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by lilly

Social Media and Its Unhealthy Daily Influence

December 6, 2018 in Social Media Guide

social-1834016_1920 social-1834013_1920 social-1834010_1920Social media is so common nowadays that almost anyone you talk to who has access to a phone or computer has an account of some sort. Social media is not just Instagram, Twitter, and Snapchat, however, as it takes many forms. For example, email could be considered social media. Google+, LinkedIn, and any other form of an online communication hub is considered  to be social media. Technology has advanced enough to the point of no return. Gone are the days of physical mail and traditional phone calls, as our fast-moving society has fully adapted to the ease and convenience of internet use.

In retrospect, that all sounds great. Social media has made life considerably easier for many individuals and professions. However, it has also made life arguably worse for those same people. Quick and easy methods of communication are great when you’re in a bind, but it has also made face-to-face communication virtually extinct in some cases. Oral communication skills are imperative to living confidently and successfully, no matter what profession you are in. Social media takes away that necessary face-to-face contact, and significantly impedes on individuals’ social lives.

charles-deluvio-693693-unsplashIn addition to the decrease in physical human interaction, social media can trigger feelings of longing and jealousy. While most online sharing platforms are meant to be a communal space to share life experiences, people often find themselves longing for what others have. It often becomes a game of who has more to brag about. Instead of being content with your own life, it is easy to find yourself yearning for the life of another.

Humans are social creatures by nature, and human interaction is imperative for the mental well-being of anyone. But what if an individual with social anxiety interacts mostly online? Social media can be good…in moderation. I personally love to see what my friends are up to when I’m unable to see them for extended periods of time. However, when I start to notice it take over my life for a while, or hinder my social life, I made a concerted effort to pull myself away from the screen and find something decidedly more meaningful to do. For example, recently I have been flooded with stress because of my impending graduation. I often find myself flocking to social media for relaxation and comfort, in a strange way. So, to combat that, I have been pushing myself to read more or spending more time with my family when I am stressed. Pulling myself away from a platform that stresses me out even more in the long run has significantly improved my coping abilities, and subsequent happiness.

As mentioned, social media can be good in moderation. But if you find yourself needing time away from it, please take that step. Figure out what is best for your mental wellbeing and act on it. Social media is temporary, as is the joy it can bring. I challenge you to go out of your comfort zone and find joy in something else. No matter what the season, I can always find joy in nature. Find your happiness.


When do you consider yourself spending too much time on social media? Do you use other forms besides ones like Snapchat or Instagram? Have you ever made an effort to change your social media habits?

by lilly

It’s Always Time to be Thankful

November 5, 2018 in Be Positive

With fall in full bloom and Thanksgiving on the way, now is the perfect time to start reflecting on what it is that you are thankful for every day. Although it is always the perfect time to be thankful, sometimes it is hard to remember the positives in your life during stressful times. It was a challenge for me for quite some time to find the good in every bad scenario I was thrown. But I guarantee there is almost always something good behind everything bad, whether that be a lesson or a loving, helping hand guiding you through whatever struggle you are dealing with that you can learn to cherish. pencils-806604_1280

Here lies the perfect opportunity to challenge yourself, though. And an even better way to take your mind off of the negative feelings and thoughts that may intrude your mind. Whenever something bad happens, or maybe even a small inconvenience occurs, immediately cease analyzing the situation negatively and begin to evaluate what it is about it that could be construed as a positive. Ask yourself any of the following questions: question-mark-2123967_640

  • What lesson, if any, could be learned from this?
  • Will this make me a stronger person?
  • Do I have loved ones supporting and helping me through it?
  • Will I be able to get through this again, were it to happen again?

Self-efficacy is perhaps one of the strongest motivators and improvements to self-esteem. Self-efficacy is one’s belief about their ability to overcome certain situations and succeed in the future. It helps individuals to push themselves through tough situations in order to come out stronger, and more self-assured than before.

Flooding negative thoughts with positive ones may seem arduous at first, but with enough practice, it will allow for a much healthier and positive learning process to arise out of hardship. Another challenge I present you, should you desire to accept it, is to reflect on at least one thing you are thankful for, for each day of November leading up to (and ideally following) Thanksgiving. I personally suggest keeping a journal and recording each day’s reflection so that you may look back on it and recall what it is/was that you were thankful for that given day to provide some inspiration or additional clarity whenever needed. I wish you the warmest and happiest holiday season this year and hope you can gain some insight as to what it is you are thankful for every day of the year.


How do you find ways to stay positive? Do you think there are ways to find positives in situations? What are you thankful for?