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Staying Positive

July 24, 2017 in Be Positive

Happiness consists in activity. It is a running stream, not a stagnant pool.
– John Mason Good

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Photo Credit: Enokson Flickr via Compfight cc

On Mondays we often feature blog posts about staying positive.  However, what does this really mean?  Does it really help?

According to Mental Health of America, “thinking negatively can drag down our moods, our actions and even our health.”  Their website also writes about the benefits of staying positive such as:

  • Individuals who were optimistic were less likely to die compared to those who were pessimistic
  • People who tracked their gratitude weekly were happier and experienced fewer physical complaints.

They also include 10 tools to help individuals feel stronger and more hopeful:

  1. Connect with others
  2. Stay positive
  3. Get physically active
  4. Help others
  5. Get enough sleep
  6. Create joy and satisfaction
  7. Eat well
  8. Take care of your spirit
  9. Deal better with hard times
  10. Get professional help if you need it

Want to read more about positivity and happiness? Try reading The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want.

What do you do to stay positive?  Does it help you to think this way?  

Add Up Your Blessings

July 17, 2017 in Be Positive

As you go through life, do not practice subtraction;  but instead add up your blessings, opportunities, possibilities.  In so doing you will be relaxed, outgoing, and successful.

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Photo Credit: Irudayam Flickr via Compfight cc

Share your positivity with us  What are you grateful for?  We’d love to hear from you! 

Think, Act, Grow

July 14, 2017 in LINKS

The U.S. Department of Health & Human Services has an Office of Adolescent Health (OAH).  OAH is “dedicated to improving the health and well-being of adolescents.”  One of the ways they’re trying to take action is through their Think, Act, Grow (TAG) initiative.  TAG is a national call to action to improve and prioritize adolescent health.

From US Department of Human Services

From US Department of Human Services

TAG has a lot of amazing and helpful links including:

TAG for Families – This list provides key resources for families to use with adolescents they know.

TAG for Teens  This list gives teens a lot of great tools to help them be the healthiest version of themselves.

TAG in Action – Read about the successful strategies used to promote the healthy development of adolescents throughout the entire country.

Tell us what you think! Do you think this is a useful website for you and your peers? Where do you go online to find information similar to this?   

Instagram’s newest safety tool

July 13, 2017 in Social Media Guide

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Photo Credit: vastateparksstaff Flickr via Compfight cc

Last year Instagram introduced a new feature that allows users to turn off comments on individual Instagram posts, as well as allow users to block posts with certain words.  Now the social media company has recently created two more tools to help keep Instagram “a safe place for self-expression.”  One of these is a tool that blocks offensive comments.  This comment filter will block certain offensive comments (such as harassing comments) on posts, as well as in live videos.  This comment filter will not block other non-offensive comments, and still allows you to report or delete comments.  Also, you can still turn off comments, if you wish.  The offensive comments are hidden from everyone except the person responsible who made the offensive comment.  You can reverse or modify these comment settings at any time.

Instagram Safety Feature

To use this comment filter:

  1. Go to your profile and tap  (iOS) or  (Android) in the top right
  2. Tap Comments (located under Settings)
  3. Tap next to Hide Inappropriate Comments to filter comments using a default list of keywords (or enter custom keywords separated by commas below Custom Keywords)
  4. Tap Done

The second tool is a spam filter, which was developed to wipe spam-like comments from posts and videos.

What do you think of Instagram’s newest added feature?  Have you ever used any of these features on your Instagram?  We’d love to hear!

Photos of an Anxiety Disorder

July 11, 2017 in Educate Yourself

We found this article called “12 Breathtaking Photos Show What It’s Really Like To Have General Anxiety Disorder” and we think it’s amazing that someone so beautifully created art around how an anxiety disorder feels.  From the article: “Trying to explain a mental illness to someone who’s never experienced it is like trying to explain color to a blind person,” said photographer Katie Crawford.  Crawford has battled an anxiety disorder since age 11, so she picked up her camera and developed a breathtaking series of self-portraits, titled “My Anxious Heart.”

