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Positivity for the Animal Lover

March 27, 2017 in Be Positive

For today’s daily dose of positivity, we wanted to share a website all about animals. The Dodo shares articles and videos “for animal people.” Their mission states: “Our goal is to serve up emotionally and visually compelling, highly sharable animal-related stories and videos to as many people as possible to help make caring about animals a viral cause.”

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Photo Credit: Tambako the Jaguar via Compfight cc

If you’re interested in checking out some cute animal videos, check out the site!

Crisis Hotline

March 24, 2017 in LINKS

If you or someone you care about is in crisis, time is of the essence.

Take some time now to check out a national resource we are lucky to have in the U.S.:

the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

It will give you:

  • a number to call if you or someone you know is suicidal
  • how to tell if someone is suicidal
  • resources on finding a therapist or support group
  • how to create a safety plan to help get you past suicidal thoughts
  • stories and videos about hope and recovery5118029807_e84cff7b73_o

Featured Image: Hipstamatic Series by Fran Taylor CC BY-NC-ND 2.0

Let us know what you thought was useful about this website – share below!

How to Deal with Cyber Bullies

March 23, 2017 in Social Media Guide

Bullying and harassment are unacceptable whether it takes place in person or online.  First and foremost when it comes to bullying, it’s important to remember that it is not your fault.  Bullying is not just an argument you were pulled into but it is repeated and continuing cruel treatment. Some steps that you can take when you experiencing this in-the-moment is not to respond.  You don’t want to empower a bully by engaging in this negative and aggressive dialogue.  More often than not, it does nothing to help the situation.  It will often pull you out of character and potentially entice the bully to continue because they now know the effect they are having over you.  Instead of just going with your initial reaction and responding, save and remember the evidence so you can show it to someone to get help in the future.

https://pixabay.com/en/student-smartphone-bullying-girl-1397451/

https://pixabay.com/en/student-smartphone-bullying-girl-1397451/

If you feel like you are comfortable with it you can address the bully and make it clear to them that this behavior is unacceptable and they cannot treat you in this manner, but reaching out for help is really important.  Being bullied is not something that you need to or should have to deal with alone.  Find someone you feel like you can talk to and will have the resources to help you through this like a friend, relatives, or a trusted adult.  It is especially important to get help when the bullying is really effecting you  in a negative way because you deserve the support. The cruel treatment is not something you have to deal with by yourself.  The police can also become involved when physical threats are being made.

Social media platforms allow you to report and block users.  Doing this will not necessarily stop the bullying but you will not be seeing the abuse regularly which can help you cope with the situation.  The last protective measure you can use on social media platforms is changing your privacy setting.  Making sure your accounts are private which will give you the ability to choose who can comment, like, follow, and see your content.

These tips with more information to help when being cyberbullied can be found on connectafely.org

Have you had an experience with cyber-bullying? We’d love to hear how you handled it in the comments below.

Alternatives to the Language We Use

March 22, 2017 in Educate Yourself

In American society, a lot of words are casually kicked around that have the power to be stigmatizing, insulting, and harmful.  Almost everyone is guilty of it; you find out that your friends suddenly broke up, “that’s crazy!” or you hear that there’s no curve on the upcoming exam, “Oh my gosh, that’s insane…” These words, and many others like them, are thoughtlessly thrown around. But by using this type of language, society makes light the experiences of those with mental illness and other types of disabilities.

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Photo Credit: only alice via Compfight cc

Because these terms are used so widely across our culture, replacing these words can seem like kind of a hard task. But it is an essential step to destigmatizing mental illness. Many of those with mental illness don’t have the same privilege as those who aren’t triggered when saying or hearing words like crazy, insane, and psycho. Words are powerful. They have the ability to hurt, demean, and stigmatize groups of people. To get started on finding alternatives, we found a great list of suggested words to use.

Lydia X.Z. Brown is an activist, writer and advocate for disability justice. Her website has a page on ableism and language. On it, Brown stated “I have included lists of alternatives to ableist slurs, descriptions, and metaphors, if you’re interested in unlearning the patterns of linguistic ableism in your own language.” Brown also provides a list of ableist words that can be stigmatizing (e.g. crazy, lunatic, nuts, stupid). Here is the list of alternatives from Brown’s website, with added definitions to some terms from dictionary.com:

