Whether it is a breakup with a friend or a romantic partner, everyone can agree that breakups are the worst. I have had a difficult year in which I have experienced both a friend breakup and a romantic one, but I have learned some things along the way that I can share with others to hopefully help them, too.
- Reach out to new people.
This has been the most helpful new tip to me. My two breakups happened close together, and I felt like I lost the two people closest to me and did not know where to start again. It’s not easy by any means to start talking to new people, but it really does help. I found myself asking people in my classes if they wanted to study, or inviting a friend of a friend that I once met a while ago out to coffee.
Taking that first step to initiate a possible friendship is the most difficult one, but once you are out and meeting new people it becomes a lot easier. Also, you are less likely to harp on your breakup if you are focusing on a new friendship.
- Reach out to old friends and family.
It will be much easier to open up to friends and family who are already in your life because they know well both you and the situation you’re in. I have found that even if I am hesitant to call a friend or family member when I need to talk, I have never regretted it afterwards. If you’re up front and clearly say that you need to talk about things or need help, your friends and family will be more likely to step in to try and make you feel better.
- Get outside!
It can be tempting to stay in bed and not interact with anyone during this time, but it helps immensely to get outside. Even if it is a short walk each day, you will feel better because you made it outside, and that itself is an accomplishment during this time.
- Take up new activities or continue old passions.
Finally, find yourself again. “Finding yourself” sounds cliché, but it is completely true. Sometimes when you are caught up in a relationship, you can put parts of yourself aside, especially when it comes to creative projects or things that you love. This is a step I am still working on each day, but I know with time, I’ll be able to dive into things I love and find new ones along the way.
Do you have any tips for going through a breakup? What strategies have helped you in these difficult situations? Share below!