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Do you have any questions or need advice about how to discuss mental health in a romantic relationship that you’re in? Is your relationship affecting your mental health? What anxieties do you have when it comes to things like dating or being in a relationship? What conversations do you want to have with your partner, but are afraid to have?
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Does Your Mental Health Status Affect Your Relationships?
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Romantic relationships are something I struggle with a lot because my anxiety ALWAYS rears its ugly head. I hate putting too much pressure on someone I am casually seeing, but it causes me so much anxiety not knowing if they are interested in a long-term relationship. I find it is even worse if someone I am seeing also has anxiety because it seems like we are just a bundle of nerves. Does anyone have advice on how to alleviate my anxiety about the unknown, but not coming off like I am pressuring the person I am seeing to fully commit?
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That’s a great question, and you’re definitely not alone in this feeling. Becoming involved in a romantic relationship opens us up to being more vulnerable with both our significant others and ourselves, so its natural for feelings of anxiety to fly around. The best advice I can give is: stay secure in yourself! Continue to perform your personal best in work/school/extracurricular activities and retain a source of independence outside the relationship, that way you feel more secure in your daily life and can bring this feeling to the table in your relationship.
I also always recommend talking to your partner — in a healthy and inviting way — whenever you have feelings of anxiety, mistrust, doubt, etc. surrounding the relationship. Start the conversation by letting your partner know you’re feeling a certain way, and that you’d like to talk through your feelings and come to a conclusion together rather than dealing with them yourself. Instead of outright saying something like, “you’re making me mistrust you,” “you’re giving me doubts” — frame it in a more inviting way by saying something like “I’m starting to feel distrustful of you because of _____.” Walk them through your feelings and frame the conversation in a way where it can be a two-way street, and I assure you both you and your partner will feel better after talking things through.
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