SOVA Blog

Body Talk

October 4, 2016 in Educate Yourself

 

SplitShire_IMG_4788

Photo credit: http://www.splitshire.com/

Often one of the hardest topics to bring up with an adult is the changes that are happening to your body. However, there are some things that simply shouldn’t be left to your imagination or Google to figure out. When changes are happening or concerns are arising, a trusted adult can help you sort through them.

Why should you talk to your parents or a supportive adult about your health?

Simply put: they’ve been there, done that. Every adult went through changes that confused them at some point, and they likely talked to an adult about them and remember how awkward it can be. Chances are they will be able to provide advice or information from their own experiences, or if not they can find trustworthy answers. Although the conversation can be uncomfortable, talking to someone who cares about your health can help guide you through your concerns.

If you feel like talking to a parent is completely out of the question, turn to another supportive adult. This could be a family friend or relative who you trust and has shown you they care about your well-being and want to help you, your teacher or other support person at school.

When should I talk to a doctor?

When changes first occur, it can be hard to know what is normal and what isn’t. The first step would be once again to reach out to a parent or trusted adult. They will likely know if something is normal or if you should speak to a doctor.

Doctors can also be wonderful resources, even if your question isn’t about a serious medical concern. They are experts on bodies and have heard it all. When talking to a doctor, remember that no question is a dumb question. Just as your parents, their primary concern is your health and safety.

Source: Planned Parenthood

Other Resources for Health Questions:

Our other post on asking questions about your health

Planned Parenthood

Sutter Health

Teen Health

If you have any good advice on talking to parents about health concerns, share them below. 

Watch What You Post

September 29, 2016 in Social Media Guide

Social media is the perfect way to show your friends what you have been up to. However, if you are not careful, posting certain things on social media can have horrible consequences:

 

He never would have thought that his tweets/Facebook pictures would be seen by employers, but now his job opportunity was ruined.

 

Thoughts? Share them with us!

True Friendship

September 28, 2016 in Educate Yourself

As we live our lives, people come in and out of our social interactions. Particularly in young adulthood, in settings such as school or extracurricular activities, we constantly meet people and create relationships.  However, sometimes it can be difficult to tell if someone is a true and genuine friend.  While some people may be around you consistently, such as someone in your class or dorm, not everyone can fulfill the role of a true friend.

5712512722_c73a90a196_o

photo credit: Pepe Pont through Flickr

Here are f signs that someone is a genuine friend to you.

1. They want you to accept yourself as you are.

A true friend will love you exactly as you are, and wants you to love yourself the same way. They are the people that will help to boost your self esteem when you are feeling down, and motivate you when you are afraid of taking on a challenge.

2. They are honest with you if you are wrong.

True friends are the ones that won’t hold back if they think you are wrong about a situation or if you need some guidance. If someone is too afraid to step in or lets you make a bad decision, they don’t have your best interest at heart.

3. They are entirely present. 

Being fully present is often difficult for people to do, but a true friend will give you their undivided attention when they are with you. They won’t ignore you or constantly stare at their phones, but instead will listen and respond attentively.

4. They listen to you.

Have you ever tried to talk to someone, only for them to turn everything you say around to be about them? This person is not a true friend. A genuine friend can hold off on their thoughts in order to focus on listening to you when you need them.

5. They give you support when you need it the most.

While true friends celebrate your successes, they also are capable of supporting you when you are faced with hardships. A true friend steps in more like a family member when you are at your lowest and does anything they can to help you feel loved.

11961206266_8d4712fb62_o

photo credit: Christophe Leung

6. They help you manage stress.

Stress is something that can easily get out of hand if you don’t actively try to manage it. True friends are the ones who will do whatever they can to help lower your stress levels, whether it be by helping you tackle a difficult project or just listening to you vent.

7. They keep you grounded.

Since true friends know you on a deep personal level, they will not let you get away from your true self. They will humble you by keeping you in check if they feel like you are acting like someone you are not.

8. They have your back.

True friends will not leave you to fend for yourself if you are in a tricky situation. They will step up to support you, if that means helping to stop another friend from making a poor decision or telling your parents about something difficult. This type of support is what shows you that you can trust someone.