Suggestions for alternatives

-Asinine- foolish, unintelligent, or silly
-Bad
-Bleak
-Boring
-Bullish- like a bull; obstinate
-Callous-insensitive; indifferent; unsympathetic
-Careless
-Confusing
-Contemptible-deserving of or held in contempt; despicable.
-Coward
-Crappy
-Dense
-Devoid of _____
-Disgusting
-Dull
-Enraged
-Evil
-Extremist-a person who goes to extremes, especially in political matters.
-Furious
-Gross
-Horrible
-Ignoramus-an extremely ignorant person.
-Ignorant-lacking in knowledge or training; unlearned:
-Impolite
-Inane-lacking sense, significance, or ideas; silly:
-Incomprehensible-impossible to understand or comprehend; unintelligible.
-Inconsiderate
-Inconsistent
-Infuriating
-Insensible
-Insipid-without distinctive, interesting, or stimulating qualities; vapid
-Irrational
-Jerk
-Lacking in _____
-Livid
-Mean
-Nasty
-Nefarious-extremely wicked or villainous; iniquitous
-Nonsense
-Nonsensical-foolish, senseless, fatuous, or absurd
-Obtuse-not quick or alert in perception, feeling, or intellect; not sensitive or observant; dull.
-Outrageous
-Overwrought-extremely or excessively excited or agitated:
-Paradoxical-having the nature of a paradox; self-contradictory.
-Pathetic
-Petulant-moved to or showing sudden, impatient irritation, especially over some trifling annoyance
-Pissant-Slang: Vulgar. a person or thing of no value or consequence; a despicable person or thing.
-Putrid-thoroughly corrupt, depraved, or evil.
-Rage-inducing
-Reckless
-Ridiculous
-Rude
-Scornful
-Self-contradictory-an act or instance of contradicting oneself or itself.
-Shameful
-Solipsistic-of or characterized by solipsism, or the theory that only the self exists, or can be proved to exist
-Spurious-not genuine, authentic, or true; not from the claimed, pretended, or proper source; counterfeit.
-Terrible
-Tyrannical-unjustly cruel, harsh, or severe; arbitrary or oppressive; despotic
-Unbelievable
-Unconscionable-not guided by conscience; unscrupulous.
-Unheard of
-Uninspired
-Unoriginal
-Unthinkable
-Unthinking
-Vapid-lacking or having lost life, sharpness, or flavor; insipid; flat
-Vile
-Vomit-inducing
-Without any _____ whatsoever
-Wretched

If you’re interested in learning more about ableism and language, visits Lydia X.Z. Brown’s website.

Have you ever been hurt by the words that people have used around you? What other words might you add to the list of alternatives? Let us know in the comments below!

Professional Spotlight: Dr. Chugani and Dialectical Behavior Therapy

March 21, 2017 in Educate Yourself

Dr. Chugani

 

The SOVA team recently had the exciting opportunity to sit down with Dr. Carla Chugani, Ph.D., LPC, a licensed professional counselor that specializes in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). DBT is a type of therapy that was developed to treat individuals with suicidal thoughts and certain mental illnesses (such as borderline personality disorder). We had the opportunity to ask Dr. Chugani some questions about DBT. Here’s what she had to say!

 

 

 

What makes DBT effective?

Dr. Chugani explained that there are four parts of Dialectical Behavior Therapy:

  • Weekly group therapy sessions
  • Weekly one-on-one sessions with a therapist
  • Phone coaching – this allows patients to reach their therapist between sessions for support
  • Therapist consultation team – provides DBT therapists with support and motivation

These four different parts of DBT work together to help individuals achieve their goals and make positive changes. Dr. Chugani pointed us to a great website that further explains these components.

The group therapy sessions of DBT is like a class where the teacher is a group leader who plans out certain assignments and homework.  The “class” tries to teach and encourage certain behavioral skills.  Homework is assigned so the individual can practice what they learned in “class” in their everyday life.  The one-on-one individual therapy sessions of DBT aims to increase an individual’s motivation.  It also tries to apply the skills that were taught and learned during group therapy to specific challenges in the individual’s life.  Individual and group therapy are carried out at the same time. The third part of DBT is phone coaching.  This means the patient can reach their therapist between sessions for support.  The last part of DBT is the therapist consultation team.  This is a team that provides support and motivation to other therapists practicing DBT. The consultation team exists to make sure therapists are providing the best treatment possible to benefit the patient.

What are some of the key characteristics of DBT?

Dr. Chugani stated that DBT is a type of cognitive behavioral therapy with a couple of extra ingredients (to learn more about CBT check out this SOVA blogpost). Dr. Chugani explained that when using DBT it is important for a therapist to support and confirm an individual’s behavior (rather than criticize a behavior). Also, in DBT, the therapist is most likely to include mindfulness, or being fully aware and present in the moment. We’ve done a few posts on mindfulness in the past. If you’re interested, check them out here.

