you recently, especially in times when you’re down?

How Do You “Self-Care?”

July 6, 2020 in Be Positive, Educate Yourself

There are so many ways people have tried to take care of themselves. At certain times face masks seemed like a great answer for a spa night. Sometimes people enjoy working out or going for a walk outside to get some fresh air. I am curious about what are some of the best things everyone else does when you feel like you need a moment to yourself?

Self-care is not only important during the school year and at times of high stress, but also at times where you feel too busy. Even though you feel like you have full schedule, I think it’s important that we all start finding time, whether it be an hour or 30 minutes or 10 minutes, to be by ourselves and just take a breath. I don’t believe that it has to be something very serious like going to a spa or anything fancy. Just an hour out at the nail salon to get your nails done, or a few minutes to call a friend or family member.

It’s important to remember that you are human. It is okay to get exhausted, run down, mentally drained, or any other way to put it. That is why I have continuously tried to find time to do an activity that makes me happy a couple times a week. During college, I’ve found it difficult to do a lot of self-care because I have so much more going on: classes, homework, sorority meetings, club meetings, time to study, and the list could continue. It sometimes seems impossible that I could even think to make time to get my nails done or go get frozen yogurt.

It is definitely something a lot of people can improve on, self-care, and it doesn’t seem to me emphasized enough! So go do something for you! Do something to make yourself happy and step away from the stress for a minute.


What are activities you do to relax? Do you ever dedicate a small time to yourself to do some sort of self-care? What activities do you recommend?

Dealing with Cancelations

June 22, 2020 in Be Positive, COVID-19

As many of other people have probably first-handedly experienced this, there are many summer festivities being cancelled as a result of the current pandemic. There are concerts people have been waiting for months to go to that are being cancelled in split seconds. There are festivals people had made hotel arrangements for, family trips, summer vacations with friends, and beach trips that are now having to be postponed until a later month or even year.

These events that people have been waiting months for, are now being pushed back, making people wait even longer. It is frustrating and annoying, but also it is sad. I have seen a lot of emotions results because of the limitations of activities we are able to do. It is especially difficult to be told to stay at home because the weather is getting nicer as well. It is frustrating to have events constantly being cancelled when it really is no longer under one’s control.

Being able to cope with this constant unexpectedness is something that is now a part of my days. I have to realize and understand that I am not alone in dealing with these restrictions. In a more positive light, I’ve been able to appreciate the environment I’m in more. I take advantage of the outdoors and fresh air. I have found it very helpful to be able to go for a walk or just to step outside and clear my head. The ability to focus on something other than what is causing the anxiety, or the stress, or the feelings of overwhelmingness that consume you. When I step outside, I hear the cars that drive by, the dog that’s barking next door, and the kids playing across the street. I am not focusing on the list of things that I need to do during the day for a few minutes.

Being outdoors sometimes makes me reminisce on the days where there were relatively few worries. The days where you did not have to worry about school, or paying for bills, or what jobs you were going to apply for. I think spending time outdoors is something that should be done more among people in our society. Our days are already so consumed by technology, it gives our minds a rest for a least a little while.

Although there is a lot of negative going on it seems, with the pandemic and summer time events being cancelled. It’s important to still see positive in certain everyday activities. There does not always have to be some big event to make your day something special and to make you happy. It is the little things, like going for a walk or going for a bike ride, or sitting on my deck, to help ease my anxiety during stressful and unpredictable times.


What are things that you were looking forward to that were cancelled as a result of COVID? Have you been spending more time outdoors? 

Socializing and Quarantine

April 28, 2020 in COVID-19, Educate Yourself

As we all are going through a situation of a mandated stay-at-home, we find ourselves not being able to go hang out with our friends. Personally, I find this very challenging since all my friends are now home from college due to this virus. It’s frustrating to know that on a sunny, warm Saturday, I am not able to go outside and hang out with my friends all day. I know that it is for our safety and the safety of all those who we interact with. However, it has been hard for me to keep sane and entertained during this time.

Zoom is a great platform for video chatting your group of friends, and with the technology that we have today, it is much easier to keep in touch with those long distance friends. Also, social media outlets like Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat make it a lot easier to talk to friends. My challenge has been that this online communication is not the same as in-person interaction. Nothing has seemed to be able to replace the ability of going out to eat with a group of friends, going to the movies on a Monday night, or going to the gym during a stressful time.

There are things that I have found helpful. I have learned to get into new hobbies and to start projects I have been putting off for months. I am reading books that I have been wanting to, but have never been motivated to or found time to read. I have found out that I really enjoy painting and that it is a great way to express yourself.

One of the most important things I have missed while at college, however, is the time I get to spend with my parents. No kid will admit right away that they miss their parents when they are at college. However, being more mature than I was in high school, I am able to have better and more truthful conversations with my parents that I once would always avoid. I worry for their health during this time and I am spending time with them that I once took for granted. This is something that could be beneficial for anyone, especially when we are essentially forced to.

So, yes, I am somewhat staying sane, but it is still difficult some days. It’s hard to learn to be by yourself while living in our society that tends to revolve around being with other people. It will continue to be a learning process, but finding ways to cope is important and crucial during this time. Be safe and take care.