9. They forgive. 

A true friend is not someone who will walk away from you the minute you do something wrong. While it is normal for close friends to have disagreements, a true friendship is one that remains strong even when conflict arises. A true friend will forgive you when you mess up, and admit to their own faults when they do.

10. They make your friendship a priority. 

True friendships often last many years. This means things like college, relationships, and other obstacles will come forward that could lead to spending less time with your friend. However, true friends will always make time to stay connected and involved in your life.

Sourced from: Huffington Post

 

Do you have any other ideas on what makes a true friend? Let us know below!

Beating the Social Media Addiction

September 15, 2016 in Social Media Guide

Addicted to social media? It may sound silly, but stop and think for a minute. How often do you check your social media accounts? Once an hour? Every half an hour? More?

We all seem to fall into a pattern of automatic checking and and posting on any one of the several existing social media outlets. These outlets have become such huge parts of our lives that it is easy to become wrapped up in them to the point of missing what is actually happening around us. Doing such can actually disconnect us from those we care about if we start to focus too much on our media worlds instead of our actual worlds.

4944690645_6f74413d5f_o

Photo Credit: theqspeaks via Compfight cc

 

So, if you think you might be qualified as a social media addict, try out these steps from Real Simple magazine to help you be more present.
1. Give Yourself Rules

Decide when you do and don’t want to be on social media. For example, choose to focus on other things whenever you’re outside or in bed.

2. Buy an Alarm Clock

While it might seem more convenient to use your phone, using it as an alarm practically begs you to stay on it for 15 minutes before getting up.

3. Sign Off for a Weekend

Seems scary right? You can do it! Giving yourself the space from those in your social media circles will free up mind space, allowing you to enjoy your surroundings.

4. Think Before You Check

Is the reason you are checking your phone boredom? If so, wait until you have a more concrete reason to do so, such as viewing a friend’s prom photos. Try something else that will boost your mood instead.

5. Consider Your Motives

Think before you post.  Why are you posting that selfie? Sometimes we post selfies because we want a pick up – someone to give us good feedback. But that doesn’t always happen – and it can just make us feel worse if we don’t get likes. Try sending it to someone you know cares about you – like a friend or supportive adult.

6. Respond Another Way

Did Facebook just tell you it’s your friend’s birthday? Skip the “Happy bday!” wall post and send them a text instead. Maybe they will just like your post – but maybe if you text them, you’ll set up a time to get together and really catch up on how they’re doing.

7. Cut it Out

Alerts and addicting apps can get in the way of you going on with your day. What are the apps you really like and need? Can you delete Words with Friends? Need to study? Disable your internet for a while so that you can focus without interruptions. Maybe even delete Facebook and Twitter altogether during finals week!

Adapted from Real Simple article by author: Julia Edelstein

Read more here! http://www.realsimple.com/work-life/technology/social-media-addiction

Did you try any of these and like the outcome? Let us know!

 

What You See Is What You See

September 8, 2016 in Social Media Guide

Do you ever go on social media and think: why is everyone else having an awesome day except me?!

Sometimes it is hard to scroll through posts of people taking great selfies or parties they were at without feeling left out – or like everyone is doing better than you are. The facts are that that is not true. What you see on social media is literally just what you see – something someone chose to post to represent themselves. Usually we don’t want to share negative things about ourselves because we want people to think good things about us – how we are fun, attractive, athletic, interesting. Take a look at our post, goodbye headclutcher, to see how young people with depression usually take the same looking happy pictures like everyone else does. You don’t know what is going on in someone’s life by what they post on social media.

You might realize this – but when you are in a bad mood, it is harder to think straight. That means you might have some “Debbie Downer” glasses on – where it is hard not to shine a negative light on everything you see. *WARNING* – when you are in a bad mood, it might NOT be a good time to look at happy pictures or good-looking selfies your friends have posted on Instagram. Try distracting yourself by taking a walk or doing something that you think is fun, talk to a friend, or write about it in a journal. Then when you are feeling better, you can enjoy your friend’s posts for what they really are – just a happy picture – without it making you feel worse.

Featured image: She’s my cherry pie by Lotus Carroll CC BY-NC-SA 2.0

Do you agree? What do you do when you are in a bad mood?

We invite YOU to Blog!

September 6, 2016 in Welcome

We are so excited to make a new announcement!

