“I need help.” – A Guide

You’ve done the hardest part. You’ve identified that you need help. But how do you even begin to ask for help or get your needs met? 

1. Be overwhelmed: It’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay not to feel 100%. Like this article says, “you just did the hardest part,” so there is no expectation to feel okay in any capacity. Take this time to laugh, cry, and feel all the emotions. You acknowledged, and that is the most critical step. 
2. Identify a safe person: Mental health is a beast that should not be dealt with alone. Find one safe person that you would be able to (1) be honest with, (2) see frequently, and (3) share some of your concerns with. This person may be a coach, mentor, teacher, parent, sibling 18 years or older, boss, or another trusted adult. 
3. Ask questions: What could you benefit from? Are you looking for a professional to talk to? Are you looking to get on medication? Are you looking to get into a support group? If you don’t know right away, that’s okay. These are all questions to think about as you move into the next step.
4. Do research: What resources are available to you? Does your school have a psychologist or a social worker? Does your school have a dedicated program for students with mental health issues? Many communities offer free or low-cost mental health services to their residents. Use Google, your school, and community for help getting access to things. 
5. Reach Out: If you don’t think you’re able to say that you need help right away, you don’t have to. Initiate the conversation by using phrases like “I’m struggling”, “I think I want to see a therapist,” or “I’m dealing with (blank).” Saying ‘I need help’ is a vulnerable statement, and it’s not the only way to ask for help. Even without that phrase, your trusted adult should be able to understand the message and provide support from there.
   1. *Remember, even after you reach out to a trusted adult, continue to ask questions like “Is this treatment fitting my needs?” and “Do I need to research again?” to make sure you are adequately treating your symptoms. If not, reevaluate from step 1 and try again 

You did it! You were able to identify that you had a mental health issue and reach out. We’re proud of you for taking the necessary steps for your mental health. We wish you all luck on this journey!