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Using Social Media at Night

February 28, 2019 in Social Media Guide

It may be hard for some to remember the last time that they got a proper, full night’s sleep. Schoolwork, jobs, and extracurricular activities are just a few things that can contribute to an adolescent’s hectic and busy schedule. Simply put, there aren’t enough hours in the day for people to do everything that they want, and they often sacrifice the time they should be using sleeping to get everything else done.

charles-351207-unsplashReports have shown that adolescents today are not getting enough sleep as they should be getting, which should be at least eight hours. It’s well known by know that there are many health risks associated with poor sleep, and irregular sleep patterns are also classified as symptoms for mental illnesses such as depression.

A common solution that experts recommend doing to change sleeping behaviors is to at least reduce, if not completely cut out technology as you start to get ready for bed. This often means  not using your computer in bed, physically keeping your phone away from you, and not exposing yourself to any screens.

However, it’s not uncommon to wake up in the middle of the night for no apparent reason. This is known as “nocturnal awakenings.” Depending on what stage of the sleep cycle that you disrupt when you wake up, it can be simple minutes to long, grueling hours before you fall back asleep. The causes for nocturnal awakenings can vary, but stress is cited as a major factor.StockSnap_QGU10TMNPE

But what do people do when nocturnal awakenings happen? Realistically, most people, especially adolescents, don’t make an effort to keep their technology away from their bed. 1 in 5 adolescents routinely use their phone after waking up in the middle of the night, specifically to use social media. In the UK, nearly all of the adolescents who said they use their phone when they should be sleeping are on social media.

One big reason? Adolescents feel that they may have missed out on something if they don’t check their phone. Notifications are also a reason that about 30 percent of adolescents wake up inbackground-3644028_1280 the middle of the night. And even if it’s not the reason that they wake up, just seeing that they got a notification can keep adolescents up longer. Notifications and social media engagement influence the “reward system in our brains, and in adolescents, the pleasure and pain associated with rewards are even stronger. Seeing a notification can make us excited, because we don’t know what it’s going to be about, and going through them all to see which one is “good” makes us respond and use our phones longer.

Unfortunately, it’s easier said than done for people to stop using their phones before they go to bed. But when harmful sleeping patterns among adolescents continue to be a problem, making a cycle out of having trouble sleeping, staying asleep during the night, and taking too-long naps can have potentially long-term effects.


Do you keep your phone near you when you sleep? Do you find yourself waking up in the middle of the night and immediately go to check it? How do you think adolescents can realistically change these habits?

What is YST?

February 26, 2019 in Educate Yourself

soren-astrup-jorgensen-206084-unsplashOne of the best ways to deal with mental health issues is to talk about them. Starting a conversation can be hard, but being able to talk about your feelings can help you to understand and work through them. Additionally, once you’ve shared your feelings with someone else, you potentially have someone you can rely on for social support. Research suggests that this social support is important: a recent study found that the Youth-Nominated Support Team Intervention for Suicidal Adolescents – Version II (YST) might be associated with reduced mortality.

YST is a psychoeducational, social support intervention specifically for adolescents with suicidal ideation or attempts after psychiatric hospitalization. Adolescents are asked to nominate a couple of adults in their lives who they consider to be caring and will support them. A YST specialist then meets with the nominated adults to teach them about the adolescent’s psychopathology, treatment plans, and ways they can support the adolescent. The caring adult has their regular contact with the adolescent, with the YST specialist’s support, over the course of the next 3 months. The goal of the intervention is to provide the adolescent with social support during their recovery process.

eye-for-ebony-415494-unsplashIn a study conducted on 448 adolescents between the ages of 13-17, participants were divided into two groups: those who received treatment as usual (TAU) and those who received TAU + YST. They found that adolescents in the YST group were more likely to participate in some type of outpatient alcohol or drug treatment, attended more outpatient psychotherapy groups sessions, and medication follow-up sessions. In the 10 years after the study was conducted, one adolescent in the YST group and three in the TAU group committed suicide. This suggests that YST might be associated with positive youth trajectories and reduced mortality. It is important to note that while there is an association between YST and positive youth trajectories and reduced mortality, more research is needed to be able to make causal claims.