KATIE CRAWFORD MY ANXIOUS HEART PHOTOS ANXIETY DISORDER ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED ON JULY 1, 2015, 8:00 AM

KATIE CRAWFORD MY ANXIOUS HEART PHOTOS ANXIETY DISORDER
ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED ON JULY 1, 2015, 8:00 AM

Did any of the images particularly stand out to you?  Did they help you understand anxiety disorders more? What does anxiety look like to you?  We’d love to hear from you!

Instant comfort! In a box!

July 10, 2017 in Be Positive

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Photo credit: Flikr via Gregorio Puga Balion

When you’re feeling blue, wouldn’t it be great to reach into your pocket and pull out a little comfort?  Well you’re in luck!  Try this little DIY “comfort box” craft.

What you’ll need:

A small empty cardboard box (like a match box or jewelry box)

Markers, paint, pens

Decorations (glitter, magazine clippings, little photos)

Scissors

A positive message

 

Directions

1.  Decorate the outside of your box with things that make you happy (glitter, magazine clippings, photos, drawings)

2.  Inside the box, write a positive message to yourself like “You’re worthy.” or “You can do this.” or “Everything will be okay in the end.  If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.”  If you prefer, you can use a favorite quote like “We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated” – Maya Angelou.  Also, try giving yourself some self-love with a message like “Today I want you to think about all that you are instead of all that you are not.”

3.  Put it in your pocket and take it out when you need a little boost

There are a bunch of these on Pinterest and Etsy for sale (and inspiration)!

Share your work with us!  What messages do you use to help get you through the day?

Therapist and Friend: Kati Morton

June 30, 2017 in LINKS

“A process, not perfection” -Kati Morton

Kati Morton is a licensed therapist that uses her YouTube channel to provide advice and support to subscribers.  Every week she posts new videos and answers questions about mental health.  Her videos are great resources to find correct information on mental illness.  Kati provides fun tips for improving mental health and working through every day challenges.

Did you check out her channel?  Did you have any favorite videos?  If so, which ones?  If you have any comments, please let us know!    

Also subscribe to our YouTube channel!    

The Accidental Bully: Has This Ever Happened To You?

June 29, 2017 in Social Media Guide

Have you ever heard of accidental bullying?  Accidental bullying is a term that was created by Sue Scheff.  It means when someone unintentionally (or not on purpose) hurts another person’s feelings.  To learn more about accidental bullying, read Sue’s article in HuffPost and watch the video below!

She thought it was silly and shared the joke with her friends.  But now it’s ruined a young man’s reputation.

Have you ever been an accidental bully? or accidentally bullied someone else?  

Summer Reading List

June 23, 2017 in LINKS

Summer is finally here, and for many this may mean months of sleeping late, hanging out with friends, vacationing, and continuous streaming of movies and television shows.  However, it can also mean finding a good book (or two) to read!  Plus, summer reading can also be beneficial!  It allows us to maintain structure and keep a pattern during the busy summer months.  Setting aside time to read is extremely important since keeping up with summer reading is needed and hugely beneficial for students.  For example, we would all expect our favorite athlete or musician to suffer if they didn’t practice for months!  Therefore, we have put together a list of suggested books to try reading this summer.  We encourage you to find the time to sit down with a good book and turn off all electronic devices.  Lastly, try looking into learning programs in your area.  Most public libraries, clubs or communities offer summer reading programs (or other educational activities) to students of all ages.

