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Yik Yak: Let’s Talk about Depression, Anxiety, and Suicide

October 18, 2016 in Educate Yourself

College years are a big transition for everybody, so anxiety and depression are not uncommon among undergraduates. Yik Yak is an app that’s popular among college kids and it is well known for being used to anonymously spread gossip and hateful speech, as well as a means to meet up with other Yik Yak users for casual “hookups”. But recently, it has been across on college campuses as suicide intervention. People who post suicidal thoughts are met with extremely supportive responses from strangers who are reaching out to help the individual. According to this NPR article, “Yik Yak has become an unlikely safe space for people with suicidal thoughts — a place where, students say, responses are consistently helpful, not mean.”

Are you or someone you know struggling with depression, anxiety, and/or suicidal thoughts? Visit these websites to get helpful information and resources.

http://www.adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/suicide

https://www.mentalhelp.net/articles/suicide/

http://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/suicide-help-dealing-with-your-suicidal-thoughts-and-feelings.htm

http://www.calmclinic.com/anxiety/symptoms/suicidal-mindset

 

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Have you heard about apps being used for good? Let us know in the comments!

US Reachout

October 14, 2016 in LINKS

US ReachOut is a great website to learn more about a variety of issues like anxiety, stress, and managing relationships. There are a lot of great personal stories to read, and even a discussion board to get some of your burning questions answered or read what other people have asked.

What are some other websites you like when feeling stressed or anxious? Let us know in the comments! 

Antidepressants

October 12, 2016 in Educate Yourself

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Depression can be a very difficult thing to live with. Luckily, there ways get the help and support you need to get better. One option is taking antidepressant drugs, which are designed to treat depression symptoms by readjusting some chemical levels in the body.

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Finding a Mental Health Professional

October 11, 2016 in Educate Yourself

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Starting to look for a mental health professional may seem overwhelming at first.  Someone may refer or suggest you to someone, or your parents may set up an appointment after talking to another professional. It is important to know that you have rights in this process, and should be able to ask questions and feel comfortable with the professional who will be working with you.

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Generosity

October 10, 2016 in Be Positive

 

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Have you seen this inspirational video where a man does little things that give back to his community in a big way?

How do you feel when you are able to help someone? Tell us about a time you were able to be selfless and help someone else out in the comments!

Say it Out Loud

October 7, 2016 in LINKS

We at SOVA design our blogs to give you information on mental illness in manageable portions that you can grasp. What really counts, though, are people’s stories. Our hope is that SOVA lets you share your experiences with others, and that together we can form a network of peers who can provide support for each other as you negotiate your mental health challenges.

This video below—from NAMIOk2talk.org, and SAMHSA—shares the story of a few young adults about what it’s like to live with mental illness, and how they think of it not as a condition that defines them, but an experience that makes them stronger.

Say It Out Loud from Emily Cepla on Vimeo.

How did this video make you feel? In what ways did it make you want to change your life and/or your attitudes toward your experiences? Or how did it remind you of something you or someone else went through? Share in the comments!

Body Talk

October 4, 2016 in Educate Yourself

 

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Often one of the hardest topics to bring up with an adult is the changes that are happening to your body. However, there are some things that simply shouldn’t be left to your imagination or Google to figure out. When changes are happening or concerns are arising, a trusted adult can help you sort through them.

Why should you talk to your parents or a supportive adult about your health?

Simply put: they’ve been there, done that. Every adult went through changes that confused them at some point, and they likely talked to an adult about them and remember how awkward it can be. Chances are they will be able to provide advice or information from their own experiences, or if not they can find trustworthy answers. Although the conversation can be uncomfortable, talking to someone who cares about your health can help guide you through your concerns.

If you feel like talking to a parent is completely out of the question, turn to another supportive adult. This could be a family friend or relative who you trust and has shown you they care about your well-being and want to help you, your teacher or other support person at school.

When should I talk to a doctor?

When changes first occur, it can be hard to know what is normal and what isn’t. The first step would be once again to reach out to a parent or trusted adult. They will likely know if something is normal or if you should speak to a doctor.

Doctors can also be wonderful resources, even if your question isn’t about a serious medical concern. They are experts on bodies and have heard it all. When talking to a doctor, remember that no question is a dumb question. Just as your parents, their primary concern is your health and safety.

Source: Planned Parenthood

Other Resources for Health Questions:

Our other post on asking questions about your health

Planned Parenthood

Sutter Health

Teen Health

If you have any good advice on talking to parents about health concerns, share them below. 

Watch What You Post

September 29, 2016 in Social Media Guide

Social media is the perfect way to show your friends what you have been up to. However, if you are not careful, posting certain things on social media can have horrible consequences:

 

He never would have thought that his tweets/Facebook pictures would be seen by employers, but now his job opportunity was ruined.

 

Thoughts? Share them with us!