While this study still needs more follow-up, research indicating that interventions are having a positive effect on suicidal adolescents is extremely encouraging. Since 2000, suicide rates among have increased by 28%, which also includes higher rates in adolescents. Knowing that research is getting a couple steps closer to finding an intervention that helps suicidal adolescents go through their daily lives after hospitalization creates hope for future.


What do you think about YST? Have you ever tried something similar? Do you confide in a caring adult in your life?

Taking a Deep Breath

February 25, 2019 in Be Positive

Tips, advice, and articles talking about the benefits of mindfulness and well-being are everywhere. Blogs and websites (including this one!) have a lot to offer about the ways in which we can find ways to give our minds a break and mentally restore ourselves.

maxime-caron-264222-unsplashWhat’s usually included in all of these? Items such as meditation, deep breathing, and taking time out of your day to relax. Sometimes, it can be difficult to find the time to do so. The mornings can be hard if you’re already rushing to get out of the house (and waking up even earlier can be difficult!), you may be too exhausted in the evenings and just want to go straight to bed, or you may have so much to do that ironically, even taking a couple of minutes out to breathe can cause anxiety because it may put you behind schedule.

A couple of minutes may be all you need though. It can be overwhelming to consider doing at first, since there’s only so much time in the day, and it can also feel awkward, because it’s not something that we often do, but even just a few deep, controlled breaths can have a significant impact on our bodies.

kuo-chiao-lin-260614-unsplashThe activity of deep breathing has been proven to have a lot of positive effects. It can restore pH balance and change blood pressure, and even have an influence on asthma and the risks of heart failure. Deep breathing also allows for full oxygen exchange (allowing more oxygen to come into the body and more carbon dioxide to leave). This allows the heartbeat to slow down, which can have a powerful influence on stress levels.

These techniques to reduce stress has been proven to affect students when taught in the classroom, reporting that they experienced less test anxiety, self doubt, and found that they were able to concentrate more. Making sure that you’re only concentrating on focusing on things like victor-garcia-1057436-unsplashhow many breaths you take and for how long help clear the mind, so that by the time that you’re done, you’re not overwhelmed by your tasks and instead have a space where you can organize them in an easier way.

Meditating and deep breathing can be so much simpler than what people first think of. Yoga, aromatherapy, and taking long baths are great ways of practicing mindfulness, but so is just sitting in your chair, closing your eyes, and taking a few long, deep breaths.


Do you, or have you ever tried deep breathing exercises? When do you think would be the best time to practice them?

Mental Health Resources for Black Youth

February 22, 2019 in LINKS

It can be difficult to find resources for mental health resources that feel like they’re targeted to you. This is particularly true for minorities and underprivileged groups. Racial and ethnic minorities have less access to mental health resources and services than white people, and when they do get access, it can be of poorer quality, feeling that the treatment they receive doesn’t fully suit them or that they feel like they’re experiencing discrimination.

angelo-moleele-725358-unsplashAfrican-American communities are no exception. As we mentioned on Wednesday, African-American adolescents require different approaches when developing treatment, because they express their depressive symptoms differently, for a number of reasons.

The options below are just a start to what may be available online for African-Americans and African-American youth. A couple are sites dedicated to one gender, one is an app, and another is a podcast, but all of them have been created and are run by African-Americans, with the hope that seeing something created for you by someone who looks like you can have a more significant impact.

The Safe Place This is an app dedicated just for African-Americans and how they can learn more and think about their mental health. The creator, Jasmine Pierre, is a certified peer support specialist, and has the app offer a forum, statistics specifically about black mental health, and inspirational quotes. There are also self-care tips for things such as coping with police brutality, how to talk to black family members about mental health, and mental health in the black church.

sound-2170379_1280Fireflies Unite T-Kea – the woman named in the podcast’s full title of Fireflies Unite Podcast with Kea – releases episodes every Monday where she allows individuals to share their stories about mental health and the stigmas they face, especially as people of color. She is a mental health advocate dedicated to showing that mental illness can affect anyone, and is a suicide survivor.

instagram-3814083_1280Therapy for Black Men The main focus of this website (run by mental health professional Vladimire Calixte) is to provide a directory for African-American men to access therapists who they can trust with offering services that will be beneficial to them. The search gives you the option to get more advanced beyond searching just by location, including therapists’ specialties, treatment options, and if they provide therapy remotely. The site also has a coach directory and a blog.

