A shoulder to lean on
If you really needed help, who could you count on? You might think first of a friend your own age, and while they may be good at listening and empathizing with you, they might not know what kind of advice to give you. Not because they don’t want to help, but they just haven’t had enough experience. Sometimes going to a supportive adult can help a lot. With time, you get experience, and experience helps you to learn what things work well – and what things do not. A supportive adult can be your parent, relative, teacher, priest, therapist, nurse, doctor. But how do you know they are someone you can depend on?
- Does this person care about me? do they want me to succeed?
- Are they someone who I consider a role model? someone I wouldn’t mind being like when I get older?
- Have they been kind to me in the past?
- Do they listen to what I have to say?
- Do they respect me and my decisions?
These questions might help you figure it out. If you don’t have a supportive adult, spend some time sharing that with a teacher or healthcare provider who works with young people. These adults spend a lot of time caring for and giving advice to young people and are often willing to listen and lend a helping hand.
How has a supportive adult helped you in the past? Are there any questions you would add to our list?