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Turning Social Media Negativity into Positivity

May 17, 2018 in Social Media Guide

online-negativityHave you ever seen a negative, hurtful comment on a picture or a post online?

Have you ever come across some super opinionated comments that were posted anonymously, and scrolled past them, trying to ignore them?

These days, everybody has some connection to social media. And social media platforms enable people to express their opinions without filter, without thought for the feelings and reactions of others—and without accountability or responsibility, because people can post anonymously, and they use that anonymity as a way to hide.

I recently came across a TED talk that confronts and even engages with these types of comments that have touched all of us—regardless of whether they were meant for us, for our friends, or even harsh comments of strangers on posts we happen to come upon.

The presenter is Dylan Marron, host of a podcast called “Conversations with People who Hate Me,” in which he contacts people who have left negative or hateful comments on his videos or on social media. The goal of Marron’s podcast, he writes, is to take mean 0nline conversations and turn them into productive offline conversations.

In his TED talk, Marron explains: “Sometimes, the most subversive thing you could do is to actually speak with the people you disagree with, and not simply at them.” Acknowledging a different opinion of your own is a way of opening your eyes to the unknown, even if you don’t agree. 

I encourage you to try this, if you face negativity and judgment from people in your own life, and see how much it can change you.

Click below to listen to the talk! And let us know below how social media negativity has affected you, and how you feel about the possibility of actually engaging with these comments instead of just trying to ignore them.

Reading about Mental Illness

March 30, 2018 in LINKS

reading01How much do you actually know about depression, anxiety, and other mental illnesses you suffer from, or know people who suffer from them? Educating myself was a huge step towards recovery for me:

  • It gave me a better understanding of the causes of my illnesses
  • It resolved the question of “What’s wrong with me?”
  • It provided me with a platform of information from which I went on to seek treatment for my illnesses.

Buzzfeed has released a list of books about understanding mental illnesses and disorders, ranging from memoirs and novels to more self-help and informative books. I highly recommend reading through a few of them!

Click here for the full list of “31 Books That Will Help You Better Understand Mental Illness and Disorders.”

What books or articles have you read that have given you a better understanding of your mental health challenges? What aspects of these helped you? Share with our community in the comments.

TED Talk: The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage

March 2, 2018 in LINKS

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Research on emotional suppression shows that when emotions are pushed aside or ignored,they get stronger. Psychologists call this amplification.

In this talk, Susan David discusses the concept of emotional agility—allowing ourselves to really feel our negative emotions, like sadness and anger, instead of pushing aside those feelings. She argues that brooding, bottling and false positivity always are unsustainable—internal pain always comes out.

Here are some ideas for the next time you are unsure how to label your feelings.

  • Journal. Write about how you are feeling. You may find yourself pinpointing the cause of your emotions while expressing them.
  • Acceptance. Instead of saying, “I’m fine,” or “I’m just stressed,” take a moment to really think about what it is that you are feeling instead of dismissing it.

Click here to watch the original Ted Talk!

What strategies and practices do you use when you’re not sure what you’re feeling? How do you help yourself let your feelings out without brooding or bottling up?

The Science Behind Nature and Happiness

February 6, 2018 in Educate Yourself

Do you find that you tend to be in a better mood when the sun is shining, when you are walking through a park, or when you are by a creek and hear birds chirping away in the background? There is a reason for this.

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A new study found that exposure to nature is linked with not only higher momentary happiness, but also prolonged happiness afterwards, which shows lasting benefits of being with nature.

The implications of this are great for us, as I already find that taking a walk generally helps calm me down if I am stressed or anxious. The researchers behind the study are not saying that we now have to go live deep in a forest, but that we may feel benefits from living in urban or city areas that include elements of nature.

Some things you can do if you don’t have immediate access to a park or river:

  • Go cloud watching.
  • Open a window in your house.
  • Take a short walk around the block.

Read a summary of the study here, or take a look at the full academic paper here!

Do you find your mood is better when you’re outside? Do you find it hard to sometimes motivate yourself to get out? What do you do in the colder months when it is harder to get outdoors? We’d love to hear from you in the Comments section!