Therapy for Black Girls Dr. Joy Harden Bradford is a licensed psychologist who created this site specifically for African-American women and girls to have a resource to learn more about well-being and mental health. Like Therapy for Black Men, there’s a directory listing therapists nationwide who provide “high quality, culturally competent services” for African-American women and girls, letting you search by location and by insurance. The website also has its own weekly podcast hosted by Dr. Joy, where she talks and educates listeners about an array of mental health topics.


Do you have any recommendations? If you’re a minority, do you look for resources that are more specifically tailored for you?

Social Media as an Archive

February 21, 2019 in Social Media Guide

Social media has been around for a really long time. You may have forgotten just how many accounts you have and on what kinds of websites you used to go on. Even sites like Webkinz and random forums technically count as social media, because you interacted with others online. The Facebook account you used to use once upon a time is still there, even if it’s collecting dust, with all the old posts and photos you’ve forgotten that you posted.

tony-lam-hoang-156669-unsplashIf you’re lucky (or unlucky) enough to remember your passwords to these accounts, you can login and go down a trip to memory lane. It doesn’t have to be limited to your old accounts either; Timehop will share old posts for you on sites like Facebook, while Twitter allows you to download your entire archive. If you’re patient, you can also scroll down your Instagram and Twitter profiles, or through your memories on Snapchat, and see things that you’ve posted from as recently as yesterday to even years ago.

There may be some benefits to having access to these old accounts. Some argue that nostalgia – and its social media counterparts through #TBTs, Timehop, and the downloadable archives – can be beneficial to mental health. Connecting and seeing older memories can help maintain your sense of identity and remind you that important parts of your personality have stayed the same over time, and can also spark optimism and inspiration about the future.

On the other hand, some experts say that nostalgia can be a rabbit hole that’s not worth going down into. If you were going through a particularly bad time, you may have posted about it, and rereading that can spark those negative emotions again. You can also be proud of the progress you’ve made since that time, or you may feel bad for how you felt back then, feeling a sense of loss.

con-karampelas-1178814-unsplashOne person shared her experience with social media nostalgia. She shared her journey when she downloaded the archive for her 13-year-old Facebook account. It told her how many times she deactivated his profile, showed her old videos that she had deleted before uploading them, and the order that her friends were added. Despite the sadness she felt and how it all this information was only really useful for Facebook and advertisers, she also felt more human through the activity through the catching up she did.

Looking at social media archives isn’t just a personal experience however. Social media has also made it easy to openly share these memories charles-1161801-unsplashwith everyone on your network. As a result, it’s really easy to feel like you experienced FOMO just by looking at posts of events that you never even knew about until that moment. Posting old memories is also a conscious choice, because while memories maintain your identity, sharing that with others can also be a way to tell your network that you’ve always been a certain way and you’re sticking to your brand. For example, if you post a lot about fashion, uploading an old photo of you as a child playing with your mom’s makeup tells people that you’ve always been into beauty and it therefore makes you look more legitimate and that’s how you want to come across.

Overall, nostalgia can have its positives (that’s why Happiness Jars are a great way to foster positivity), but it be a tricky topic to tackle, especially when doing so on social media. You can always share a #TBT or an old, possibly embarrassing post, whenever you feel like it, but getting trapped in the past can make it harder to grow for the future.


How do you feel about nostalgic posts online? Have you ever looked at your old posts on your profiles? If so, how did they make you feel? How do you feel when you see others’ old posts?