  1. I’ll Give You the Sun by Jandy Nelson
  2. It’s Kind of a Funny Story by Ned Vizzini
  3. The 6 Most Important Decisions You’ll Ever Make: A Guide for Teens by Sean Covey

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    Photo Credit: Florin Gorgan Flickr via Compfight cc

  4. The Healthy Coping Colouring Book and Journal: Creative Activities to Help Manage Stress, Anxiety and Other Big Feelings by Pooky Knightsmith
  5. The Girl Project by Kate Engelbrecht
  6. Be the One: Six True Stories of Teens Overcoming Hardship with Hope by Byron Pitt
  7. Wonder by RJ Palacio
  8. Start Where You Are: A Journal for Self-Exploration by Meera Lee Patel
  9. Depression: A Teen’s Guide to Survive and Thrive by Jacqueline Toner and Claire Freeland
  10. Fake Plastic Love by Kimberley Tait
  11. 52 Lists for Happiness: Weekly Journaling Inspiration for Positivity, Balance, and Joy by Moorea Seal
  12. Freaking Out: Real-life Stories About Anxiety by Polly Wells and Peter Mitchell
  13. My Life Undecided by Jessica Brody
  14. 101 Ways to Conquer Teen Anxiety: Simple Tips, Techniques and Strategies for Overcoming Anxiety, Worry and Panic Attacks by Thomas McDonagh and Patrick Hatcher
  15. Trouble in My Head: A Young Girl’s Fight with Depression by Mathilde Monaque
  16. Boy Meets Depression: Or Life Sucks and Then You Live by Kevin Breel
  17. YOU: The Owner’s Manual for Teens by Michael F. Roisen and Mehmet C. Oz
  18. All The Lives I Want: Essays About My Best Friends Who Happen To Be Famous Strangers by Alana Massey
  19. Startup by Doree Shafrir
  20. The Manifesto on How to be Interesting by Holly Bourne

For more book recommendations:

If you’re not keen on reading or plan on being in the car a lot this summer, try audiobooks (more recommendations here)!

Do you like to read during the summer?  Have you read any of the suggested books?  Do you have any book recommendations of your own?  We’d love to hear from you!

13 Reasons Why

June 21, 2017 in Educate Yourself

Trigger Warning: Discussion about Suicide

By now you’ve most likely heard about Netflix’s 13 Reasons Why (13RW). It is a very captivating show, but also raises questions about whether the creators did the right thing in the way they used a television show to talk about suicide and rape or sexual assault. The show is about a girl in high school (Hannah Baker) – who is bullied, sexually assaulted, and eventually commits suicide.  She leaves behind 13 tapes (or 13 reasons) as a sort of revenge to the people she thought wronged her and who were ultimately responsible for her decision to end her life. It is possible this show will shed light on some very difficult and important topics, but unfortunately, it also has the possibility to cause harm.

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Photo Credit: Portal Dylan Minnette Flickr via Compfight cc

Why might 13 Reasons Why be harmful?:

  • We know that if teens are familiar with a lot of details or witness a suicide, this can lead to “copycat” behavior – the scenes in 13RW are very graphic – and there is report in Peru that this has unfortunately happened to a young man.
  • Suicide is not a straight forward subject – TV shows can fantasize life – and in 13RW a teen might get the idea that they can get revenge on others through suicide – but this is not real life.
  • The graphic scenes in 13RW of sexual assault can be very upsetting to someone who has been assaulted themselves and they may be re-traumatized (when a person relives a trauma and experiences their reaction again).
  • In 13RW, Hannah makes a last-ditch effort to talk to a counselor, who is extremely unhelpful – however, we know that in real life, guidance counselors receive special training on what to do when someone talks about suicide. In all professions, some people are not very good at their job – but even in these cases, there is always someone to go to for help. See our crisis links for more information on who to contact.

While 13RW might help raise awareness about suicide and sexual assault, at SOVA we feel the risks of copycat suicide (and other risks) are too high. If you get the chance to watch the follow-up episode, 13 Reasons Why: Beyond the Reasons, it does a good job at addressing some of the concerns we mentioned above.

Also, help should not be hard for viewers to find.  Vulnerable adolescents and young adults may need additional support and resources after watching the show.  They are encouraged to reach out to any trusted adult such as a parent, counselor, teacher, or doctor.  There is also a list of adolescent health providers on the Society for Adolescent Health and Medicine’s website.  Lastly, crisis hotline numbers can be found by clicking here.

Have you watched the series? What are your thoughts? If you have any questions or comments about the subject of today’s blog post, please let us know!  We’d love to hear from you!