How has your social life changed during quarantine? 

A Quiet Quarantine

March 30, 2020 in Be Positive, COVID-19

I know we are all going through a similar experience right now. Boredom. Stress. Anxiety. Confusion and fear. Probably infinite amounts of feelings. If there is one thing I have realized during this quarantine, it is that you never know how you will react to things until they have happened.

I sometimes hate school and going to class at the crack of dawn. Now…I would much rather be waking up at the crack of dawn every day in the city I love instead of waking up and sitting in my home-office every day. I am missing my friends and all the little pieces of independence I got at college. It has been really challenging for me to adjust to living back home in my small town again. I have found that online messaging and video chatting has really helped my friends and I keep in touch.

I have tried to find new hobbies and things to occupy my time. Don’t get me wrong, school assignments and online classes still take up a lot of my day. It’s those minutes at night where I know my roommates and I would be sitting in our living room, talking about nonsense, that I miss. I have been painting and reading to entertain myself, but it is still a hard transition. It is important to make sure you are mentally coping with this situation and being in quarantine. Make sure you are able to find thing you enjoy doing. Find a new Netflix show to binge. Video chat your friends from school. It will all be okay.

It is also important to know that you are not alone during this time. There are so many other students that are going through similar situations. Reach out to peers and your friends. Make sure they’re doing okay, and make sure they are coping okay too. It is nice to know that there are other people, similar to yourself, that are dealing with the similar things that you are. I hope you are all staying safe and healthy during this crazy time. Don’t forget to take care of yourself first.


Have you had to change locations during the quarantine? How is this transition affecting you, even if you haven’t moved? What coping mechanisms have you adapted?

Social Media Takeover

February 27, 2020 in Social Media Guide

Today, social media is everything. There are who knows how many apps that teenagers check in a day. We want to know who is doing what, what people are liking, what your friend from home is thinking, what your family is doing, who your crush is liking on Instagram. It’s an obsession. It’s an obsession we all have and we can all admit…yet, nobody does anything about it. I wonder if it is even possible for people to cease the obsession. To cease the need and desire to reply to all the Snapchats or the like all the pictures on Instagram.

I feel guilty a lot of times for spending hours on social media for almost no reason at all, but time gets away from me. I believe that it is just so engrained in our society and culture today that most people cannot stop.

Social media is beneficial, don’t get me wrong. It’s really nice being able to see what my college friends are up to or see my cousins’ pictures. However, people use social media as an outlet. They tweet their feelings instead of talking about them. They won’t “@” someone who they are really trying to speak about.

I have mixed emotions, I guess. I truly like seeing what people do for fun or when they’re on vacation. However, it brings out a negative side of me as I judge myself when seeing pictures of girls who are much smaller than me. It makes me so self-conscience and I become so insecure. I try to remember all the apps there are to edit one’s body or face, and I remind myself that an Instagram picture is more often than not edited. This used to impact my self-esteem a lot, but over time, I learned to be comfortable and confident with myself, despite what I see on social media. Body positivity is so important in our society, especially because of the prominent images of others on Instagram or Facebook. It’s important to love yourself and remember that social media is not everything.


Do you compare yourselves to others’ posts online, especially when it comes to appearance? What do you think are the benefits and negatives about social media?

Excuse to Exercise

February 11, 2020 in Educate Yourself

Going into your freshman year of college is both exhilarating and nerve-wracking. I felt so alone and so helpless at times. Even at times where I was surrounded by my friends, I felt alone. I got help and started seeing a therapist regularly just to talk.

Mental illness or not, I believe that talking to a therapist is important. Someone who does not know your day-to-day life, and someone who does not live it with you as a peer. They are non-judgmental professionals who will listen and advise you on ways to better yourself. This is how I got into exercising as my outlet of release.

It is a healthy way to relieve stress and release endorphins to make one feel better. It makes the anxiety lessen and it made the depression feel less severe. Whether it is lifting weights, running, yoga, or cycling classes, exercising some sort of physical way greatly helps my mental health. To be anxious and feel so trapped in your negative thoughts is terrifying. You don’t know how to rid these thoughts sometimes. For me, I would put on some gym clothes and go for a run, or a walk, or go lift some weights. It was a release and it felt good. It appears like a weight has been lifted off of you after you’re finished. Yes, there is sweat and sometimes pushing your body can be painful, but the feeling of accomplishment after an amazing workout is un-replicable.

It is sometimes hard as a college student to find time in your busy schedule to head over to the gym. Some people prefer to go at a certain time or on a specific schedule, but you don’t have to be like everyone else! Maybe you go once a week, and then this can progress into two times, and then three times. It’s important to find time for yourself that is not sitting in front of an open book and reading.

However, it’s understandable that exercise isn’t for anyone. Maybe a different outlet for someone is listening to music or binge watching a Netflix show. This is great too. It is a trial and error process to find what works for you to ease your anxiety, depression, or mental illness, but it is so important to know you’re not alone.


What coping mechanisms do you have for stress relief and anxiety? Do you exercise? Why did you start?