Black Adolescents and Stereotype Threat

February 20, 2019 in Educate Yourself

Mental health and the risks for mental illness affect everyone differently, and this is just as true when it comes to demographics. Everyone has their own experiences and own stories when it comes to how mental health impacts them directly, but your identity can also play a role in how you’re affected.

banter-snaps-12845-unsplashWe’ve talked before about how mental health affects and is perceived in the African-American community. There has also been an increased focus on how mental illness affects African-Americans differently and more severely and how it needs to be treated appropriately as such: the suicide rate in African-American children is significantly higher than white children, for example, and African-American adolescents express their depressive symptoms differently, which requires different approaches when developing treatment.

One of the contributors to African-American mental health, especially in adolescents, is stereotype threat. Stereotype threat is a theory developed by psychologist Claude Steele, and says that minority groups (women and African Americans specifically) being told or made aware of the negative stereotypes associated with them can cause self-doubt and affect their abilities in the related field.

This includes school and academic performance. For example, if an African-American adolescent is told that an exam will measure their intellectual ability, they are likely to do more poorly than if they’re told that the test has no impact. By telling them that it will measure their intellectual ability, they may start thinking about stereotypes such as being less intelligent than white santi-vedri-707620-unsplashpeople, and they may think that they will inevitably make that stereotype to be true. Researchers have looked into how stereotype threat can be a factor in the achievement gap between African-American and white students too.

Once the stereotype threat is present, it can affect academic performance regardless of the individual’s personal ability or skill in that subject. Simply being made aware of the negative stereotypes associated with them makes people feel that they are going to end up like that no matter what, and that disrupts their thinking and how they view themselves, no matter how aware they are of it or not.

Stereotype threat not only negatively affects how people see themselves, but it can also increase symptoms of mental illness. Stereotyping is a way to discriminate others, and those who feel like they’re being discriminated against are more likely to exhibit depressive symptoms. Anxiety can also increase, because of the person feeling like they are inevitably going to meet these negative stereotypes and have to be a certain way. Anxiety can not only negatively impact academic performance as a result, but African-American students may also experience anxiety and depressive symptoms because of low scores and the effects that result from them.

There have been some efforts to help reduce stereotype threat. One of them is the opposite of stereotype threat: stereotype boost. By exposing people to the positive stereotypes associatedhannah-grace-385877-unsplash with them, their performance will improve. One way of doing that is through the media, especially those centered to kids and youths, so that they can be exposed to more positive representation. Ultimately, what’s important to remember is that stereotypes and how people see others who aren’t like them can make a big impact on those who are being discriminated or judged, which can have a further effect not just on the things that may be important on them, but on their mental health too.


How do you think teachers, students, and others in the school can help combat stereotype threat? Have you ever experienced stereotype threat?

Managing Conflicts

February 19, 2019 in Educate Yourself

As children approach their teenage years, life becomes – for better or for worse – all about friends. While this can create unforgettable bonding experiences, it can also make for unforgettable wounds.

silhouette-3141264_1280Because teenage conflicts are inevitable, it is best to learn from the mistakes that are made and grow from them. If not, there can be undesired consequences of festering grudges and unresolved offenses. Eventually, social stresses can turn into maladaptive coping mechanisms such as internalizing distress and aggression.

While we cannot avoid conflict, we can control its outcome by controlling how we respond to them. There are three unhealthy roles we can take in response to conflict: we can be a “bulldozer,” a “doormat,” or a “doormat with spikes.” A bulldozer takes the aggressive route, court-prather-431841-unsplashjonny-caspari-383401-unsplashdominating and running others over, and the doormat allows others to run over them. A doormat with spikes allows themselves to be run over but gets back at the aggressor through passive-aggressive tactics, which may involve a third party or attempt to guilt the aggressor.

One healthy way to approach conflict is to take the role of a “pillar” – standing up for yourself while respecting others. This way takes practice.

For example, say a middle school girl gets left out of a friend’s party:

  • A bulldozer response would be to come to the party anyway and try to ruin it.
  • A doormat response would be to cry alone by herself about being left out, and then try to please the friend to be included into the party the next time.
  • A doormat-with-spikes response may be to stay silent at first but then post an embarrassing picture of her friend from the party later.
  • The healthy pillar response would be to directly approach this friend and ask her, politely and respectfully, why she was not invited, and if she may have done something to offend her.