Next, SOVA asked about whether DBT was used to treat any other disorders.

Dr. Chugani stated that while DBT is usually used for individuals who struggle with suicidal thoughts and borderline personality disorder (BPD), it can be a good treatment if a person often has trouble controlling their emotions. Dr. Chugani explained that DBT might be appropriate for individuals who most days have trouble controlling their emotions and have not received any help from other types of therapy.

What are some of the telling signs that DBT is working?

Dr. Chugani explained that in DBT there is a focus on tracking progress in the treatment plan. The treatment plan is created together by the client and the therapist.  It includes choosing goals that the therapist and individual can work on together.  It is important to try to choose specific goals that are understandable, possible and can be followed to evaluate progress. The therapist and client work together to choose the most important behaviors to decrease (e.g., self-injury, substance abuse), as well as healthy behaviors that should be increased (e.g., taking medication, getting enough sleep, etc.).  Dr. Chugani stated that when harmful behavior begins decreasing and healthy behaviors begin increasing, these are signs that treatment is working. An example of a harmful behavior being replaced with a new skill might be a client writing in their journal or calling the therapist for support (phone coaching) instead of self-harming.

Can you explain some of the facets of self-injurious behavior?

Dr. Chugani spoke about non-suicidal self-injury (NSSI). She stated that often self-injury is done without the individual trying to take their life.  Dr. Chugani explained that with self-harm, there is a stigma that people are doing it for attention, but most often it is used to cope with overwhelming emotional pain. Dr. Chugani pointed out that while self-harm is an ineffective way for individuals to solve the problem they are faced with, it is one way to cope. Many people who self-harm experience temporary stress relief and reduction in intense, painful emotions. The relief that is experienced after self-harm strengthens the behavior.

What makes DBT effective for suicide prevention with young adults?

In addressing this question, Dr. Chugani pointed out that DBT is not a suicide prevention program.  Rather it is a therapy to help show individuals who have constant suicidal thoughts that their life is important and they are worth it.  Dr. Chugani explained that the skills learned in the DBT (e.g. mindfulness, controlling emotions) teach clients to be active in solving their problems and how to respond to tough situations without making them worse. Dr. Chugani believes that the skills taught and learned in DBT are things that would benefit and help most people.  She hopes to study the usefulness of teaching skills to adolescents and young adults to protect against future mental health difficulties.

What are some tips and tricks to practicing mindfulness?

Dr. Chugani said that with mindfulness, the best thing is to just sit down and practice. In traditional mindfulness, Dr. Chugani said that people keep their eyes open, but when someone is just starting to practice mindfulness it can be helpful to close your eyes to prevent distractions.  Chugani also mentioned that just sitting can be difficult in the beginning.  Therefore, she suggested counting breaths to help.

Dr. Chugani also said that mindfulness is a process. It’s not about doing it perfectly. She stated that the most important part to mindfulness is recognizing when one’s mind starts to drift off track and re-focusing it. The key to mindfulness is in that re-centering of the mind back to being in the moment, rather than being consistently perfect at it. Here are links to our blog posts on mindfulness if you’re interested in learning more.

What are some good things for potential clients to know about therapy, especially if they’ve never been before?

Dr. Chugani stated that one size does not fit all in therapy. She said it’s important to feel connected and comfortable with your therapist. If you feel like you’re not clicking, it’s much better for the client to step away earlier on rather than use unnecessary time and money. To read more about this, check out our blog post I’m Not Clicking with My Therapist.

Dr. Chugani also recommended that if you have been given a diagnosis or you sense there is something wrong, it’s good to do your own research about the best evidence-based treatment. Evidence-based treatment is therapy that has been well researched and shown to work successfully with certain illnesses. Dr. Chugani said it is worth the time to do the research, if you can, into what type of therapy would work best for the diagnosis to make sure that you participate in a treatment that is most likely to benefit you.

 

We want to thank Dr. Chugani so much for meeting with us and sharing her expertise on DBT. If you’re interested in learning more about Dr. Chugani and the work she does, visit her website.

If you have any questions about DBT, or any of the subjects covered in today’s post, let us know in the comments below.

It’s the Little Things and the Joy They Bring

March 20, 2017 in Be Positive

 

“Searched high and low for a place
Where I can lay my burdens down
Ain’t nothin’ in the whole wide world
Like the peace that I have found

(It’s the little things) It’s the little things
And the joy they bring
(The little things) It’s the little things
And joy they bring”

 

What are some of the little joys that you come across in your daily life? Let us know in the comments below!

