Recently my roommate moved. After living in the same apartment together for about a year, I am alone. The apartment is now quiet and I have had to adjust. I used to do everything with my roommate. We would cook dinners together, go shopping together, and watch tv on the couch at the end of the night. Now that I am alone in a city where I don’t know many people, I am relying on myself more. I am a social person and have noticed that I feel pretty lonely since they have left. I have tried to get outside and keep myself occupied but it just feels different.
But I have been using this time to work on myself. I am going to the gym, eating healthier, and trying to get good rest. I have made a pledge to consistently read a few pages of a book and pick up a new hobby. I want to be a person that is okay with doing things alone and being comfortable by myself. I have had really bad anxiety in the past about doing things on my own but recently I went to eat by myself and even saw a movie by myself. I am learning to enjoy my time alone and work on myself as an individual. This may be one of my most important learning opportunities and I am going to embrace it.
Have you ever had to adjust to being more alone than you’re used to? Or, have you ever had to adjust to being more social than normal? In such situations, how can you reframe your thinking to be more positive and growth oriented?