This also applies to online conflicts – the instinctual response is to take up one of the unhealthy roles. After all, it’s difficult to convey the proper tone needed to be a pillar online. If possible, it is best to take conflicts offline and have a private discussion in person.

pillar-303876_1280In an ideal world, we would all strive to be pillars. But the world is far from perfect, so we just need to choose our battles. Conflict can take an enormous amount of energy, and even being a pillar might not resolve things; it might not generate the response we want by the other person. Sometimes, we don’t have the energy to be a pillar. Sometimes, we don’t have the motivation to resolve a conflict. Sometimes, it feels good to just let some anger out and fester in our angst. But before we do, we can take five seconds to think about the consequences of what would happen. We can think of alternatives – such as walking away, punch a punching bag, or just have a good cry. We can even imagine our delightful revenge, and fantasy in a bulldozer response, without acting on it. Afterward, we can pick ourselves up and try to be a pillar again the next time a conflict comes. Sometimes, it will work, and sometimes it won’t – but those are a part of the growing pains.


Can you remember a time that you were in a conflict with a friend? How did you respond, and how did things turn out? Do you have any tips of what has worked for you, or have any especially challenging experiences for which you’d like to seek advice? Share your thoughts and experiences below!

This SOVA blog post was based off Lisa Damour’s article from The New York Times, “How to Help Tweens and Teens Manage Social Conflict.” To access the original post, check it out here.

It’s Kind of Funny that…

February 18, 2019 in Be Positive

funny-2935405_1280You’ve probably heard the phrase before: laughter is the best medicine. While it may not be the cure for any disease, it helps relieve some of the pain that can come with them. This includes the pain that can come with mental illness as well. There have been studies that have shown that laughing and humor can decrease stress hormones, and by helping to produce a more comfortable environment, can ease anxieties and help those who struggle in social settings feel more at ease. It has also been shown to help with self-esteem and motivation as well.

If you’re a student, humor in the classroom can help you be more productive and be a better learner too. A teacher using humor can help build their relationship with their students and have them feel comforted by the fact that teachers can mistakes too, and it can also be used as a tool to enhance participation and class involvement, helping those who may be more introverted speak up more.

Laughing itself can have a positive effect on the brain and your physical health too. Laughter can produce endorphins and can have an influence on blood pressure, heart rate, and physical temperature.

Comedy takes form in many different ways: stand-up, gags, puns, sitcoms, and so on. People can use humor as a way of coping, such as twisting a potentially embarrassing situation to work in their favor, or by finding comedians who have gone through similar experiences as them and tell the stories in a way that they can relate to.

thought-catalog-635846-unsplashEven if you don’t like to make jokes or produce comedy yourself, you can still engage in funny situations to help ease stressors and feel better. Watching TV shows or Netflix comedy specials that are similar to your sense of humor can help you feel better, or even looking up memes and Vine compilations online can provide some comfort. If you’re sarcastic, you may enjoy more British humor, while those who like puns have a lot of options to find “dad jokes” online.

What’s important to remember, however, is that not all types of humor are created equal. Some kinds of humor can actually make you feel worse about yourself. This includes self-deprecating humor, the type where you make fun of yourself. Pointing out these flaws about yourself may seem like a way of coping at first, but it can still stay with you and remind you of the negative things you view about yourself. Other types of humor may come at the expense of others, which have been shown to decrease social support and can further distance groups that are already marginalized.

Not only do humor and laughing have an effect on your mental health and how comfortable you feel in a situation, but when done right, it’s fun. What’s better than witnessing the antics of others or hearing a really funny story, or being around people that make you laugh so hard that your cheeks start to hurt?


Do you like comedy? What are your favorite types? Do you have any shows, movies, or stand-up comics that you recommend?

Keeping Track of the Good Things (to you!)

February 15, 2019 in LINKS

Yesterday was Valentine’s Day, and on Monday, we talked about ways that you can use the holiday for you and that love doesn’t always have to be shown to others, but to yourself as well. We all have different things that bring us joy – animals, good food, the weather, your favorite clothes – the list can go on forever.