Wear Your Label

March 17, 2017 in LINKS

Wear Your Label is an online store that creates clothing to get the conversation started about mental illness. Their profound motto is: “It’s okay not to be okay.” Wear Your Label makes clothing that reduces stigma (they have a shirt that says “stigma free” on it), promotes positive body image and embraces mental health. Each of the team members behind Wear Your Label has experienced mental illness. All of the clothing items have phrases that support mental health. They also have a bracelet line with various colors signifying different types of mental illnesses. Watch their video to learn more!

Wear Your Label partnered with the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) in 2016. In this collaboration, they created clothing that aligns with NAMI’s #stigmafree campaign. Additionally, the online clothing store donates 10% of their proceeds to mental health initiatives. These initiatives include  Jack.org, the Jed Foundation, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, Project UROK, and Project 375, and the Semicolon Project. Wear Your Label also promotes fair, humane, and ethical work standards where their clothing is made.

Check out the website and let us know what you think!

Social Media Can Induce Feelings of Anxiety

March 16, 2017 in Social Media Guide

Social media can produce high levels of stress and anxiety.  Sharing and posting  aspects of your life with others is the purpose of social media but it can lead to negative outcomes. These negative outcomes can cause a mental health concern or it can exacerbate an existing disorder. Studies show that those with higher levels of self-esteem use social media to creatively express themselves by posting and sharing information.  On the other hand, those with lower levels of self-esteem use the sites differently.  Individuals with lower self-esteem spend a significant amount of time counting likes, making sure there is never an unflattering picture, or negative comment made that would change the image of themselves they are creating.

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Photo Credit: Visual Content Flickr via Compfight cc

Constantly checking for updates, statuses, comments, and likes can generate massive amounts of worry and anxiety.  According to psychcentral.com studies show that people feel a constant impulse to check the sites and it can cause anxiety and worry when individuals don’t have access to social media.  The constant need to check up on what is happening on social media can cause sleep disturbances and can cause individuals to compare themselves to others.  When a person begins to compare themselves to others it can lower self esteem even more and cause a cycle of negativity.

Anxiety is a part of life and everyone has feelings of anxiety at times but it is important to stay connected with how you are feeling so you know when things are going wrong.  If you realize that you are checking social media constantly try taking the time to separate yourself from it.  Social media can be fun but your mental health is more important.  Self-care is key and you must do what you can to protect yourself from becoming too invested in this virtual version of yourself. At the end of the day being satisfied with who you are in reality and loving that person is far more important than comparing yourself to virtual versions of people online.

Mental Health & Changes in Functioning

March 14, 2017 in Educate Yourself

In order for mental health concerns to be considered a disorder, the individual usually must present “significant distress or disability in social, occupational, or other important activities” (DSM 5). These vast changes in functioning can look different depending on the person, the environment, and the disorder. For this post, we are going to focus on what the impairment in functioning can look like. Usually, it means there is a significant and negative change from how one functioned previously, to now. There are different areas of life that these impairments can show up in like school, social settings, and other important activities.

Big differences in how someone interacts with others can indicate a problem. For example, if someone is really outgoing and generally a happy, positive person and they become withdrawn and start avoiding social situations for an extended period of time -that might indicate a problem. These changes in social functioning can also take place around family members. Big changes in the way someone communicates might mean the individual is experiencing a problem.

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Photo Credit: matthewstanley via Compfight cc

Additionally, major changes in how one functions or performs at work and/or school can indicate a problem. If someone who typically enjoys school and gets good grades starts having a lot of trouble concentrating and begins performing poorly on quizzes and exams, this also might indicate a problem. Complete loss of interest in doing things that were once enjoyable might mean a problem is present.

With all of this said, it’s also important to note that as people grow up, they can develop and change into new ways of behaving. It is certainly possible that someone grows out of activities that were once enjoyable. As one matures, they might lose interest in past activities. Additionally, just because someone has made changes to the way they function in various situations doesn’t automatically mean they have a mental health problem. Impairments in functioning can be indications of a mental health problem, but the presence of these changes doesn’t automatically mean one has a mental health concern.

Female Celebrities Discuss Mental Health

March 13, 2017 in Be Positive

Check out this video of some awesome celebrities discussing their experiences with mental illness and working on mental health. These women are using their platform to reduce the stigma surrounding mental health.

Did one of these celebrity quotes stick with you? Let us know in the comments below!