Prioritizing Yourself

January 19, 2018 in Educate Yourself, LINKS

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One of the most important things I have learned on my mental health journey is that it’s okay to be self-centered. In fact, you NEED to be self-centered to some degree. It’s so easy to get caught up in the lives of everyone around you and lose sight of your own path.

At the beginning of 2018, I decided to make myself the focus of this year. While this doesn’t mean I neglect my friends and family, it does mean that I stop breaking my back doing things that don’t bring me joy. Here are some of the important steps I’ve taken to accomplish this goal:

  • Step back. Take everybody in your life out of the equation and look at yourself and where you are in relation to your own goals.
  • Prioritize. You are the most important thing in your life. Your mental health comes first, over the cares and whims of your parents, friends, and peers.
  • Reevaluate. Ask yourself why you are doing something that you’re doing. What is your investment? Does it make you happy? Are you doing it for yourself, or are you doing it for somebody else?

If you want to read more, here are some links to other places that talk about how to make yourself a priority in your own life:

Psychology Today

Tiny Buddha

Thought Catalog

What are some ways you make yourself your first priority in your life? Let us know in the comments!

Breathe2Relax – Stress Management

December 7, 2017 in Social Media Guide

StressDo your stress levels increase as the holidays arrive? Mine certainly do. Although I personally love all things Christmas and holidays and family, I definitely experience a spike in stress as December harbors finals week, excessive family time, the pressure of buying the perfect gift for your loved ones, and the unrealistic expectation to be happy and full of spirit all the time.

So how do you deal with this stress? I use an iPhone app called Breathe2Relax, which has many different breathing exercises you can do to de-stress and stabilize your mood if things are starting to feel like they are getting out of hand. Not only does this app have breathing techniques for you, but it helps you to identify things or situations that are stressing you out. If there are patterns of things that cause tension in your body, this is the app that will help you figure that out, so you can change or alleviate your environment of things that are stress-inducing.  Breathe2Relax is available for download in both the App Store and on Google Play.

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The next time you find yourself in need of some stress relief, try this!

  • Breathe. Close your eyes, and take 10 deep breaths, focusing on the inhaling and exhaling of your lungs.
  • Reflect. What is it in your environment that is causing you to feel this way?
  • Reframe. How can you change your environment? If you can’t, how can you change the way you react to the stressful thing in your environment?

Do you find the holidays stressful?  What other apps or techniques do you use to fight your holiday stress?

Shinetext.com Review

November 17, 2017 in LINKS

Do you sometimes feel like you need an extra boost to start your day? I often lie in bed for a long time after my alarm has gone off, making myself late for whatever the day has in store for me. Let me introduce youb9c5838120bd9b22057256fb6642c6b8--quotes-for-pictures-picture-quotes to a game changer – daily motivational texts to start your day on the right foot!

A friend of mine told me about these texts; they are research-based tips on how to improve your daily life. For example, stress reduction, self-care, and time management are common themes that I read about in the mornings. You can set these texts for a specific time every day; I generally read them over my morning coffee!

93% of people who have used Shine texts say that they are more confident and have seen a noticeable improvement in their daily happiness.

To sign up, simply click here https://www.shinetext.com, and start receiving inspirational texts today!

What’s your favorite positive quote? Do you do anything in the morning or at night to start or end your day positively? We’d love to hear from you!

Productivity

October 12, 2017 in Be Positive

Does your mental illness ever keep you in bed all day? Does it make you feel like you can’t do anything? In my experience, bouts of depression have come hand in with elevated levels of un-productivity. And in turn, that makes me feel worse, because at the end of the day, I see checklist after checklist of things that I have not done, and remain unchecked.

The solution? Instead of creating checklists for things that you have to do, create checklists as you go, of all the little things that you actually have done. While it may not affect your actual levels of productivity, I have found that it drastically changes how I feel about it.Image result for checklist

For example, rather than having a list of all the household chores I have yet to do, I have a list of all the chores that I have completed, and I watch that list grow longer and feel more accomplished as I do more of them.

Checklists are my way of staying focused. I do the best I can to not let my mental illness interfere.

What do you use? We’d love to hear from you in the comments section below!