That is – we have gone through months of work so that we can invite you to be a SOVA Ambassador!

This means that you can help us truly share your story by helping us blog and by committing to commenting on a regular basis.

For more information go to the menu above that says Become a SOVA Ambassador!

We really look forward to your help growing our SOVA community!

Photo Credit: DimitraTzanos via Compfight cc

Photo Credit: DimitraTzanos via Compfight cc

National Alliance on Mental Illness

September 2, 2016 in LINKS

Something Tells Me...

Photo Credit: stewartbaird via Compfight cc

The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) is the United States’ largest grassroots mental health organization. NAMI is dedicated to building better lives for millions of American’s affected by mental illness through education, advocacy, listening, and awareness.

The NAMI website is an excellent resource for information about mental health, with a wide variety of news articles on mental illness, specific conditions, blogs, stories, and more!

Learn More: Learn about the warning signs of mental illness, mental health conditions, statistics, treatments, research, and public policies.

Find Support:  This section includes tips for reaching out to support services, advice on living with a mental health condition (such as navigating insurance, finding a therapist, romantic relationships, and more!) and support for:

  •  family members and caregivers,
  • teens and young adults,
  • veterans and active duty personnel,
  • LGBTQ,
  • and diverse communities.

There is also a HelpLine and programs that offer support, education, and training.

Get Involved:  This section shows various ways that you and your family can get involved with NAMI, whether that be through education, peer support, policy advocacy, or promoting public understanding.

NAMI News: Read about mental illness in the news and ways to take action.

NAMI Blogs:  A place to comment on post from people who have lived experience with mental illness and those with expertise in living with mental illness and mental health.

Personal Stories: Read personal stories from the NAMI community.

Find your local NAMI! What are they up to in your community? What is something valuable you learned from the NAMI website? Leave us a comment and let us know!  

Featured Photo Credit: Broo_am (Andy B) via Compfight cc

Are you bored?

August 26, 2016 in LINKS

Then Do Something!

Dosomething.org is a great website to show the world what you really care about.

It is a website where young people 13 to 25 can get involved in different activities for social change. Things like improving the environment or decreasing bullying. There are a lot of different activities even if you only have a little time. Better yet, there are plenty of chances to win scholarships.

Check it out and let us know what you thought below!

Featured image by anitacanita licensed by CC BY-NC-ND 2.0

Making Art Online

August 19, 2016 in LINKS

Sometimes it can be nice to distract yourself with something fun you can create!

Weavesilk is a site that allows you to make symmetrical art easily with only a mouse

  • once at the site, click ‘Draw something’
  • in the upper left hand corner, there is a blue dot. However over it – it should say ‘controls’
  • click on that – it will show 7 colors, and you can change the color you are working with by clicking on the color you want
  • you can also mix colors, by holding onto color with your mouse and dragging it to another dot of color
  • you can also play with the bar labeled ‘rotational symmetry’, and turn the ‘mirror across center’ and ‘spiral towards center’ on or off
  • draw by clicking in the center and moving your mouse
  • hit space to clear the page, and z to undo

Do you have any other sites you like to use when you need a distraction? List them below!

Posting Pictures on Social Media

August 18, 2016 in Social Media Guide

It can be challenging to decide what is okay to post on your personal page and what is not okay to post. It is important to remember that anyone can see the things you talk about or the pictures you upload. Keeping a clean social media site can be a great way to market yourself! Here are a few examples of what to post and what NOT to post.

What To Post:

Photo Credit: Stig Nygaard via Compfight cc

Photo Credit: Stig Nygaard via Compfight cc

Photo Credit: adwriter via Compfight cc

Photo Credit: adwriter via Compfight cc

  • Pictures of traveling, hanging out with friends, or family gatherings are nice to share on social media sites.

What Not To Post:

 

Photo Credit: natloans via Compfight cc

Photo Credit: natloans via Compfight cc

Photo Credit: nerissa's ring via Compfight cc

Photo Credit: nerissa’s ring via Compfight cc

  • Pictures of underage activities like drinking alcohol or smoking cigarettes can be very harmful. Also, pictures that display private information like credit card numbers, phone numbers, or residential addresses are a bad idea.

 

Can you think of anything else you see on social media that would be an example of what not to post? Let us know in the comments!