These things can happen on different levels. You may own a pet, for example, or you may simply get excited by walking outside and seeing all the cute dogs being taken out on walks. Today you might have tried a new restaurant and really enjoyed it, or you made that frozen meal you bought on a whim ended up tasting way better than you had expected. Other things can include making it to the gym that day, doing well on a test, or getting a funny meme from a friend.

people-2569410_1920Gratitude journals are a great way of keeping track of this, and because this is 2019, there are ways to log the little things on your phone too. Check out the two apps below that are dedicated to easily put down the good things that have happened to you that day.

365 Gratitude As the name states, 365 Gratitude is meant for everyday use, giving daily challenges and opportunities to talk about the little but good things that have happened that day. They feature a scale of smiley faces for you to measure how you feel that day, and it’s also a social network that connects you to others using the app and you can scroll through a feed to see what things that others are grateful for that day. They also have a “gratitude jar” that fills up as you add more things, and can act as a game, unlocking rewards as you use the app.

Grateful This app is part of a bundle that’s subscription based, which includes a number of similar apps to help improve your well-being and kyle-glenn-336132-unsplashpromoting self-worth. However, you can still download Grateful individually. It’s customizable, and like 365 Gratitude, if a blank page seems intimidating, Grateful provides prompts like “What made you smile today?” to help get you started. Unlike 365 Gratitude, Grateful is private, personal, and doesn’t require a login. You can also add photos to each good thing that happened, so when you look back, you get a visual as well.  

These apps were designed to be more than just a space to write down your good things, but to promote overall well-being through things like seeing what others are grateful for, adding photos to help you reminisce, and helping you track your progress.  


Do you keep track of positive things that happen to you? If so, how? Do you think it’s a good idea to do so on your phone?

 

When Did You Get Your First Phone?

February 14, 2019 in Social Media Guide

It’s difficult to truly disconnect from technology today. Even if you take a break from your phone, lock up your tablet to let it collect dust, or haven’t watched a show on an actual TV in months, screens are still everywhere. There’s electronic billboards, signs with pleasant robotic voices that dictate when the next bus or train is about to arrive, and TVs in stores displaying fashion shows, music videos, and anything else related to the content that they’re selling.

smartphone-160245_1280Young people today have never really known a time without technology, much less the Internet. Some phones were able to have access to the Internet in the 90s and early 2000s on Blackberrys and similar phones, as well as PDAs, which were around since the 80s until very recently. Studies today say that Generation Z didn’t have any time in their life without the Internet, so as a result, they’ve always been connected.

Because they’re constantly surrounded by technology, younger generations understand how to use and navigate much easier than adults. The average age that a child receives their first smartphone was 10 back in 2016, and is likely to be around the same, if not lower, today. About half (45%) of kids who had a cell phone between the ages of 10-12 had a service plan, meaning that they weren’t just limited to WiFi and could access the Internet anywhere. Some kids are even getting their first smartphones as young as 7.

schoolboy-2853396_1920Like the argument about whether students should be allowed to have their phones in school, there may be some positives for parents to give their child a smartphone earlier: some of the reasons listed include being able to get a hold of their kid, giving their kid the ability to access them whenever, and to help the child get more familiar with technology. Parents also mention that having a smartphone means that they can track their child’s location too.

However, there have been studies and reports on the effects of screen time on children. This includes an effect on their mental health: although the effects are greater in teenagers, toddlers and children were seen to also be negatively impacted by spending multiple hours a day on screens. These effects of less curiosity, lower emotional stability, and lower self-control were seen in kids as young as two, which can lead to mental illnesses such as depression and anxiety. And although this didn’t seem to have strong of an effect on younger kids because of the type of screens being used (watching shows on TV and tablets versus smartphones), giving younger kids smartphones at an earlier age may put them at the same risk of mental illness that teenagers are vulnerable to because of constantly being connected to their phones.

Everyone has their own reasons for deciding when and why they received or gave their kids cell phones at a certain age, but it’s important to weigh both the pros and cons, especially when it can play a major role in the kid’s well-being.


How old were you when you first got your phone? Was it a smartphone? Do you think getting one earlier or later would have made a huge difference?