True Friendship

September 28, 2016 in Educate Yourself

As we live our lives, people come in and out of our social interactions. Particularly in young adulthood, in settings such as school or extracurricular activities, we constantly meet people and create relationships.  However, sometimes it can be difficult to tell if someone is a true and genuine friend.  While some people may be around you consistently, such as someone in your class or dorm, not everyone can fulfill the role of a true friend.

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Here are f signs that someone is a genuine friend to you.

1. They want you to accept yourself as you are.

A true friend will love you exactly as you are, and wants you to love yourself the same way. They are the people that will help to boost your self esteem when you are feeling down, and motivate you when you are afraid of taking on a challenge.

2. They are honest with you if you are wrong.

True friends are the ones that won’t hold back if they think you are wrong about a situation or if you need some guidance. If someone is too afraid to step in or lets you make a bad decision, they don’t have your best interest at heart.

3. They are entirely present. 

Being fully present is often difficult for people to do, but a true friend will give you their undivided attention when they are with you. They won’t ignore you or constantly stare at their phones, but instead will listen and respond attentively.

4. They listen to you.

Have you ever tried to talk to someone, only for them to turn everything you say around to be about them? This person is not a true friend. A genuine friend can hold off on their thoughts in order to focus on listening to you when you need them.

5. They give you support when you need it the most.

While true friends celebrate your successes, they also are capable of supporting you when you are faced with hardships. A true friend steps in more like a family member when you are at your lowest and does anything they can to help you feel loved.

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6. They help you manage stress.

Stress is something that can easily get out of hand if you don’t actively try to manage it. True friends are the ones who will do whatever they can to help lower your stress levels, whether it be by helping you tackle a difficult project or just listening to you vent.

7. They keep you grounded.

Since true friends know you on a deep personal level, they will not let you get away from your true self. They will humble you by keeping you in check if they feel like you are acting like someone you are not.

8. They have your back.

True friends will not leave you to fend for yourself if you are in a tricky situation. They will step up to support you, if that means helping to stop another friend from making a poor decision or telling your parents about something difficult. This type of support is what shows you that you can trust someone.

9. They forgive. 

A true friend is not someone who will walk away from you the minute you do something wrong. While it is normal for close friends to have disagreements, a true friendship is one that remains strong even when conflict arises. A true friend will forgive you when you mess up, and admit to their own faults when they do.

10. They make your friendship a priority. 

True friendships often last many years. This means things like college, relationships, and other obstacles will come forward that could lead to spending less time with your friend. However, true friends will always make time to stay connected and involved in your life.

Sourced from: Huffington Post

 

Do you have any other ideas on what makes a true friend? Let us know below!

Beating the Social Media Addiction

September 15, 2016 in Social Media Guide

Addicted to social media? It may sound silly, but stop and think for a minute. How often do you check your social media accounts? Once an hour? Every half an hour? More?

We all seem to fall into a pattern of automatic checking and and posting on any one of the several existing social media outlets. These outlets have become such huge parts of our lives that it is easy to become wrapped up in them to the point of missing what is actually happening around us. Doing such can actually disconnect us from those we care about if we start to focus too much on our media worlds instead of our actual worlds.

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So, if you think you might be qualified as a social media addict, try out these steps from Real Simple magazine to help you be more present.
1. Give Yourself Rules

Decide when you do and don’t want to be on social media. For example, choose to focus on other things whenever you’re outside or in bed.

2. Buy an Alarm Clock

While it might seem more convenient to use your phone, using it as an alarm practically begs you to stay on it for 15 minutes before getting up.

3. Sign Off for a Weekend

Seems scary right? You can do it! Giving yourself the space from those in your social media circles will free up mind space, allowing you to enjoy your surroundings.

4. Think Before You Check

Is the reason you are checking your phone boredom? If so, wait until you have a more concrete reason to do so, such as viewing a friend’s prom photos. Try something else that will boost your mood instead.

5. Consider Your Motives

Think before you post.  Why are you posting that selfie? Sometimes we post selfies because we want a pick up – someone to give us good feedback. But that doesn’t always happen – and it can just make us feel worse if we don’t get likes. Try sending it to someone you know cares about you – like a friend or supportive adult.

6. Respond Another Way

Did Facebook just tell you it’s your friend’s birthday? Skip the “Happy bday!” wall post and send them a text instead. Maybe they will just like your post – but maybe if you text them, you’ll set up a time to get together and really catch up on how they’re doing.

7. Cut it Out

Alerts and addicting apps can get in the way of you going on with your day. What are the apps you really like and need? Can you delete Words with Friends? Need to study? Disable your internet for a while so that you can focus without interruptions. Maybe even delete Facebook and Twitter altogether during finals week!

Adapted from Real Simple article by author: Julia Edelstein

Read more here! http://www.realsimple.com/work-life/technology/social-media-addiction

Did you try any of these and like the outcome? Let us know!